This is Gretchen's blog on her website about Tamara and the "lost footage episode" It's a long read but Gretchen explains the backstory of her and Tamara's feud.


The REAL story about Gretchen & Tamra!

September 15th, 2009
June 15th, 2009
This was the blog that was up at bravo.com in response to Tamra’s blog and her false accusations on the “lost footage” episode
I had already written my blog yesterday regarding this “lost episode” and didn’t get to send it in because I was at Slade’s son’s graduation. On my way home I received tons of calls and e-mails regarding Tamra’s blog on Bravotv.com and the “excuses” she used for her inappropriate actions on the reunion show. So of course, I read what she wrote and now feel forced to address the lies she continues to spin to the press and the public. Sorry in advance for this being long winded, but I have been QUIET for way too long, and it’s about time the truth be told as Tamra so eloquently pointed out.
First of all let me state this very clearly, Tamra changes her story according to how it best suites her in that moment. I have honestly never met anyone so contradictory in my life (or someone that just plan lies to your face)
Let’s address some of Tamra’s “stories” as I like to call them. She states that I asked her and Simon to have a threesome the night of the dinner party in the very late hours of that dinner, but contradictory to that claim, she sent me several texts after seeing that footage, stating that she was appalled at what she said about getting me “naked wasted” and that she was so drunk she had no idea she said those things at all. So if that was the case, then how convenient for her now, all of a sudden to have a clear mind that night and remember that she supposedly heard me say I wanted to have a threesome? Maybe that’s a fantasy of hers, but it surly is not mine. I would never say something like that, as a matter of fact Tamra is the one who spends her time on national TV talking about having crazy sex and shopping at sex shops, and having to keep things better then the same old peanut butter and jelly sandwich. She said the same thing she text me on the Bonnie Hunt show “I had no idea that I even said, let’s get Gretchen Naked wasted, we were all so drunk” but again now the story is she somehow clearly remembers me saying that I wanted to have a threesome that night. How miraculous that she all of a sudden pops out of her drunken state and could remember what was said and to boot at the late part of the night (aren’t you normally drunker later?) In her own blog about that dinner party she states that Simon stayed up with me making some food while she was hugging a toilet. So when did I say this exactly again? If you ask me she wasn’t getting any response from me during the reunion show about her accusations so she needed to reach for the stars on something else hoping it might stick. (I.e. I picked up on Don, Ryan, and then the threesome comment) I mean seriously what is it? Pick one already. This is when you see me drop my mouth in amazement and say “you seriously have some balls”. Tamra was reaching even for her.
Story #2: About “Jay and I” involving Tamra in a love triangle. First let me be clear again there was no love triangle to involve Tamra in, second Jay, NOT me involved Tamra in this. I said it on the reunion show and I say it again now, “I cannot control what someone else does”. Jay was someone that I thought was a friend and it turned out he wanted something much more with me, when he couldn’t have that it caused him to do things that were not normal. Jay calling Tamra in the middle of the night was because he was drunk and angry. He wanted to hurt me and therefore he tried to create conflict by calling Tamra and claiming he was my boyfriend. Tamra took the bait, hook line and sinker and he got exactly what he wanted. The next morning when Tamra and I talked about it, I apologized to her that he had called and said I was not sure how he had her number but maybe he had gotten into my computer or my phone. Unfortunately at the time Jay was someone I considered to be a very dear friend, and he was someone that I believed had my best interest at heart. He would come to the house offering to take out the trash, or change light bulbs, or help around the house since Jeff was no longer around to do those things. Unbeknown to me he was going through my things, stealing pictures, and had access to my computer during those times . Now I know he was planning on hurting me with those things at some point if he couldn’t have the relationship he wanted. I later heard that he was heard bragging around town he would figure out a way to make money off me. After Jay made the phone call to Tamra that night I felt horrible and called her in the morning saying how sorry I was that he called her that night and that he was acting like a stalker, because his actions were causing me to feel that way. I didn’t speak to him for weeks until he sent a “I’m sorry” e-mail. He stated he was drunk and was wrong for doing that. Tamra and I correlated over e-mail, she said she understood and was sorry I was dealing with that because she has dealt with some of the same issues with guys from her past before, and I believed we had put it behind us. Obviously that was not the case. And just for the record Tamra had been on camera saying crap about me long before this “phone call” to her was made. For her to blame her actions towards me on this guy calling, I believe was just a cop out. And as Lynne so brilliantly said during the “lost footage”, “So what’s your reason Tamra for being so mean to me” proves my point even more.

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