Crushes are the story of my lovelife...

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Any more advice?

ive been in a relationship for 4 yrs and have a small crush on a dude in one of my classes. actually its not really a "crush"...just an attraction or lust. but knowing im sexually attracted to him i would never search for his number or try to go out of my way to talk to him. i think fantasies are normal for people in long term relationships to have. we're human and we're almost genetically engineered to want multiple partners..or have options.

but acting upon them is a different story. i think you really need to reevaluate your relationship. i would feel weird knowing my boyfriend was desperately trying to text a girl he found sexually attractive or had a crush on..im sure he would feel the same if it were vice versa. there's times where i feel my relationship is too comfortable or getting stale (4 yrs is longer than most ppl think lol..feels like 20) but i always communicate with my boyfriend about it as he does me. i think you said you dont want to break up with your current boyfriend , then communicate with him...tell him in a nice way you want to spice things up or want to bring more of a spark into the relationship. chances are he probably feels the same.

and stop trying to pursue other men you find attractive. that is wrong. like i said fantasies are one thing, but it seems to me you have the intent to cheat. good luck.

lol at all these married women in here with crushes. What would your husband say?