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he gave me the aux cord after we got food and he was dropping me off at home. this girl texts him so i looked through the thread becausw i said why not and idgaf.

anyway, he has been sending her $100 when she doesnt even ask. she always says thank you, doesnt even call him baby. she says shes celibate and that she wants to take her time. he says ok im cool and respect that and will wait for you. they meet up at upscale resturants and go on real dates. he even wanted to buy her a purse but she said nvm. he said he loves being with her and if they cant even be romantic he doesnt mind being FREINDS?? and helping her out.

i thought we were friends..isn't that fwb? i mean i know hes my fwb and thats my fault for settling for that but wow..is the other girl getting played to since hes technically cheating on her?
ive been dating other guys too so i guess i cant complain. he does buy me food and picks me up/drops me off but nothing upscale and he doesn't give money. i dont get good night texts etc
Umm. He can't be cheating on you since he's not your boyfriend nor are you dating him. Your're fµck!ng this man for free thats why it's called Friends with benefits. Don't settle next time and you won't have to deal with this. Why cheapen yourself for dick?
 

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Well, this is what happens when we tell y'all to not have low standards and run from this FWB bµllsh!t but y'all rarara all day about "us slutshaming y'all" until reality hits.

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I think that font believes the guy is trash for the new girl.

Yes, he is a single man, but he wouldn't be this interested in the new girl if he suspected that she had another blowing her back out. So, his willingness to blow somebody else out while pursuing her is ... less than honest.
Thank you for explaining that. You are correct. Let any one of these fonts man sleep with another woman while they were in the courting phase and they would side eye.
 

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How is the guy trash? They mutually wanted a FWB and she caught feelings. How is it his fault?
The other font explained it perfectly. If you were in the courting phase with a man and he found out that you were fµck!ng another man while with him, would he still be interested in you?
 

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Take a step back and ask yourself if really like him like that if you have other FWBs. It could be you feeling a bit competitive seeing another woman get more from him.It reminds me of when I was in grade school and would get jealous of the preferential treatment some kids got from teachers I didn’t even like.

Then again you did check his phone so it shows you feels that you are entitled to him in some capacity. Or you could just be really nosy.

OP, I don’t like many of the fonts tone here “ You ain’t sh!t, he don’t want your ass, you’re just a body warmer till the next girl comes”. Even if it has some truth in it, it is unnecessarily rude and it will cause you to internalize his view of you as your own internal worth.

He is just not for you OP. If you want a real relationship, the right man will come along, adore you and treat like a Queen. Don’t take this situation personally.

If you’re just competitive, cut this dude off because now you’re in a silent competition with another woman. Stick to your other FWBs and let this be a lesson to not involve yourself in the outside affairs of your FWB. The only thing you need to know is their STD status, general cleanliness and how good his stroke game is.

If you can’t do that, FWBs are not for your girl.
This is a very mature response. I agree with this.

@I. Roman wth is your problem? :knife
 
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I think that font believes the guy is trash for the new girl.

Yes, he is a single man, but he wouldn't be this interested in the new girl if he suspected that she had another blowing her back out. So, his willingness to blow somebody else out while pursuing her is ... less than honest.

Depends on what he's telling her. If they're exclusive, then of course he's a POS. However, OP has multiple FWBs, so, not far off from ole boy.

And anyway, this side of LSA loves to tell women to keep a rotation of dudes for audition, so why be mad at this guy for doing the same?

It's always so interesting to see how upset "I keep a rotation" ladies get when they see the man they're having xes with is doing the same.

But I guess that these are the consequences of men and women treating each other like chess pieces.
 
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Exactly I’m too emotional for that sh!t and so are a lot of other women which is why I’m confused as to why they continuously think that they’re built like men and can handle these type of relationships
Most Men can't even handle that type of relationship. They just want to be able to f*ck without having to do as much work as they see it. They don't really want to know that you are doing the same thing lol
 

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Not true, I always preferred FWB xes over xes in a relationship, it has always been easy for me to have emotion-free xes, xes with emotions is very difficult for me to deal with. I’m emotionally unavailable in relationships and situationships. I did get married but it was a huge and very difficult adjustment to deal with emotions and it’s still hard. xes with no commitment was easy, but again, it was always the men who caught feelings, not me.
Notice I said women.
If you can do it, good for you. But you probably have more male hormones than most women.
 

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Do men still believe in the Madonna hoe-complex? Men have married pornstars and known escorts in this day and age.
I wish LSA would stop the narrative about xes.Fonts equate how much a man will value with xes.

A man will love you wether you put out early or late.He will want you wether you guys started as a FWB or had the fairytale love story.

The thought that having xes with a man devalues you and makes him not see you as partner material, it’s very dumb.

Tons of couple have met each other and started off being casual, other got married without ever having xes before marriage.The thing is, there are no rules.

This mindset create the LoLo Jones of our generation that believe that there’s only a way of started a relationship and thinking that just because they don’t have xes, men will value them more over another woman that has experience.

Lots of men will marry baby mothers, women that have a high body count, etc.If he wants you, he doesn’t care.

So, in Op’s case, she just caught feelings and is bothered.
 

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Never make a man you see potential in your fwb. My current fwb has a kid, which assures that I will never take him seriously and I already know I won't develop feelings cuz he's dumb but good at xes. If you actually see potential in a man then you should treat him how that chick is doing.
Why risk pregnancy/STDs sleeping with a bum who you don't really like? Too many BW have made that mistake.
 

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If you catching feelings you better cut it off

been there but I didn’t know I was a FB I thought we was together together

now I know much better and I treat them the same way

no more catching feelings it’s just a fµck

I don’t even wanna be friends with straight dudes if I’m entertaining a guy it’s either FB or boyfriend no in between
 

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I don’t think the women should be blamed though... she’s giving him xes and emotional physical support he could at least be giving you something that helps you out financially vs helping a woman who is giving nothing and acting bratty/using him for money. I think that just shows how psycho the man is and how both you AND the woman he’s spending on should leave him alone. He’s crazy and obviously irrational dealing with 2 women at the same time and maybe more and he got children out here already. We have to stop making excuses and solutions to this behavior for men. He may even stalk that girl if she ever decides to leave him or something and you too.

Also OP take this as a life lesson. Now you know you do not want to enter a consistent FWB situation without getting what you want and you can protect yourself :)
 
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I definitely think the guy is using OP, even though she did agree to be FWB. She said she "settled" for her current situation, which leads me to believe that she told the guy she wanted more, but he gave her the old "I'm not ready for a relationship" excuse. However, she has now learned that he does want a relationship, just not with her. He knows he really doesn't like OP like that. And he knows that she wants a relationship with him. OP's guy is knowingly sleeping with a woman who is falling in love or is already in love with him when he knows he doesn't and will never feel the same way about her. He's using her love to fulfill is own selfish needs.
 
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The dangers of FWB. This casual xes thing is fun, is a myth. Because at the end of the day. We all want something solid. Lmao.

Now when you find out you are just a eff buddy. Whether you were cool with it or not makes no difference. Because it still hurts. Lmao.
 

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He’s doing it right, they are taking their time. your just filling his time and helping him stay satisfied xesually. If you want more from him, then you should leave him alone. You will never get more than what you are getting.
 

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He’s doing it right, they are taking their time. your just filling his time and helping him stay satisfied xesually. If you want more from him, then you should leave him alone. You will never get more than what you are getting.
Yep she will never go from fwb to a woman he respect. She can always stay around as back up pleasure during slower times for him. But once she lowered herself to being fwb and didnt put any value on her body, he sure as hell aint gonna put any value on her.
 

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he gave me the aux cord after we got food and he was dropping me off at home. this girl texts him so i looked through the thread becausw i said why not and idgaf.

anyway, he has been sending her $100 when she doesnt even ask. she always says thank you, doesnt even call him baby. she says shes celibate and that she wants to take her time. he says ok im cool and respect that and will wait for you. they meet up at upscale resturants and go on real dates. he even wanted to buy her a purse but she said nvm. he said he loves being with her and if they cant even be romantic he doesnt mind being FREINDS?? and helping her out.

i thought we were friends..isn't that fwb? i mean i know hes my fwb and thats my fault for settling for that but wow..is the other girl getting played to since hes technically cheating on her?
ive been dating other guys too so i guess i cant complain. he does buy me food and picks me up/drops me off but nothing upscale and he doesn't give money. i dont get good night texts etc

FWB means he fucks you when he needs to and vice versa. That's it.

She's not getting played and he isn't cheating on her. She has no idea you exist because he's keeping it that way. She isn't giving up any xes. He's sending her money and taking her on nice dates. She told him what she was available for and he accepted.

You're getting dick and food which is what you stated you're available for.

No, you can't complain. Again, that's what you made yourself available for.

It sounds like you have caught feelings and are jealous. End it before you really get your feelings hurt.
 

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he gave me the aux cord after we got food and he was dropping me off at home. this girl texts him so i looked through the thread becausw i said why not and idgaf.

anyway, he has been sending her $100 when she doesnt even ask. she always says thank you, doesnt even call him baby. she says shes celibate and that she wants to take her time. he says ok im cool and respect that and will wait for you. they meet up at upscale resturants and go on real dates. he even wanted to buy her a purse but she said nvm. he said he loves being with her and if they cant even be romantic he doesnt mind being FREINDS?? and helping her out.

i thought we were friends..isn't that fwb? i mean i know hes my fwb and thats my fault for settling for that but wow..is the other girl getting played to since hes technically cheating on her?
ive been dating other guys too so i guess i cant complain. he does buy me food and picks me up/drops me off but nothing upscale and he doesn't give money. i dont get good night texts etc
Well he may be courting her while he satisfies his xesual needs with you and she's running game with half of it being done for her by you... sorry op lool
 

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Why risk pregnancy/STDs sleeping with a bum who you don't really like? Too many BW have made that mistake.
Because I like xes, and I haven't been emotionally available for a relationship. I always prefer to have some designated D until I find someone I want to commit to. It makes dating much easier for me because I'm not out here starved for xes, which used to be an issue for me
 

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Because I like xes, and I haven't been emotionally available for a relationship. I always prefer to have some designated D until I find someone I want to commit to. It makes dating much easier for me because I'm not out here starved for xes, which used to be an issue for me
Yikes.
 

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Yes a lot of women judge me for it, we can't all be perfect like you, oh well
I mean, you could be too if you took accountability and worked on yourself but I guess not everyone is interested in that, oh well.

You really can't want more for women who don't want more for themselves. Shame. :broken_heart:
 

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lol, damn. He ain't spending no money on you, but getting all the benefits lol. Just, damn. You women have it all figured out, preferring to a be a side chick to a guy you think is all that, but is probably ugly under his beard. A man that respects you is rejected because he doesn't have the latest trending style. There's a guy out there that will wine and dine you, but you want to be a side chick for some reason. And by the time this guy and all the other guys are done with you, the guy that actually liked you isn't going to want sloppy hundreds. Sound like you already in that situation. You need to gather all of your belongings and move across the country where no one knows your past and start over.
 
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I don’t think the women should be blamed though... she’s giving him xes and emotional physical support he could at least be giving you something that helps you out financially vs helping a woman who is giving nothing and acting bratty/using him for money. I think that just shows how psycho the man is and how both you AND the woman he’s spending on should leave him alone. He’s crazy and obviously irrational dealing with 2 women at the same time and maybe more and he got children out here already. We have to stop making excuses and solutions to this behavior for men. He may even stalk that girl if she ever decides to leave him or something and you too.

Also OP take this as a life lesson. Now you know you do not want to enter a consistent FWB situation without getting what you want and you can protect yourself :)
She's giving him xes...and he's giving her xes. That's it.
 

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I mean, you could be too if you took accountability and worked on yourself but I guess not everyone is interested in that, oh well.

You really can't want more for women who don't want more for themselves. Shame. :broken_heart:

How do you know I'm not working on myself? You don't know me or what type of hell I've been through. I know it makes you feel better to put random women down on the internet but just because a woman likes xes doesn't mean she's depleted. If you actually want to support women, try not to judge them or put them down for being honest. You don't want more for me, you just want to judge me because it makes you feel superior.
 

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It's the taking her out to fancy restaurants and giving her money for me. You better step your game up or find someone new to sleep with boo.
 

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When has it ever been normal for a guy to just go over a woman's house, fµck, and leave? No sort of bills being paid? No sort of nails or hair being did? I wouldn't even feel right doing a woman like that. No sort of lunch being bought? Nah, that's not it, whether the relationship is casual or not, the man should do nice things for you. Get the kids some happy meals or something. You're getting played lol. I could see if he was completely broke, but he's not lol. He's spending money on other girls. That's crazy the more I think about it. I know girls that get treated like this, and they aren't considered bright. Not saying that's you op, but come on now. Don't accept that.
 

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I knew a girl that went over a guy's house to smash and she wasn't even allowed to get food out of the fridge. "You probably think this song is about you, don't you." lol
 

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