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I think woman need to understand that if u didn't struggle with a guy he'll always have resentment

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If u weren't there day one and went through all the heart ach a and pain it took him to get from the bottom hell always have some animosity towards you somewhere inside.

That's just facts. You'll never have his full trust or commitment
 

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If u weren't there day one and went through all the heart ach a and pain it took him to get from the bottom hell always have some animosity towards you somewhere inside.

That's just facts. You'll never have his full trust or commitment
I don't agree with resentment but I do think it is easier for a man to bond with/appreciate women more when she helps him through a struggle.
 

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Tell that to Steve Harvey, Keven Hart, Lionell Richie,Dwayne Wayde, The Rock, Betty Broderick and every woman that helped a man come up and then got left when he decided to upgrade.

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Why is all this STRUGGLE love talk pushed to BW...constantly?
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How about YOU find a chick with 7 kids and make it together. There's a chick names Chrissy you would like her, she's a REAL go getter...just needs a dependable man as a partner. You're perfect for her.
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I met my husband AFTER he finished his IVY league education and was 5 years into his career.
So you think because I wasn't supporting him while he was in school, he not gonna stay with me.
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PLEASEEE....I'm here now and I missed the ramen noddle phase.
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Cry me a river- and HYON


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Why is all this STRUGGLE love talk pushed to BW...constantly?
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How about YOU find a chick with 7 kids and make it together. There's a chick names Chrissy you would like her, she's a REAL go getter...just needs a dependable man as a partner. You're perfect for her.
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I met my husband AFTER he finished his IVY league education and was 5 years into his career.
So you think because I wasn't supporting him while he was in school, he not gonna stay with me.
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PLEASEEE....I'm here now and I missed the ramen noddle phase.
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Cry me a river- and HYON


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As soon as he hit a rough patch (which is sure to come) you're going to drop him for a new pot of gold
 

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bµllsh!t. It's actually the exact opposite. When you get with a man who has nothing and you struggle together towards your common goals, once he makes it, he resents the hell out of you for actually SEEING HIM STRUGGLE. You become a constant reminder of those times of hardship and strife and the first thing he does when he gets his sh!t together is replace you with a vapid model. There's no gratitude, no sense of loyalty and moving on together as a cohesive unit. Not ALL men do this, but MANY do. It's a tale that is old as time.
 

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lmao if a women is entertaining a struggling dude she is probably struggling or low tier herself. water seeks its own level. best believe an accomplished man is going to want someone on his level because he now has access to higher tier partners.
 

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bµllsh!t. It's actually the exact opposite. When you get with a man who has nothing and you struggle together towards your common goals, once he makes it, he resents the hell out of you for actually SEEING HIM STRUGGLE. You become a constant reminder of those times of hardship and strife and the first thing he does when he gets his sh!t together is replace you with a vapid model. There's no gratitude, no sense of loyalty and moving on together as a cohesive unit. Not ALL men do this, but MANY do. It's a tale that is old as time.
That's a good damn like. Hell stay loyal to her. Hell just smash young chicks because he probably missed out on the tight young pussy stage and he need to catch up. But a real man will always love his main. That's his queen
 

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How? It's pure reality. Hell what do most rap songs talk about? They talk about "that's" being disposable for just trying to use them after they struggled

I don’t date rappers so I don’t care what those songs talk about.

It is not pure reality. First of all not everyone even struggles you are assuming people are all in search of a come up.

Lastly, I am very accomplished so I’m not going to take someone struggling seriously, I can struggle by my damn self.

If you’re struggling you shouldn’t even be dating, you should be getting your sh!t together.
 

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If u weren't there day one and went through all the heart ach a and pain it took him to get from the bottom hell always have some animosity towards you somewhere inside.

That's just facts. You'll never have his full trust or commitment
If he was in the bottom hell, why would I care for the trust and commitment of such person?

Basically, if a man doesn't do dumb sh!t, and the woman doesn't help this man that did dumb sh!t, won't have a trusting commited relationship.

HAHAHA
 

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Oh hell no, I know a relative who struggled with a man, and he dropped her like hot potato for a younger woman. Do not listen to this sh!t please
 

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I'm not trying to be on some hate women sh!t . I'm just giving yall the truth and if u don't believe me why do u think sucessucce men treat women as objects. U don't think they don't know what the deal is? They know when they lose whatever they got they'll lose u too.

Let that marinate. I'll post tonight. Off topic. Yo it's hot as fµck out here. I feel like I'm in the desert
 

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I don't agree with resentment but I do think it is easier for a man to bond with/appreciate women more when she helps him through a struggle.
so what about all the women who stood by men but when those men came up they left them?
 
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As soon as he hit a rough patch (which is sure to come) you're going to drop him for a new pot of gold

A rough time with him, is like a LUXURY vacation in comparison to being with someone of your mindset.
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Just KNOWING there are soo many guys like you out there will gladly make me stay.
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It's actually quite the opposite. If you've struggled with a man you will always be a reminder (in his eyes) of his struggle era once he finally gets himself together. He wants no parts of that, 9/10 he fully intends to "upgrade".
 

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If u weren't there day one and went through all the heart ach a and pain it took him to get from the bottom hell always have some animosity towards you somewhere inside.

That's just facts. You'll never have his full trust or commitment

Can you please explain this condition, I'm not familiar with it. Is it just like a heart ache or something else....Thanks!
 

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bµllsh!t. It's actually the exact opposite. When you get with a man who has nothing and you struggle together towards your common goals, once he makes it, he resents the hell out of you for actually SEEING HIM STRUGGLE. You become a constant reminder of those times of hardship and strife and the first thing he does when he gets his sh!t together is replace you with a vapid model. There's no gratitude, no sense of loyalty and moving on together as a cohesive unit. Not ALL men do this, but MANY do. It's a tale that is old as time.

didn't see your post before I posted :LOL:

But yes, yep. all of this
 

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There’s a difference between staying through a rough patch and entering into a relationship with a person struggling.

Firstly, the struggling man will always put himself and his goals first which will cause neglect. He will also resent you for being in a better place (if you are), which leads to verbal abuse to make himself feel better. He will also think something is wrong with you for being with him = better men didn’t want you = you’re not good enough. If you yourself are struggling he will dump you the minute he “makes it.”

There’s beauty in the struggle for some, but it’s unnecessary.
 

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lol this is some of the dumbest sh!t I've read on lsa. Totally the reverse of reality. You looking for a woman to support your ass, OP, telling her lies about your loyalty to her for being with you during the "struggle times"??
 

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If u weren't there day one and went through all the heart ach a and pain it took him to get from the bottom hell always have some animosity towards you somewhere inside.

That's just facts. You'll never have his full trust or commitment

That's not how it goes.
 

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He's actually more likely to resent you for seeing him weak and needing your help.
 

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so what about all the women who stood by men but when those men came up they left them?
I don't mean for every man. This is just what I've personally seen around me. I am aware that there are men who prefer to leave the evidence of their struggle life behind when they come up-as in dumping the woman who struggled with them
 

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fµck a struggle! When he upgraded he left that behind. If he can't wrap his mind around the better life he has then fµck him
 

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Where do some of yall find these struggle dudes at? If I only listened to LSA I would think negative of the black race. The imagery that is painted sometimes.... Some of yall need to go outside and play.
 

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lmao if a women is entertaining a struggling dude she is probably struggling or low tier herself. water seeks its own level. best believe an accomplished man is going to want someone on his level because he now has access to higher tier partners.

What do you mean by "higher tier partners"?

I hope you aren't referring careers, because a lot of men couldn't give two hoots about a woman's career.
 

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If u weren't there day one and went through all the heart ach a and pain it took him to get from the bottom hell always have some animosity towards you somewhere inside.

That's just facts. You'll never have his full trust or commitment

I think that this is true for a man who has low self esteem.
 

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I don't mean for every man. This is just what I've personally seen around me. I am aware that there are men who prefer to leave the evidence of their struggle life behind when they come up-as in dumping the woman who struggled with them



Noooooo. Throw the whole environment away (friends, family, etc) they got you believing this to the point that you are sharing this nonsense on here?

This was really intended for the OP


Edit x2... No its for you AND the struggle man that is the OP.
 
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What do you mean by "higher tier partners"?

I hope you aren't referring careers, because a lot of men couldn't give two hoots about a woman's career.
when i think of struggle, i mean living in the projects, struggling to pay pills, having oow kids, and working fast food, not pre-med students eating ramen trying to become a doctor. generally you attract people in the same environment and proximity. when that mcdondals worker gets a better job, moves up financially, buys a better home in a better neighborhood, he or she is going to have more options. your job equates to the amount of money and resources you have, so if you are financially well off you can afford to take better care of yourself, work out, travel, dress nice, etc, which will attract more people.
 

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I don't agree with resentment but I do think it is easier for a man to bond with/appreciate women more when she helps him through a struggle.

I think it depends on the kind of man as well. My white friend asked me to help him with his rent, I said, "no, sorry, cant/dont/wont" and he said ok, but called me the next day with no attitude or nothing..that was odd to me. I wouldnt see him for a while bc I thought he would murder me or something bc anytime a guy has asked me for money and I havent given i I have heard the bull "sisters dont help" (biggest lie) and basically when they asks that spells the end bc of my own hangups. If I wont ask anybody for help, I really cant have a lasting respect for men who ask me.
 

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Tell that to Steve Harvey, Keven Hart, Lionell Richie,Dwayne Wayde, The Rock, Betty Broderick and every woman that helped a man come up and then got left when he decided to upgrade.

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Exactly which is why I don't struggle with these dudes! I will see you at the top.
 

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