So two of my best girl friends from high school are dating now. Awwwwwww. It would be sweet if it wasn't so damn dramatic.
Tonight I was witness to some sheer dikery. In the midst of an argument, Leslie told Jamie (not their real names) that she had loved her for years, and the reason for her being so upset is because she was pulling back from years of how she felt, even when they weren't speaking to each other. (That was from high school, so we're talking about 12 years here.) Jamie, on the other hand, said something to the effect of how she still felt the same way about Leslie as she always had, and the only difference was sex. Before wigs could be snatched, Jamie asked what was the difference between loving your girlfriend and loving your best friend, and none of us at the table could come up with an answer.
I say that it's different. It has to be different. Otherwise, your best friend is your best friend and your SO (significant other) is your SO. Then again, people talk about loving their best friends all the time. I STILL say it's different, but this question has me deep in thought. What say you, LSA?
(For the record, I think Jamie loves Leslie in her own way, if that makes any sense. Les has always been more loving and in touch with her feelings. I tell her that she's going to have to accept Jamie the way she is, but to hear it said the way that she said it...I see why Les is so hurt.)
I think it's different. My friends say they love me all the time, but I never tell them that. I know the definition of the love they're using is the platonic friendship love, and I feel the same way about them, but I only use the specific word love for family and so's. I can see how feelings get hurt if people have differing definitions of the word, though.
I'm not sure, but the fact that they're lesbians adds a whole new dynamic imo. Lets assume that most people are heterosexual, right? Our best friends are typically of the same sex and we don't want to f*ck them/there is no sexual attraction.
Things get hazy when befriends are of the opposite sex and straight or of the same sex and gay. Sexual attraction gets involved by one side or the other and at that point you cannot just be "friends". Just my opinion.
And to all the straight women who say they have male best friends
If he would f*ck you if given the chance he aint yo damn friend.
^^ but why are you basing everything on sex only?? Sex isn't everything. Lots of men can have sex with women and not give a shit about them, but some male and female relationships do share bonds and compatibilities far beyond sex. THat's why some male and females can be best friends.