How do African and Afro-Caribbean men feel about African-American women? If there are any men that fit this description on LSA please share your thoughts about AA women. Would you marry one? Do you take AA women seriously? There are a couple of such men that are interested in me but I don't want to get hurt. We are all educated professionals, btw.

Have any of the women on LSA been in a relationship with either an African or Afro-Caribbean male? Please be candid in sharing your experiences.

Some do some don't...All depends on the person.

Well, being Afro-Trinidadian...i just asked my dad and he said "Self Possessed" + "Self Absorbed" *shrugs*

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Some do, some don't. My dad loves African American women, but my uncle says that they are too wild for him, too ghetto, or stupid. It really depends on the person.

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Im married to a Nigerian man and im an African-American women. My husband and i dated for 2 years while in college and have been married for almost a year. Honestly, he is the sweetest, most caring guy i have ever met . He really respects me and i can be myself and have been myself since day one of meeting him. Im not gonna lie, when we first started kicking it...there were some people that embraced the fact that he was from Africa, but then again there were others that stereotyped him just because he was african. If i would have used my fears based off of what everyone else said I would have missed out on some of the best years of my life. The people that stereotyped my hubby back then got to know him and they are now open-minded and love him to death.

Based off of my experience, I tell u to go for it. I mean regardless if a man is African, African-American, Caucasion, Hispanic, etc....there is always a chance of them hurting you, so dont base his race on him hurting you. If u r interested in the African men that are interested in you then go for it, if not then dont go for it. What r ur feelings about it?

I'm sorry he feels that way. Not all AA women are self-absorbed. Some of us are very humble either from experience or upbringing.

Sometimes some people have to focus on pursuing their ambitions. But we must learn to respect, love, and be there for the peope in our lives. It's all about balance. I do know that some Afro-Trinidadian males are dominant and trust me that's they way it should be that is why I love them. They just need to learn to be fair and find a ground of compromise where everyone can be happy and at peace.

My feelings are that I would love to marry one moreso leaning towards the Afro-Caribbean. I'm not concerned with how society would accept him. My concern is how the two of us would mesh together. I know that culturally we have many differences but I am willing to negotiate everything accept for my Christianity. My concerns are fidelity, respect, and family values. Loyalty is also very important. I wonder if I would have a part time husband, one who is here in America with me most of the time but is flying back to his country for whatever reason everytime the wind blows, so to speak.

There is also this Nigerian-American guy that is interested in me and I have been knowing him for years as well. He seems to be a bit overbearing. Yet, he is a hard worker. His physique and complexion makes me weak. LOL!!! But like with the other guy, I don't know what to expect.

I know a female who is married to an Afro-Caribbean and he makes submissive demands of her. I believe in gender roles but how you talk to someone or tell them what you expect of them is very important. Respect is key.

My eduated friend dated an Afro Carrbean, similarly sexy and educated. But he got her goods for free (this is even after months of nothing) and got engaged to a girl from his island who he hadn't had sex with.

Keep in mind that these men are many times used to more traditional women, so putting out after x number of dates isn't going to cut it. If you're true LADY you should be fine.

My boyfriend haitian american, but he is like the first generation to be on American soil. So that's still pretty close. Um, he doesnt' have anything bad to say about AA women. But He is soo good to me.. I can't even tell you how good to me he is..I mean, i'm thinking about leaving AA men alone just to mess with haitians. I mean I know that you have bad men in every ethnicity, but this dude treats me like a queen. I'm soo sprung.lol But he's sweet. Just make sure you find someone that has the same values as you. My bf is marriage material. like foreal. He speaks Haitian Creole to me sometimes. I'm very interested in his culture. I've never dated outside my nationality, but this is real cool..real cool..I love him!

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Most of the men in my family only date and marry Caribbean or 1st generation Americans. They never mentioned (well at least around me) anything negative about American women.

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I am african (female) and I will tell you, blacks from across the seas have been marrying each other since forever. If you get a good man(regardless of race) who is not influenced by his parents, then good for you. Some african men wont even marry an african woman from a different tribe, or one who is too westernized etc...

In Africa in general, AA women are seen as beautiful, respectable black women, when they are like actresses, singers, businesswomen etc...
But the hip hop dancers of late are only lusted after and not respected(same with jamaican dancehall women).

This is my observation
And it seems there are more AA women with african men and vice versa...than AA men and african women ('cept my future AA boo lol).

Yes, I know a few Haitian-Americans. The males are "sweet" as you say and fun to be around. But, I don't want one of them. Their families incorporate voodoo into their lifestyles/religion. I tried to look the other way but I found the nearest exit and made a run for it. I can't compromise my Christianity or my well being. I hope that you've found one whose family isn't into black magic but trust me that is Extremely Rare. You will find out sooner or later. Take care!

I agree with above posters..it depends on the person himself. Get to know him, ask questions about his culture, inform him about your culture, get to know what is important to him, tell him what is important to you, get to know what he does not go for in a relationship, tell him what you do not want in a relationship. Either he can take it or leave it. Also dont forget to use your God given woman's intuition...it wont steer you wrong!!

As for me and my hubby, when we were dating...I asked him lots of questions (I naturally ask lots of questions). Come to find out we had a lot in common, and few differences. It was fun learning about his culture...and I also opened him up more to the American culture. I still let him know (as I did the AA guys that I dated b4 him) that I am a fun-loving educated chic who does not deserve anything less than what my father has told me I deserved...he respected that...and we r doing fine to this day!! All relationships have problems so dont worry...sometimes stepping outside of the box can be the best decision. Good Luck!!!

Come to think of it...are there any african men on LSA?