Is he just not into me?
I have a crush on a guy that works in another building from mine downtown. First time I saw him, we looked at each other and I swear I felt something. he tried to approach me once, but I guess he wasn't sure how I would react so it never happened. Been thinking about this guy for months now. Even had a co-worker find out what his name was and what department he worked at (she delivers mail to executives).
I couldn't stop thinking about this guy. I feel like we were meant to be, I haven't felt that way about anyone before on first sight. We see each other a couple of times and never say anything. So I have been quietly obsessed with him. One day I am leaving the garage heading home after work, and I see him crossing the street. So I drive out of my lane and follow him. I pull up to him (still in the car) and introduce myself. He was very nice. Told me his name and greeted me. That was it. I was soo shy and later embarrassed that I did something so bold. I later told my co-worker who then called me desperate.
Days later, same co-worker told me that he was in her office checking for any mail for his department, so I rushed downstairs to "accidentally" see him. Nervous as hell, we talk. He asks me questions and according to my co-worker I was giddy and giggly as hell (pathetic) with the answers. But whats more important is that he knows who I am lol.
At a inter-department office party and I see him there. His face lights up when he sees me, which gets me very excited. We walk toward each other and chat. I stay by his side for the majority of the night, until he goes to the buffet to fix himself a plate. idk why I am crazy about this dude but I follow him wherever he goes, talking to folks he knows. he later tells me that he and a couple of other co-workers are going to the bar after and that it was nice seeing me. He gives me his card complete with his cell phone number and personal email. Happy that he wants to keep in contact, I give him my card with added cell phone number.
Its tired and late, and I would have gone home but I decided to go to the same bar...just because
. I head over there and nonchalantly start socializing and trying to not obviously look for him. I see him and he sees me and walks over to me. We continue to talk some more. His conversation skills is A+. He tells me that I should come hang out with him (he is staying at the Hilton he lives in the next city but he stayed overnight because he was working late the night before) in his hotel room.
Before you think of anything, He didn't seem like the pushy type, he seem like a very respectable gentlemen. So I didn't think anything of it. So later on we are his hotel talking some more in his room. No sooner or later he is kissing me!
Great kisser! Really loving the moment. The vibe is crazy at this point. Like I am really in love with this guy and I don't even know him. We never went all the way, it was really an innocent makeout situation. lol and I even get the basic information about him (height, hobbies, marital status, parental status, goals, last name[lol], etc.) and I share the same. Its getting late and I have to work in the next morning. he offers me a chance to sleep in the next bed (total gentleman) I decline, but he walks me to my car and gives me a nice kiss gnite and I drive off.
I don't want to seem pressed over this dude so the next day, I try to keep it cool by not calling him even though I want to! Which brings us to today (full day later). Someone brought some pizzas for everyone in the office and I email and ask him if he would like me to bring him a slice for lunch. He declines because he claims he is fasting from fast food for lent. I ask him if he isn't busy during his lunch break if I can come and visit him. He tells me that wouldn't be possible because he has alot of work to do but he wouldn't mind coming to visit me because he has some errands to run in my building on the way. I would have to give him directions on where my office is, and i don't want to inconvenience him so I tell him to not worry about it we can meet up some other time.
so I need your help LSA. Is he not that into me like I thought he was? Give me some perspective about this. I really thought we had something going, but he doesn't seem all that interested in meeting up with me again. Or am I looking into this too much?