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The Blessing and The Apparent Curse of a Strong Black Woman

Posted by Bossip Staff




Why are black men so threatened by strong black women? What's even worse is that I find that some of the strongest men actually prefer a docile woman. Have black men become so mentally and spiritually weak that they no longer appreciate the worth of a strong black woman? Oh, and, I hate the cliché’s: 1. Black women have too much attitude. (The same attitude your mother gave you to put that fear in your heart about those slipping grades that got you through school) 2. Black women are too loud. (You never seem to mind it when we're busy sticking up for you.) 3. Black women are too bossy. (In this day in age, we'd rather give you a command than a suggestion, especially when we know your life is at stake. So, if I come across as bossy when I tell you that you should be applying for this job instead of that one because I know how brilliant you really are, or when I say you should eat this and not eat that because I want you to live far past the estimated age of black men, excuse me for loving you that much. I'm sorry.)

Let me remind everyone that black women are strong by nature. When our men were brutally killed and/or taken away, we led the household. But, not by choice. We've been force-fed this idea of superhuman strength for centuries. When our men marched, we marched. We our men were slain while fighting for justice, we picked up the torch, bounced the baby on our hips and carried on. No one will ever love a black man, like a black woman. It's a love that's deep-rooted in our souls; a kinship perfected over time. And, now we're being crucified for the very thing that shapes our identities as black women.

Danger: I'm about to make a bold statement. It's not that we're too strong, it's that many black men have become weak. Too many times, we women try to campaign our positive points instead of really pinpointing the underlying problem. Point blank truth: black men are not stepping up as leaders and our families are paying a detrimental price. Instead of protecting our honor and shielding us from becoming distorted images, they've demoted us to shawty, bitch, and ho'. Instead of re-affirming the essence of our natural beauty, they've gladly given the world the right to define us according to the cock-eyed standards they've embedded and capitalized on. Let's gather the opinion of our local video ho' ....."...." Oh, that's right. They don't actually speak.

I'm not generalizing all men. I whole-heartedly believe that many black men are good-natured at heart, but as much as we'd like our hearts to represent us, we all know that it's your choices and actions that do the talking. I do thank God for the real men...though you are outnumbered, you shine brighter than any diamond-encrusted crown swinging from the neck of an empty-headed fool. Let's not forget the intelligent, witty, successful fool. Or, the fist raised to the air Marcus Garvey quoting fool. They exist too.... Hiding in the flimsy shells of their egos, fearful that a woman might pose a challenge.
When are black men going to become worthy opponents instead of looking for an easy win?


Soooo.......What yall think about this?

I think the search button is your friend.

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I didn't see it the first time. Good read.

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Bossip staff? with all those typos? lemme forward my resume.

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It's only hard being a single black woman looking for a husband, if you don't want to get married, you're good

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You mean real men prefer real women? *gasp!*

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That whole "strong black woman" crap is a bunch of feminist mumbo jumbo.

We need our men, I don't care what color you are.

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edls i rebuke that ignorance in the name of Jesus.

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Consider this: I recently received a warning for 'racial slurs'; apparently, that's some rule here. I asked the mod if words like bitch, slut, and whore are considered slurs as well. he said no; that's merely "salty" language. So the "no slurs" rule is really more of a "no slurs that black men could be offended by" rule, but women are still fair game.

So...yeah. The black American male is starting to get a weeeee bit soft. Personally, I blame their "mah baby ain't never hurt nobody", nut-riding, teenage girl-hating Tyler Perry-loving mamas teaching them that the world revolves around their black asses and so should we.

Still, I remain optimistic. Nearly all of my black male friends are married, and all of them to black women. This always subjected me to their wack ass single friends before I became exclusive with the man I'm with now. We have some wonderful men - I've said that long before Obama - and the sexiest ones to boot.

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Weak men will always be intimidated by a strong woman.
My husband's co-worker stays with his woman (non-Black) simply because 'she let's him be in control. Gives him her whole paycheck.' (His words not mine)

He seems to ignore the fact that she tried to kill herself, she was hoe-ing on CraigsList, she's very emotional, she connected to the Mexican Mafia, she's needy, clingy, whiny and just 'extra' all the damn time.

AND...she bought him a pair of Jordans.

But, he's willing to put up with her B.S. to be 'The Man' rather than get with a woman with a head on her shoulders.

DONT TAKE THIS WRONG LADIES BUT:

Being a strong black woman is 1 of the main reason 4 todays' urban decay as far as black community and the youth of today

Problem 1 is women being the head of households....Yes..t he man fault....women can't make men Men..thus producing young men who lack responsibilty and have weak emotions

Problem 2 is child support/bitterness....drivin g away men from being there 4 their kids(tho they still should be)....people don't know how the system works;a guy gets put on child support..within 6 months there's a good chance that man will be a criminal in the eyes of the law

Black women are not willing 2 take smaller roles or be submissive 2 Black men....Obama 60 minutes interview was an example....pretty sure someone told her 2 tone it down after that

YES..I know this is men fault but sometimes u gotta trust ur guy and have faith that we will be better than the last generation

Basically..it's a new age/era....stop emasculating men outta fears from the past

Lotta good Black men out there today

thats bullshit cause i definitely got an infraction for saying bitch in a thread one time *shakes fist at o0o0obegezo0o0o0o* lol these rules suck eggs.

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Alot of the pull and divide our community faces regarding the two genders the black male and the black female is because of the "Willie Lynch" era. Alot of us still carry the slave trained mentality they taught us it's just been instilled and has been passed to our generations now.

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These simple subjects all result back to the root that became them, old history. More from the same piece:

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Can't say that I agree with the article. Who wants to be around a nagging, argumentative, negative person? No one. As Black women, we MUST reclaim our feminine strength and stop allowing no good men to play us and knock us up.

Seems like some women are relying on masculine strength instead of their feminine strength. Black women need a women's revolution to address these issues because the one in the 1970s did nothing for us.

I definitely agree with black men needing to step up and be the leaders.

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