This was posted on Gyant's blog. I don't care for Tameka myself but damn they are giving her too much attention now....

Too long to read for Mek mek... someone bold the roastings

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Chilli is darkskinned? Didn't know that but even if assuming she is darkskinned, considering that 1) She is mixed
2) Has "good" hair
3) Is skinny

then its unfair to categorize her & Tameka in the same class because we all know that there are IGNORANT pple who think reasons 1) & 2) & 3) stated above make Chilli "better" or rather she is your typical chic to date a rapper/rockstar etc.

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Chilli is dark skinned but you can't compare her and Tameka.

A synopsis:

Tameka is saying no one liked her because she's dark-skinned. The blogger calls bullshit and posts the following facts:

-Messing with Ursh while she was still legally married.
-Behind Ursh's firing of his momager.
-Going to Brazil for plastic surgery and damn near dying because of it.
-Behind so many blogs and bloggers getting shut down because they said negative things about her.

Blogger then compares her to Chili, saying Chili wasn't light-skinned and that she still gets love from everyone.

Ends the rant by telling Tameka to go back to obscurity because she wasn't cut out to be a public figure if she cares about how people look at her.

What Tameka fails to realize is that its not because she's dark skinned that people dislike her. It's because she's a bitch.

Damn, yall really don't like this broad huh?

Manteka really is using the 'darkskinned' thing as a crutch though. Last I remember Brandy and Foxy brown and Monica weren't all that light yet they all had sex symbol rites at one point.

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Why can't these stupid jealous ignorant bitches leave this woman alone? The lady not to long ago had a baby, almost died and now her husband is divorcing her. What more will satisfy these silly sluts? Usher married Tameka.........fuck a Chilli with her can't keep a man ass. Leave this woman the fuck alone and let her deal with what she is going through.

Got damn!!!

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I can't believe Tameka fixed her mouth to say that. This woman is entertaining.

This is what Tameka blogged about. I almost posted this yesterday, but I knew she was going to be blasted. Here it is anyway so you can have the whole picture.

She's Pretty For A Dark-Skinned Girl...

Posted by: Tameka J. Raymond 8/11/2009 | 13,883 Views Source: globalgrind.com
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Hey Global Grind Readers. I hope you enjoy this piece that I wrote surrounding Black on Black hate in our community. This piece took me over a month to write because I didn't want to offend anyone that I'm sure two to four edits ago I probably would have. I'm a huge fan of our First Lady, Alek Wek, Oprah Winfrey and others that I didn't mention, they are all beautiful strong black women. I realize that this topic is an issue in many other cultures, but I chose to speak on my own personal experience. Please note that the purpose of writing a blog piece is that it's personal to the writer. This is merely MY perspective on things. It is not meant to be a lesson in history, I never professed to be a literary genius. However, I did okay in my Psych and English classes :-) I apologize in advance for those who don't agree. Love rules.
P.S. I am so blessed to have the ability to articulate these words because due to my experience in Brazil it was thought and also a huge probability that I would not be able to. God is good.


I am a dark-skinned African American woman with features that reflect my ancestry. Debates regarding Light vs. Dark and other biases have plagued our race for years and continues to impact millions of Black women. The deeply rooted intra-racial contempt that lies beneath this inane "compliment" is the reason I've chosen to spark dialogue surrounding the topic of self-hatred in our culture. It saturates every aspect of our lives, dominating the perspectives of our generation as a whole. We culturally are so influential, at times inadvertently, that we affect all with the words we utter and the images we portray. It lends to the theory of systemic racism. I'm authoring this piece because I'm miffed by this reality and would like to share my views on these subjects.

It is a fact that many African-Americans are often mixed with an array of other ethnicities (as am I), which allows for the spectrum of our features to be as distinctive and special as we are diverse. Why is it felt that the more diluted our traditionally African features become the more aesthetically acceptable we are considered? It was said in the 1960s and the sentiment seems to be forgotten, "Black is Beautiful." Wow, nearly 50 years later and is that now only meant for a specific shade? Nonetheless, I believe the beauty of our people and splendor of every individual is reflected in our varying features and hues.

Often dark-skinned women are considered mean, domineering and standoffish and it was these very labels that followed Michelle Obama during the campaign for her husband's presidency and which she has had to work tirelessly to combat. I was appalled when I heard a Black woman refer to Michelle Obama as unattractive. The conversation turned into why President Obama picked her as his mate. No one in the witch-hunt made reference to the possibility that Michelle Obama was smart, funny, caring, a good person, highly accomplished or brilliant. Nor did they mention that she previously was President Obama's supervisor. If she were fair skinned, petite with long straight or wavy hair, would the same opinions be linked to her? I seriously doubt it. It is believed that for the dark skinned, dreams are less obtainable.

In fact, I have read similar comments about myself that I am "dark, aggressive, bossy and bitchy." It has been stated that my husband should have been with a "younger, more beautiful" woman. Astoundingly, the majority of the remarks come from African-American women and are mimicked by others. Sadly enough, I don't know nor have I met 99% of those making these assertions. Funny, how we can judge another without having personally seen, interacted with or experienced a person's character.

As I began to delve into further research on this topic, and the more I read, I concluded that many of our people do not like what they see in the mirror. Seeing ones own reflection in another person and then to dissect it in an effort to destroy can only be the product of self-loathing. Why don't we congratulate as opposed to hate?

There is an adage "hurt people, hurt people". If this is true then we must examine the root of negative words and judgments that are passed on people. Unfortunately, we have internal stereotypes based off of skin color and facial features that stem from years of programming, dating back to the "Willie Lynch" method for creating a slave. In this infamous formula, one of the main factors in separating and creating division was placing the lighter skinned blacks in a higher position in the house, while those with darker skin were made to stay in the fields and deemed "less desirable". Much like the Caste System in India. No matter what strides we make as a people, these issues continue to plague and rot our souls, causing significant decay to a portion of our population and truly hindering our progress. Perhaps we show progress in our wallets and lifestyles but not in our mind set.

Reading magazines, social media sites, watching our music videos, and television shows feed our appetites for all things 'beauty". Rarely, however do I see depictions of grace and elegance in the form of dark complexioned women. I Googled one of the more ethnic models, Alek Wek and I was saddened by the tone of what the bloggers wrote in reference to her complexion, features and hair texture. Ms. Wek's escape from Sudan, her journey, philanthropy, and groundbreaking success as a supermodel in America is not only beautiful, but it displays her tenacity and character. African-Americans seemed to have lost their eye for character. These comments are evidence of the confusion that lies within many black people. It's the cruelty and prejudice that has spilled into the fabric of our everyday lives. It makes me wonder what have we collectively lost as a people? Our Minds.

I too have fallen prey, while on vacation in Brazil I decided to undergo tummy lipo-surgery. After having an allergic reaction to the anesthesia, I went into cardiac arrest before the procedure ever began. I nearly lost my life over something as superficial as having a flatter mid-section and trying to adapt to society's traditional definition of beauty. As I nursed my psychological wounds, I began to realize that trying to live up to the prototypes of external beauty paled in comparison to the fact that I have undergone labor, subsequently being blessed to raise five handsome, smart, healthy, intuitive, and happy children. I emerged from my ordeal realizing that my body is an amazing vessel that has given birth to life and that being healthy is what's important and nothing more.

It is my hope that our First Lady and others who share in this effort will continue to be the beacon to shine a light for those who toil on America's beauty totem pole. Now don't get me wrong or take my words out of context. I truly believe that everyone has a right to delineate what they deem is attractive, but we must not confuse perceived "attractiveness" with authentic "beauty." It is important for African Americans, especially, to realize that true beauty is a spiritual element that lies deep within an individual's spirit. It can neither be seen nor is it tangible. People tend to forget that beauty is not about looks and looks is not about beauty.

One of my favorite quotes comes from the great poet Khalil Gibran who once wrote, "Beauty is not the face; beauty is a light in the heart."

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Great summary, Shae!


First, hi Fiyah Second, the underlined & bolded is def the truth!! That's what it is.

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Her blog was received well with many comments on Huffingtonpost when I saw it over there.

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Wow, Tameka actually wrote a very good article!

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