In the context of it being an affair. You're already married/committed but your having an emotional affair (no sex) or a physical affair (just fu$king).


I'd have to say emotional relationships are harder to break. Because there is no sex involved you don't really thing your doing anything wrong. Before you know it, your in love with the other person.

Whereas you can get sex anywhere in a physical relatonship but you can't get the same emotional connect from just anybody.

I'm not married and I abhor adultery. No clue.

Not for nothing, those are usually the types of folks who get caught up in affairs. It's not always the hoes and jiggalos, but good folks who fall into it.

Emotional, definitely.

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I didn't say I don't believe in someone having all the sex they want. Just not with married people.
If I wanted to get caught up with a married man, I'd have plenty of options in Atlanta. If I wanted to marry a man that would make me want to have an affair b/c I'm not pleased at home, I'd be married now.

Just realized what you were actually saying.
I've found that some men...the "nice guy" who wasn't a manwhore, sometimes gets married, then gets more confidence and more attention and has an affair as a confidence boost.

I'd rather marry a dude that has all of that out of him and knows he is not missing anything out there. Or a very disciplined nice guy.

I think they are one in the same.. How can u have sex with someone and not get attached... U have to be a very cold hearted person... I can see you fuck ONCE but if u are having sex on a regular then u develop feelings... Either way if you are married you don't need to be married fucking off or talking feelings with someone else... I thought that was the purpose of getting married..??

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It has been my experience that emotional situations have been the hardest ones to overcome. I've engaged in both (emotional and strickly physical) and the emotional one took me through it. I don't think of the person I was physically involved with at all and nothing resonates with me from that situation. However, there are times when I still think on the emotional relationship and it stings. My emotional relationship was a long distance one because he lived in another state and we didn't see each other often. Nevertheless, the exchanges were mind blowing. When we first became involved I told myself that the distance would keep things at bay and I wouldn't feel anything if things didn't materialize. Never have I been so wrong in my life.

I've concluded that anytime you put your heart and mind into something or someone it affects you greatly. Think the O'Jays, "your body's here with me but your mind is on the other side of town".

i find that i am the opposite.. i can let go of the emotional one easier than the physical one.. with the emotional one its hard to let go off but i can push through it.. the physical one is harder because i try and convince myself that its just sex but there are feelings there that i try and ignore..

It depends on the person, really. You could be with someone who is fantastic in bed and that is all the bonding needed, or you could be with someone who is best friend material. Honestly and truly, having both, friend and lover fling, can cause irrevocable damage to a marriage or long standing relationship - trust me, I know.

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Emotional hands down. I believe in terms of comparing the two, sex is physical and easier to get over but an emotional relationship is a whole nother thing. I once heard these older women talking about men and cheating. One lady said that she would be more hurt if another woman had her man's mind and heart rather than his dick. It took me a while to understand what she meant by that.

Emotional because I can fuck and have 0 feelings no matter how long we been fuckin.

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emotional....you have him mind and heart, its a wrap.

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emotional, definitely.

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