I would argue that it could still be considered dating for marriage so long as women moved on when they realized he was not The One. In the modern day, we have more choices and time, so why try to force the first guy you meet into the Husband Mold?I actually think women DO date for marriage and it's been to their detriment in the modern dating world, because they don't understand that 99% of the men that you date and mess around with are not the "one." Constantly trying to make incompatible men their "husbands" and not seeing them for what they actually are. This isn't the 1950s where your soulmate is someone you meet and marry at 19 to grow old together. Those days are gone.
I agree. I see it as, if I want to get married by age X, then I should start seriously looking at least a few years prior to X.Too many women feel like they have time...when they don't. IMO, women should start dating for marriage at age 25+. Too many women (and men) allow their time to be wasted with people they don't see themselves with in the long run.
Too many women feel like they have time...when they don't. IMO, women should start dating for marriage at age 25+. Too many women (and men) allow their time to be wasted with people they don't see themselves with in the long run.
Truer words have never been spoken.I actually think women DO date for marriage and it's been to their detriment in the modern dating world, because they don't understand that 99% of the men that you date and mess around with are not the "one." Constantly trying to make incompatible men their "husbands" and not seeing them for what they actually are. This isn't the 1950s where your soulmate is someone you meet and marry at 19 to grow old together. Those days are gone.
Well, it's nice to see others say it. Stop dating 50-50 men.Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast.
Oh but they are xes-positive......Society constantly brainwashing women to bend to the whims of men in order to "keep a man"
Men have a high advantage holding the key to commitment and have not lost their vice like grip on it whilst women have been swindled out of our control over xes and are now expected to put out after 36 hours or are ghosted
Yup. There is a difference between girlfriend and wife privileges. This needs to be made clear.Men have no incentive to marry when women offer commitment xes children and financial support to long term boyfriends
Some of us are out here trying but they don't want to believe us. They are hell-bent on believing that men and women are the same and being transparent and xes-positive is the thing to do.And also a break down of older women guiding us about the true nature of men, we are taught men are good, have potential, should be given a million chances and our standards are too high when the opposite is the truth and if you give men the easy option and lower the bar they'd rather crawl in sh!t to get underneath it, not raise it
Date only the marrying kindThe reason why men marry some women and not others
Ever wonder why some relationships just work and others don't? Author John Molloy breaks down the reasons.www.today.com
If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.
OP specifically said this thread was for women who want to get married...a separate thread can be made to celebrate women who don't want marriage, but that's not what OP is asking about here.Why can't women who choose not to marry because they don't want to but lead fulfilling and happy lives recognized?
Date only the marrying kindThe reason why men marry some women and not others
Ever wonder why some relationships just work and others don't? Author John Molloy breaks down the reasons.www.today.com
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.
Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind
Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.
The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.
For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.
After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.
Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.
Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.
Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.
Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.
Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.
Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.
Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.
If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.
If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!
I agreeWhy can't women who choose not to marry because they don't want to but lead fulfilling and happy lives recognized?
That’s what my friend did. Despite what people like ks says , men in the real world knows that that they have a time limit . He married a lady who isn’t attracted to him . She finally told him she just married to get help with bills . Now he’s out here trying to find a constant xes partnerI was not expecting the level of cringe I felt while reading this article. It’s basically most men who marry do it because they’re too pathetically old (or old-looking) to stay and succeed in the singles scene, they’re monkey-see-monkey-do types that have to wait for a friend of theirs to propose first, they’re feeling the pressure by women to marry (instead of wanting to do it themselves), or they were the last men standing and women got desperate.
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OP specifically said this thread was for women who want to get married...a separate thread can be made to celebrate women who don't want marriage, but that's not what OP is asking about here.
I have a disclaimer at the bottom of the post stating that this only applies to marriage-minded women.
What do you mean? Like being content single or just not wanting marriage?Why can't women who choose not to marry because they don't want to but lead fulfilling and happy lives recognized?
Do you think thats beneficial or detrimental to their marriage goals (if they have them)?
My mom gave me no strategy at all. She discouraged me from dating altogether. She didn’t force me not to but she wanted me to just focus on school and that’s it. My dad didn’t teach me anything because he was too preoccupied with his own problems. I dated but I had to navigate it on my own. It was rough.Our female elders failed many of us and should have given us strategies instead of filling up our heads with useless nonsense like religion and praying to God for a "husband who is a man of God"
Most of the men in churches are either A. Non existent because they're out fµck!ng instead or B. Devils
Our elders should have taught us not to even entertain men who did not fall into a certain category, no matter how cute and how much attention he provides and that the stupid markers we are taught to value by society are not what we should be looking at like the things he says and only concentrate on the things he does
My elders taught me absolutely nothing about dating. Zilch.Our female elders failed many of us and should have given us strategies instead of filling up our heads with useless nonsense like religion and praying to God for a "husband who is a man of God"
Most of the men in churches are either A. Non existent because they're out fµck!ng instead or B. Devils
Our elders should have taught us not to even entertain men who did not fall into a certain category, no matter how cute and how much attention he provides and that the stupid markers we are taught to value by society are not what we should be looking at like the things he says and only concentrate on the things he does
And this where a lot of us fall down, compared to other groups ...are you black or another race?It’s harder to find a marriage partner in that age range but it’s not impossible.
My mom gave me no strategy at all. She discouraged me from dating altogether. She didn’t force me not to but she wanted me to just focus on school and that’s it. My dad didn’t teach me anything because he was too preoccupied with his own problems. I dated but I had to navigate it on my own. It was rough.
I'm blackAnd this where a lot of us fall down, compared to other groups ...are you black or another race?
I would argue that it could still be considered dating for marriage so long as women moved on when they realized he was not The One. In the modern day, we have more choices and time, so why try to force the first guy you meet into the Husband Mold?
This is good information.Date only the marrying kindThe reason why men marry some women and not others
Ever wonder why some relationships just work and others don't? Author John Molloy breaks down the reasons.www.today.com
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.
Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind
Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.
The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.
For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.
After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.
Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.
Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.
Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.
Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.
Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.
Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.
Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.
If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.
If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!
go outside your raceUmmm how can you date for marriage when many men aren't even marriage material? How does that work?
Personally, I don't do the long-term bf/time-wasting nonsense... I've also dated outside of my race... THOUGH I have encountered many time wasters and men that just weren't marriage material for various reasons. I know that I'll need to move, but I always find it rather perplexing that some like to act as if there's an abundance of great men out there. I've met many women that wanted to be married, but simply weren't meeting quality men. I'm 32 myself, and it's rough out here. Even when you do have a roster etc. etc. etc. Many of these men are trash (single and taken/married). I feel many women just lose hope and settle... I'm single unless I meet someone amazing enough to change that.go outside your race
move to another country where people actually get married
date multiple men and stop the long-term boyfriend time-wasting nonsense