Keyword: IF I don't get how some are mad bcuz others choose not to make assumptions & just say congrats on graduating. Honestly, in the ninth grade I knew a girl who got pregnant twice before we graduated by her 35 year old bf. It's sad but she never needed assistance & was always taken care of financially. So what if this girl is not in YOUR pockets or anyone but the fathers?

We just don't know the situation. Yes, she could be on welfare, so are a lot of broke college students with no kids at all, I know ppl with no kids that receive housing. She could be well taken care of or have a great support system. These are all assumptions.

At the end of the day she graduated right along side OP's sister (with three kids in tow) & obviously on time by the year of birth. Should everyone single her out & call her a hoe or welfare queen bcuz she had kids? She graduated like everyone else at that ceremony.

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exactly sweets I said IF same as you did.

unless op comes with more facts about the girl we are ALL speculating.


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Damn, that shit is soooo cruel, I want to slap the life out of her!!! WHY DO YOU MAKE BABIES WHEN YOU CAN`T RAISE THEM

Btw there are NO excuses to have three children when you were born in the 90s, unless you were raped 2-3 times, then I applaude the girl.

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girls nowadays love getting pregnant. its the new in thing, everybodys sportin' their belly, and all these young girls fucking these dudes and men raw TRYNA get a baby. some havent even finished college, but their running down baby. thats the new in thing all these young black girls have kids, few in school, few doin something with themself and few working... there the good ones there but few.

What's scary about that is that I just read an article on the New York Daily News website that there is a new strain of gonorrhea out that is resistant to ANY antibiotics. Not only that, HIV/AIDS is still very much out there. I don't understand why this doesn't worry people and why folks (adults included), continue to engage in risky sex.

And sorry, but i don't buy the 'these youngins aren't being educated' foolishness. If folks can maintain FB acct and Google asinine rap lyrics, then surely they can look up various STDs, their effects and the DISADVANTAGES of being a young, unwed mother or father.

It's time for folks to start taking responsibility for themselves.

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But OP said that the girl was not abused. What´s the excuse here?

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sorry but: damn I'm 20 and hearing this stuff makes me feel really old.

To the people saying "you don't know her situation," can you please tell me what situation it could be? Are y'all talking about some Precious type of stuff where she could be getting molested? I'm sort of lost, here.

Speaking of that...my cousin who has FOUR kids for two different men before 30 with no husband, never finished college etc...my family is now spinning shit around telling me and my husband that we need to hurry up because we are getting old, and using her as an EXAMPLE saying "see when Mary kids get grown she will still be young"....I politely told Grand Momma and them that they cannot compare me and Mary because when Mary was running round making her babies I was in school getting my education...CRICKETS ! Grand Mama and them got shame and then said well every mouth the Lord provides for, i in turn replied that that is true...but that still does not give you the right to make foolish and deliberate mistakes.

People and the family need to stop making allowances for fuckery, and trying to spin it around. And calling EVERYTHING a BLESSING. My family calls every child born out of wedlock, or the product of adultery a "BLESSING" when the in actuality it is a STRESSING. well what about the wife of the married man, I am sure she doesnt feel blessed. Make no mistake about it I do believe that children are a blessing from the Lord, but I am going to sit and wait and see when I get pregnant how many of my family members are going to congratulate and tell me and my husband on the birth of our baby that we are blessed and that our baby is God's Blessing to our happy little family with mother and father under one roof married and in a house of love.

So...did the father(s) graduate?

How TF would she know unless she's the girl? There's alot of shame involved with sexual abuse. Are you trying to say most victims of sexual abuse are open in discussing it with people? That makes no sense.

By attitudes like the ones in here talking about "well at least she graduated HS" and "I don't judge" hell in THIS situation you SHOULD judge and let it be known to this individual that she is a HAM. I just can't with all this koombya, pollyanna ish! When you take shame out of something then it proliferates and that (IMO) is what the black community (not concerned about OTHERS) has done to out of wedlock, teenage and single motherhood Groan away cause yeah....I judge on this topic and harshly!
We need more w/mindsets like this. Real talk if ever I heard it!

People look at me funny when I say I'm 24 with no kids

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