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Men are more open to dating plus-sized women than women are to plus-sized men.

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Spinoff to my (thread) I made on women and bi men.
From watching the reactions of women in that thread, it seems that we have more xesual and dating standards than men have. Men will be okay with dating a bi man than a women. And I heard bisexual do not wanna mess around with them either. Chile. The discussion reminded me of the attraction of fat people.

Plus sized women have been celebrated in the media recently, but what about their male counterparts? I cannot think of a fat male love interest that has a female fanbase. But their female counterpart can be love interests and have a decent male fanbase. I know that skinnier people are preferred but I am just stating what I see.
Lets compare Ashley Graham to James Corden.

And when I say men, I mean all men, not just the fit guys who are over six feet with jawlines. Overweight men, nerdy men, short men, men with short cocks, etc. Y'all standards are too high, enforcing toxic masculinity just like the men.

Fat women probably have more options in dating than fat men, let's be real
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This article also inspired the thread.
Edit: I knew I was gonna get disagrees and fonts were gonna be mad. This site is predominantly women with high ass standards and no common sense. I am not saying women have to be attracted to fat men but if you want to date or marry somebody who will provide for you, some standards have to be compromised and set back. Look at Peter Griffin and Lois. I also know men in general do not like fat women but women in general do not like fat men either. i am just comparing those ideas.
Edit 5:16pm: I’m trending, y’all. Wooo!
 
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I got into a multiple page debate with one font who swore up and down that women aren't as shallow as men. Yes they are lol
Having standards isn't shallow, this isn't in reference to plus size women. But imo if it were possible men would put their dicks in switched sockets
 

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That is actually not true. Where do you think the saying that women do not care for looks like men do comes from?

What I do not like about plus size men(and i say this as a plus size woman) is that they wont date plus size women. And they are always the loudest with it too.

The plus size men i dated were the most critical of my body.
 

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That is actually not true. Where do you think the saying that women do not care for looks like men do comes from?

What I do not like about plus size men(and i say this as a plus size woman) is that they wont date plus size women. And they are always the loudest with it too.

The one plus size men i dated were the most critical of my body.
How is this true when most Americans are overweight or obese
 

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That is actually not true. Where do you think the saying that women do not care for looks like men do comes from?

What I do not like about plus size men(and i say this as a plus size woman) is that they wont date plus size women. And they are always the loudest with it too.

The plus size men i dated were the most critical of my body.
You are 10000% right on everything!

Women care more about security than looks, men are the reverse.

Fat men want the whole world to know they hate fat women and find them "gross". Half the time these women are either slimmer or carry their weight better than the men shitting on them.

And yes, no one will criticize your slender body more than your fat boyfriend!! WHEW!!! No one has ever had anything negative to say about my (size 6) body but the fat men I've given a chance. I think they hate themselves and want to criticize everyone else's bodies to deflect. If they held themselves to the same standard they held us women to, they'd look like Greek Gods. Give me a fµck!ng break :rolleyes:
 

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So what are we supposed to do? Women are visual beings as well, we care about looks and attractiveness too, that being said, women are actually less critical and do not prioritize looks like men do, and if we did so fµck!ng what?
 

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Women are not into obese dudes. At the same time, obese dudes get little vitriol from women for their appearance. I find women are indifferent to big men.

OTOH some men HATE obese women. But obese women have plenty of admirers too. When it comes to obese women, everything is very heightened and magnified. The hate AND the love. They get ad campaigns, but they also are the target of much vitriol.

Men care enough to actively hate fat women, whereas women barely notice fat men exist. I'm not sure which one is worse.
 

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In real life it is promoted, again 70% of Americans are at least overweight or obese. Men are dating fat and ugly women. Most men do not have the options for anything else.

Mostly broke with low self esteem and no options.


You are 10000% right on everything!

Women care more about security than looks, men are the reverse.

Fat men want the whole world to know they hate fat women and find them "gross". Half the time these women are either slimmer or carry their weight better than the men shitting on them.

And yes, no one will criticize your slender body more than your fat boyfriend!! WHEW!!! No one has ever had anything negative to say about my (size 6) body but the fat men I've given a chance. I think they hate themselves and want to criticize everyone else's bodies to deflect. If they held themselves to the same standard they held us women to, they'd look like Greek Gods. Give me a fµck!ng break :rolleyes:


Women can care about both. Both genders should care about financial compatibility. As financial incompatibility can lead to a divorce.
 

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I am a big girl and I never dated a big guy because they aren't attracted to me or they never come up and talk with me. Well on did yesterday while I was shopping but he wasn't attractive to me maybe because he was in work attire
 

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If you feel bad for these men, then by all means, date them. I never see fat men get sh!t on like how fat women do, if anything women are encouraged to date ugly/fat/broke men because they’re “good guys” and we don’t want to be called shallow.
 

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It's so dishonest when women say guys don't like fat women. 4 out of 5 Black women are fat. A lot of fat women are boo'd up. Stop the lies.

Women will date a fat guy if he has a decent career. Outside of that, fat men are losing out here.
 

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Women are not into obese dudes. At the same time, obese dudes get little vitriol from women for their appearance. I find women are indifferent to big men.

OTOH some men HATE obese women. But obese women have plenty of admirers too. When it comes to obese women, everything is very heightened and magnified. The hate AND the love. They get ad campaigns, but they also are the target of much vitriol.

Men care enough to actively hate fat women, whereas women barely notice fat men exist. I'm not sure which one is worse.
Being invisible is always worse than getting attention, whether it's good or bad. Everyone wants to be acknowledged. And like you said, when you get hate -- you usually get love as well. So fat women might get more hate than fat men, but they also get love from the guys who like big women.
 

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You are 10000% right on everything!

Women care more about security than looks, men are the reverse.

Fat men want the whole world to know they hate fat women and find them "gross". Half the time these women are either slimmer or carry their weight better than the men shitting on them.

And yes, no one will criticize your slender body more than your fat boyfriend!! WHEW!!! No one has ever had anything negative to say about my (size 6) body but the fat men I've given a chance. I think they hate themselves and want to criticize everyone else's bodies to deflect. If they held themselves to the same standard they held us women to, they'd look like Greek Gods. Give me a fµck!ng break :rolleyes:
Can we stop this carry weight better nonsense? Men are generally skinner then women for all races. I see more fit or skinny men with big men than the opposite. Again outside of incels, I do not see fat men talking like this.
 

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In real life it is promoted, again 70% of Americans are at least overweight or obese. Men are dating fat and ugly women. Most men do not have the options for anything else.
The thing is many American women don't see themselves as fat which is why they always say men trash fat women. That's where the disconnect comes.

A lot of women are 20-50 pounds overweight but call themselves curvy, thick, chubby, meat on my bones, etc. So they don't realize their man is dating a fat woman. They only use fat for the morbidly obese women like Lizzo.

People call men fat more directly with no filter.
 

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Most men are not as selective as they perceive themselves to be. At the end of the day, if a woman is willing for xes and can put up with them, they're usually down to date her.
 

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Ik plenty of fat men that get dates. Idk why y’all are lying. I live in the south and a lot of ppl are fat. Women in general seem to like to be a little more put together than men. So it could be that. A fresh big guy will have women. And a lot of women like big dudes, especially, with beards. The women of LSA and Twitter seem to like that specific combo.
 

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It's so dishonest when women say guys don't like fat women. 4 out of 5 Black women are fat. A lot of fat women are boo'd up. Stop the lies.

Women will date a fat guy if he has a decent career. Outside of that, fat men are losing out here.
Fat women do get loved on but fat men also get the same. Fat men are in relationships and cheating on their girlfriends/wives. So that tells you right there that they have options. People just fetishize fat women more. A woman will always be more discriminated against than a man.
 

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Plus size doesn't mean that they're hideous or weird, they still can attract handsome men. They don't have to settle just because they're plus size
 

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Ik plenty of fat men that get dates. Idk why y’all are lying. I live in the south and a lot of ppl are fat. Women in general seem to like to be a little more put together than men. So it could be that. A fresh big guy will have women. And a lot of women like big dudes, especially, with beards. The women of LSA and Twitter seem to like that specific combo.
Yea big bearded men are beautiful and you are correct about being from the south. People will break their necks fro well put together big woman.

Even give them nicknames
like sexyred, big red or dirtyred if she's light skin

I feel lighter skin big woman receive much play than darker big woman
 

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Yea big bearded men are beautiful and you are correct about being from the south. People will break their necks fro well put together big woman.

Even give them nicknames
like sexyred, big red or dirtyred if she's light skin

I feel lighter skin big woman receive much play than darker big woman
Oh well ofc. That’s colorism and a whole other convo. And in the south it runs deep.
 

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I am a big girl and I never dated a big guy because they aren't attracted to me or they never come up and talk with me. Well on did yesterday while I was shopping but he wasn't attractive to me maybe because he was in work attire
Where do you live? And Ik skinny guys seem to really like big girls. I wonder if it’s an opposite attracts sort of thing.
 

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Fat and ugly aren't the same thing. Just like thin and pretty aren't the same thing.

With that said I do think that super morbidly obese women will have a harder time attracting men (with normal attraction to them, not a fetish for very big women).

I personally prefer big men. Not sloppy, extremely fat men, but men who have mass on their frame. Lots of muscle mass and some fat or but not glamour muscles like what body builders have.

Being honest, as a woman who prefers big men, many times when a man is too fat his body starts looking feminine. I've seen many fat men who have big boobs, hips and feminine looking curves. I can see how that can be a turn off.
 

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The one time i messed with a fluffy boy he had the nerve, i mean THE AUDACITY to ghost me

I think he was feeling himself cause he made a little change

I learned my lesson
 

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The thing is many American women don't see themselves as fat which is why they always say men trash fat women. That's where the disconnect comes.

A lot of women are 20-50 pounds overweight but call themselves curvy, thick, chubby, meat on my bones, etc. So they don't realize their man is dating a fat woman. They only use fat for the morbidly obese women like Lizzo.

People call men fat more directly with no filter.
Thank you , I am surprised at the delusions given most Americans are obese or overweight
 

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In real life it is promoted, again 70% of Americans are at least overweight or obese. Men are dating fat and ugly women. Most men do not have the options for anything else.
Lies, what's stopping that young K1 visa?
 

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Where do you live? And Ik skinny guys seem to really like big girls. I wonder if it’s an opposite attracts sort of thing.
I am from north Florida and the men here aren't really ashamed of a bigger woman. Even the big men date bigger women. However, they largely tend to gravitate towards average to slim thick women while the smaller, muscular, and average built gravitate towards bigger women.

I have nothing against big men but they've never approached me and if they did it never went anywhere.

All the men I've dated were always average to muscular built. The guy I am talking with now is an average-built guy.

Skinny girls and slim thick girls also date just as much as the big woman. That's why I am so shocked at the posts here on body shaming and bodyweight because I've honestly never read or seen such commentary on bigger people in my life because here in the south big or curvy women dating, marrying, having babies, and xes is so common but of course LSA isn't real life no way.
 

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In real life it is promoted, again 70% of Americans are at least overweight or obese. Men are dating fat and ugly women. Most men do not have the options for anything else.
they can date a non american.
 

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I am from north Florida and the men here aren't really ashamed of a bigger woman. Even the big men date bigger women. However, they largely tend to gravitate towards average to slim thick women while the smaller, muscular, and average built gravitate towards bigger women.

I have nothing against big men but they've never approached me and if they did it never went anywhere.

All the men I've dated were always average to muscular built. The guy I am talking with now is an average-built guy.

Skinny girls and slim thick girls also date just as much as the big woman. That's why I am so shocked at the posts here on body shaming and bodyweight because I've honestly never read or seen such commentary on bigger people in my life because here in the south big or curvy women dating, marrying, having babies, and xes is so common but of course LSA isn't real life no way.
I’m from Louisiana and I live in Texas and yes it’s not uncommon for bigger people, both men and women, to be in relationships. People on LSA are from all over the world. That includes the non southern US states and the rest of the world that may or may not be fond of bigger women. Ironically, I’ve seen certain bigger guys be drooled over on LSA. But big women as a whole get bashed on here. Well, I guess that’s misogyny for you.
 

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I’m from Louisiana and I live in Texas and yes it’s not uncommon for bigger people, both men and women, to be in relationships. People on LSA are from all over the world. That includes the non southern US states and the rest of the world that may or may not be fond of bigger women. Ironically, I’ve seen certain bigger guys be drooled over on LSA. But big women as a whole get bashed on here. Well, I guess that’s misogyny for you.
Exactly. There was an entire thread here where bigger women were being bashed
 

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