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Jared Boo

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I'm doing an internship until May while in graduate school at a black woman owned non-profit. I'm underpaid...overworked...the whole nine yards. However, I guess I am learning a lot. Though, I am trying to be as professional and polite as possible though my bosses behavior is hot and cold. It helps that the internship is 100% virtual so I don't have to physically absorb her energy except during meetings and presentations. Oh and her brother's behavior is hot and cold as well as he is the program manager.

Her behavior...
Negatives:
Laughs condescendingly at my mistakes.
Talks ish to her brother and others about my mistakes then passive aggressively brings them up during presentations and meetings.
Nitpicks at my mistakes and when I say something wrong by mistake pretends like she doesn't know what I'm talking about.
Brother acts rude when I try to be polite sometimes.
Brother acts rude when I double check and make sure that everyone on the team is okay with the plan.
Face is like this:neutralwhile I'm talking yet like this :grinning: for everyone else.
Student Leadership council (it's a high school mentoring program) doesn't participate when I lead meetings and doesn't respond to my emails.

Positives:
Gives compliments when I lead the team meetings.
Give compliments after I co-coordinate presentations.
Invited me to a board meeting.
Gives me fairly important tasks.


Am I being too sensitive or do I have a right to feel on edge?
 

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All skin folk ain’t kinfolk. They sound like they don’t like black people or are threatened by a younger accomplished black female co worked.
 

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Sounds like people who are easily threatened and feel the need to “humble” anyone who challenges their belief that only they could do their job. It’s also just unprofessional behavior so you stay on your level and don’t ever meet their energy. Get your resume qualifications and find something better but know that you will always feel overworked and underpaid in the non-profit sector. Hopefully she’ll be a good reference at the end of this.
 

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Sounds like people who are easily threatened and feel the need to “humble” anyone who challenges their belief that only they could do their job. It’s also just unprofessional behavior so you stay on your level and don’t ever meet their energy. Get your resume qualifications and find something better but know that you will always feel overworked and underpaid in the non-profit sector. Hopefully she’ll be a good reference at the end of this.
Thanks for your feedback! Also Exactly you get it! I am developing a thick skin and ignoring them. As I said in my op this is easy to do with everything being virtual/wfh because I don't have to absorb their negative energy. But I will remain professional and polite until the end. Which shows growth on my end because in previous jobs I would just snap and quit. I know how non-profit works though, I love non-profit work's mission. I am just using this to catapult my career. I'm coming into the therapy field. Also I don't want to use her as a reference. I'm taking the skills I've learned and my little stipend and moving on.
 
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I'm doing an internship until May while in graduate school at a black woman owned non-profit. I'm underpaid...overworked...the whole nine yards. However, I guess I am learning a lot. Though, I am trying to be as professional and polite as possible though my bosses behavior is hot and cold. It helps that the internship is 100% virtual so I don't have to physically absorb her energy except during meetings and presentations. Oh and her brother's behavior is hot and cold as well as he is the program manager.

Her behavior...
Negatives:
Laughs condescendingly at my mistakes.
Talks ish to her brother and others about my mistakes then passive aggressively brings them up during presentations and meetings.
Nitpicks at my mistakes and when I say something wrong by mistake pretends like she doesn't know what I'm talking about.
Brother acts rude when I try to be polite sometimes.
Brother acts rude when I double check and make sure that everyone on the team is okay with the plan.
Face is like this:neutralwhile I'm talking yet like this :grinning: for everyone else.
Student Leadership council (it's a high school mentoring program) doesn't participate when I lead meetings and doesn't respond to my emails.

Positives:
Gives compliments when I lead the team meetings.
Give compliments after I co-coordinate presentations.
Invited me to a board meeting.
Gives me fairly important tasks.


Am I being too sensitive or do I have a right to feel on edge?
sounds like they're feeling threatened by you because you seem to be doing a better job than they thought you would? take as a compliment and keep striving on their asses.
 

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sounds like an internship to me. If this is temporary and a step to a career role, suck it up, learn the lessons and move on. Every boss isn’t going to be great, and to me , this is part of the internship. Learning to deal with supervisors you don’t get along with. Other than that, what’s your recourse? Quit? But that hurts you in the long run, not them.
 

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Smile and keep your focus on your accomplishments. Do you keep track of those? not just the work but the compliments.

also, this helps with the “tell me about the time you were faced with adversity“ question. This internship is to give you talking points for your job interviews.
 

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