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...and then get confused as to why they haven't found someone to marry? Isn't that backwards?

**This only applies to women who seek marriage.
 

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I actually think women DO date for marriage and it's been to their detriment in the modern dating world, because they don't understand that 99% of the men that you date and mess around with are not the "one." Constantly trying to make incompatible men their "husbands" and not seeing them for what they actually are. This isn't the 1950s where your soulmate is someone you meet and marry at 19 to grow old together. Those days are gone.
 

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I actually think women DO date for marriage and it's been to their detriment in the modern dating world, because they don't understand that 99% of the men that you date and mess around with are not the "one." Constantly trying to make incompatible men their "husbands" and not seeing them for what they actually are. This isn't the 1950s where your soulmate is someone you meet and marry at 19 to grow old together. Those days are gone.
I would argue that it could still be considered dating for marriage so long as women moved on when they realized he was not The One. In the modern day, we have more choices and time, so why try to force the first guy you meet into the Husband Mold?
 

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Date only the marrying kind
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.

Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind

Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.

The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.

For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.

After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.

Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.

Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.

Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.

Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.

Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.

Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.

Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.

If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.

If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!
 

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Too many women feel like they have time...when they don't. IMO, women should start dating for marriage at age 25+. Too many women (and men) allow their time to be wasted with people they don't see themselves with in the long run.
 

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A lot of women are waiting until their late 20's/early 30's to get married, if at all. A lot of younger women nowadays are just playing the field.
 

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Dating is pointless because it's unlikely you'll meet your husband over a dinner "interview". It's wilderness out here anyway, everyone is mad. Just live your life and if your lucky enough to find someone, congrats.
 

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Society constantly brainwashing women to bend to the whims of men in order to "keep a man"
Men have a high advantage holding the key to commitment and have not lost their vice like grip on it whilst women have been swindled out of our control over xes and are now expected to put out after 36 hours or are ghosted

Men have no incentive to marry when women offer commitment xes children and financial support to long term boyfriends

And also a break down of older women guiding us about the true nature of men, we are taught men are good, have potential, should be given a million chances and our standards are too high when the opposite is the truth and if you give men the easy option and lower the bar they'd rather crawl in sh!t to get underneath it, not raise it
 

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A lot of women are waiting until their late 20's/early 30's to get married, if at all. A lot of younger women nowadays are just playing the field.
Do you think thats beneficial or detrimental to their marriage goals (if they have them)?
 

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Too many women feel like they have time...when they don't. IMO, women should start dating for marriage at age 25+. Too many women (and men) allow their time to be wasted with people they don't see themselves with in the long run.
I agree. I see it as, if I want to get married by age X, then I should start seriously looking at least a few years prior to X.
 

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Too many women feel like they have time...when they don't. IMO, women should start dating for marriage at age 25+. Too many women (and men) allow their time to be wasted with people they don't see themselves with in the long run.

I agree, honestly I was a late bloomer, I had a boyfriend from 14-17. Then, I stopped dating to get myself together and didn’t start back until 24. During that time, I dated around, got bored easily. My exes would always mention marrying me, both would constantly bring up marriage. One was going to buy a ring but we broke up. I got in my first serious relationship last year at 29. My boyfriend is serious about marriage, he’s 3 years older than me and he’s marriage minded. You’re right, we don’t have time. I wasted 2 1/2 years on one guy, never again. I was not going to enter my 30s still dating.
 

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Our female elders failed many of us and should have given us strategies instead of filling up our heads with useless nonsense like religion and praying to God for a "husband who is a man of God"

Most of the men in churches are either A. Non existent because they're out fµck!ng instead or B. Devils
Our elders should have taught us not to even entertain men who did not fall into a certain category, no matter how cute and how much attention he provides and that the stupid markers we are taught to value by society are not what we should be looking at like the things he says and only concentrate on the things he does
 

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I actually think women DO date for marriage and it's been to their detriment in the modern dating world, because they don't understand that 99% of the men that you date and mess around with are not the "one." Constantly trying to make incompatible men their "husbands" and not seeing them for what they actually are. This isn't the 1950s where your soulmate is someone you meet and marry at 19 to grow old together. Those days are gone.
Truer words have never been spoken.
Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast.
Well, it's nice to see others say it. Stop dating 50-50 men.
Society constantly brainwashing women to bend to the whims of men in order to "keep a man"
Men have a high advantage holding the key to commitment and have not lost their vice like grip on it whilst women have been swindled out of our control over xes and are now expected to put out after 36 hours or are ghosted
Oh but they are xes-positive......

Ladies, we need to leverage whatever advantages we have. I see women talking about how they want xes too. We all do, but that doesn't mean you can't use it as a bargaining chip when possible. Do not manipulate with 'celibacy' but make him put in work before he gets a sniff. And even after you have slept with him, still make him understand he needs to keep in your good books to keep the well from running dry.
Men have no incentive to marry when women offer commitment xes children and financial support to long term boyfriends
Yup. There is a difference between girlfriend and wife privileges. This needs to be made clear.
And also a break down of older women guiding us about the true nature of men, we are taught men are good, have potential, should be given a million chances and our standards are too high when the opposite is the truth and if you give men the easy option and lower the bar they'd rather crawl in sh!t to get underneath it, not raise it
Some of us are out here trying but they don't want to believe us. They are hell-bent on believing that men and women are the same and being transparent and xes-positive is the thing to do.

I wish they would listen to us more too.
 

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Many of those women are not taught to date for marriage. Think about the communities where there are lots of LTR and live-in couples, but few marriages and weddings...how would women raised in those environments even know to set their intentions on dating for marriage? Who is going to teach them?
 

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It's hard to date for marriage if you were never taught how to date for marriage. I've met too many GROWN women who have the same dating beliefs and patterns they had in high school.

I mean the only difference is they might require a man with a bachelors or masters but it's still the same superficial, surface level preferences and characteristics that a high school boy could have.
 

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Why can't women who choose not to marry because they don't want to but lead fulfilling and happy lives recognized?
OP specifically said this thread was for women who want to get married...a separate thread can be made to celebrate women who don't want marriage, but that's not what OP is asking about here.
 

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Date only the marrying kind
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.

Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind

Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.

The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.

For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.

After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.

Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.

Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.

Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.

Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.

Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.

Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.

Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.

If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.

If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!

I was not expecting the level of cringe I felt while reading this article. It’s basically most men who marry do it because they’re too pathetically old (or old-looking) to stay and succeed in the singles scene, they’re monkey-see-monkey-do types that have to wait for a friend of theirs to propose first, they’re feeling the pressure by women to marry (instead of wanting to do it themselves), or they were the last men standing and women got desperate.
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I guarantee that nut font hankerton will be in here spouting his neanderthal iron age garbage about black women being hoes that will never get married by page 2
 

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Why can't women who choose not to marry because they don't want to but lead fulfilling and happy lives recognized?
I have a disclaimer at the bottom of the post stating that this only applies to marriage-minded women.
 

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I was not expecting the level of cringe I felt while reading this article. It’s basically most men who marry do it because they’re too pathetically old (or old-looking) to stay and succeed in the singles scene, they’re monkey-see-monkey-do types that have to wait for a friend of theirs to propose first, they’re feeling the pressure by women to marry (instead of wanting to do it themselves), or they were the last men standing and women got desperate.
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That’s what my friend did. Despite what people like ks says , men in the real world knows that that they have a time limit . He married a lady who isn’t attracted to him . She finally told him she just married to get help with bills . Now he’s out here trying to find a constant xes partner
 

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Do you think thats beneficial or detrimental to their marriage goals (if they have them)?

It’s harder to find a marriage partner in that age range but it’s not impossible.

Our female elders failed many of us and should have given us strategies instead of filling up our heads with useless nonsense like religion and praying to God for a "husband who is a man of God"

Most of the men in churches are either A. Non existent because they're out fµck!ng instead or B. Devils
Our elders should have taught us not to even entertain men who did not fall into a certain category, no matter how cute and how much attention he provides and that the stupid markers we are taught to value by society are not what we should be looking at like the things he says and only concentrate on the things he does
My mom gave me no strategy at all. She discouraged me from dating altogether. She didn’t force me not to but she wanted me to just focus on school and that’s it. My dad didn’t teach me anything because he was too preoccupied with his own problems. I dated but I had to navigate it on my own. It was rough.
 

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maybe b/c they're having fun being courted and then quickly moving on the next when things don't go their way.
sorry to say, before covid i dated for fun, gifts, experiences and to expand my palate at the expense of others and if i knew would have a damn pandemic in 2020 i would have spent 2018,2019 dating with the intention of marriage. i went through those men like chips in bag, but i'm hopeful that I shall find my Black Kang in 2022
 

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Our female elders failed many of us and should have given us strategies instead of filling up our heads with useless nonsense like religion and praying to God for a "husband who is a man of God"

Most of the men in churches are either A. Non existent because they're out fµck!ng instead or B. Devils
Our elders should have taught us not to even entertain men who did not fall into a certain category, no matter how cute and how much attention he provides and that the stupid markers we are taught to value by society are not what we should be looking at like the things he says and only concentrate on the things he does
My elders taught me absolutely nothing about dating. Zilch.
 

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It’s harder to find a marriage partner in that age range but it’s not impossible.


My mom gave me no strategy at all. She discouraged me from dating altogether. She didn’t force me not to but she wanted me to just focus on school and that’s it. My dad didn’t teach me anything because he was too preoccupied with his own problems. I dated but I had to navigate it on my own. It was rough.
And this where a lot of us fall down, compared to other groups ...are you black or another race?
 

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I actually just had this debate with a friend of mine. For the women I know it all boils down to this. They want Mr. Right, right now. The world don't work that way so rather than wait for someone good they accept trash. When you ask them about it they get defensive and swear there are no good men. When you point out obvious good men that the both of you know they say that dude doesn't count, they aren't with him or that dude really wasn't that good once you get to thinking about it, even though he was leagues above the current man that she is with. They settle so that they won't be alone. The sad part is they end up being alone anyway because their man is busy living his life instead of being with her. You cannot have this conversation with any of these women because this is the way they want to live. They want that trash and they want to complain because if they didn't they'd step up the quality of their lives and demand more from their men. They refuse to step themselves up so therefore they cannot demand more from their man and this is what they end up with. This is one of many conversations they aren't trying to have. I've tried many years over and made little progress.
 
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I would argue that it could still be considered dating for marriage so long as women moved on when they realized he was not The One. In the modern day, we have more choices and time, so why try to force the first guy you meet into the Husband Mold?

But that's the thing...women now force it with every guy they date and start to like. They will start fantasizing about being a man's girlfriend or husband after date 1 or 2 and he hasn't done much of anything. Then you also have the men who know how to run a successful con on women by lovebombing early on so that they can get xes and other benefits after a month of dating. You also have the xes-crazed women who have gotten too comfortable in having xes with men too early and they don't know how to get to know them without being intimate. I think there's a way to date for marriage in a smart way through properly vetting men by observing his behavior/actions, trusting your gut/intuition (too many women betray themselves and think they are being too harsh), not sex!ng too early & ending it quick when things feel "off."
 

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Date only the marrying kind
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.

Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind

Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.

The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.

For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.

After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.

Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.

Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.

Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.

Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.

Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.

Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.

Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.

If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.

If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!
This is good information.
 

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Ummm how can you date for marriage when many men aren't even marriage material? How does that work?
go outside your race
move to another country where people actually get married
date multiple men and stop the long-term boyfriend time-wasting nonsense
 

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go outside your race
move to another country where people actually get married
date multiple men and stop the long-term boyfriend time-wasting nonsense
Personally, I don't do the long-term bf/time-wasting nonsense... I've also dated outside of my race... THOUGH I have encountered many time wasters and men that just weren't marriage material for various reasons. I know that I'll need to move, but I always find it rather perplexing that some like to act as if there's an abundance of great men out there. I've met many women that wanted to be married, but simply weren't meeting quality men. I'm 32 myself, and it's rough out here. Even when you do have a roster etc. etc. etc. Many of these men are trash (single and taken/married). I feel many women just lose hope and settle... I'm single unless I meet someone amazing enough to change that.
 

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how to date
"Stop Facetiming, texting and talking to - it's a breeding ground for unavailable men- go on dates with men who live local." by @Nana Peazant
After 6-10 dates, month, you would know if you want to continue in a relationship with the fellow. If this is not who you envision marrying then move on. Stop wasting your time expecting him to change since what you see is what you get.

The reason why men marry some women and not others
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The purpose of dating if you want marriage is to select a mate not to be in a faux committed relationship. By the way, how can one be in a committed relationship with NO RING? After dating decide together if you want to be in a relationship with him/her You both must agree to this absolutely NO GUESSING GAME OR PITY STORY HERE. If he does not want a relationship then move on ladies. If he wants something you cannot be move on. STOP giving away the prize if you desire marriage.

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Coco Campbell;27587486 said:

A woman can absolutely help who she fall in love with as long as she does not have xes with said person. The minute she has xes with the said person it is all over for herbecause her logical brain shuts down and her emotional brain starts mass-producing the bonding hormone called Oxytocin.That is it, folks, love is nothing more than your brain over producing Oxytocin. So for Gawd's sake keep the logical section of your brain on.


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OK, so now you are in a relationship. Keep dating on the side and let him know that you are a single woman if he asks. Make this relationship time-bound. I will date you for 3 months, 6 months, a Year and then we will decide to get married. When the time is up then the BOTH of you sit down and make a decision to move forward or not. You, ladies, will know in your BRAIN not heart that this relationship is not heading down the aisles. If this then that and move on to the next man. STOP forcing a round peg in a square hole.

Getting a job as well as getting married is a numbers game. You go to the interview and both parties decide if they are good fits for the job before a selection is made. ETA: Treat wanting marriage like a job search process. Normally you send out multiple resumes (multiple men) then you go on multiple interviews (dates) before a selection is made. If the company (man) wants you then they will try you out on probation (time-bound committed relationship) so both employer and employee (Man and Woman) can determine if this is a good fit. Meanwhile, a smart person will realize since the company (man) has given you no guarantees or permanent employment, (engagement ring) then you will keep interviewing (dating) until one of the companies (men you are dating) make a commitment and offer you a job (ring marriage and babies ). Then you stop interviewing (dating ) and sign a contract (marriaGE) with the company (married life together).

Coco Campbell;27599033 said:

One more time for LSA women. Women produce Bonding Hormones such as Oxytocin, estrogen and these hormones are mass produce during xes, childbirth, nursing... Oxytocin is needed so that that woman will bond with the men, children, her parents etc. If a woman did not produce this hormone she would not have been able to bond to her children as you can tell this will have disastrous consequences as there would have been motherless children all over the place. In addition to this women will be wanting to fukk every and anybody just like men. Oxytocin makes us want to have all our children with one man but as you can also tell fukbois decided they are not having that hence messing up nature system. Children are more protected when they all come from the same father and mother hence nature giving us estrogen and oxytocin.Nature decided it would be better for planet earth if mothers produce bonding hormones so that we can bond to people, places and things so we can continue as a species.
Got it, Good. Men do not produce as much estrogen and Oxytocin or none at all so they do not bond as strongly or at all when compared to women. Men may feel a sense of obligation to take care of their own etc. The hormone testosterone that men produce causes them to fight and protect what they think belongs to them etc. Hence men being providers.

Love does not exist it is all hormones. Some people who brain structures that are damaged, psychopaths, cannot love because their brains just cannot produce these hormones. So do not make an emotional decision because of OXYTOCIN.


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Date only the marrying kind
To dramatically increase your chances of marrying you must seek out and date the marrying kind.

Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind

Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is 23, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s 26.

The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages 28 to 33.

For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from 30 to 36.

After age 37 or 38, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After 43, it diminishes even more.

Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.

Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.

Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.

Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run... Fast. Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.

Men often marry women whose backgrounds — religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status matches theirs.

Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.

Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.

If a man over the age of 40 has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a 40-year-old man who has never been married.

If you wish to facilitate a trip to the altar, meet and date only the marrying kind!

Most men don't marry the woman they love(d) the most. (true or false)

I believe ALL women are single until they are at least engaged. Women give and put up with so much bullshite with a man they are not even engaged to. And when the man, rightfully so, ends the relationship they get angry, vindictive and bitter. You do not need to date someone for more than 6 months to a year to know if this is the one.

Women waste their best years playing the girlfriend role without any guarantees. Dating is for finding a mate. How on earth can you choose a mate if you are holed up with one person? Regarding xes, well, that is a decision you just have to make. When men are full of it they lie, or manipulate, they say one thing but do another, their stories are inconsistent, or they try to control me, or try to neg me, if they stand me up for a date, if they treat other people badly, if they try to gaslight me and the list goes on and on.


Remember love is not real rather it is your body flooding the hormone, oxytocin, into your system. Women produced more oxytocin than men hence the reason for your attachment or instant bond. Oxytocin is further enhanced by estrogen. women produce estrogen and men produce testosterone. Look it up yourself. Oxytocin production increases with breastfeeding, xes, and spending a lot of time together.

Women cannot stop their bodies from mass-producing Oxytocin. Oxytocin is not a rational hormone since it creates bonding feelings so that the female will attach to the male and have all her children with him to ensure the survival of her offspring. It is nature way.


If you have mummy or daddy issues you will attach yourself easily to others. This is dysfunctional and you need to work this out with a therapist. It is not real since it is based on your psychological issues.

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MEN DO NOT MASS PRODUCE OXYTOCIN hence why most of the men are lustful and apathetic. Consequently, you have to date multiple men or kiss plenty of frogs before you get a decent man... forget about the prince. Dating is a numbers game fonts. Gone are the days of supervising courtships when family members ensure that the men treated the women fairly, so stop assume oxytocin is love and vet these men probably because mental illness and personality disorders are attached to some of these men.


High levels of testosterone & low levels of serotonin cause people to be both aggressive & lacking in restraints on impulsive/violent behavior. Dopamine is associated with feelings of pleasure & satisfaction. It is also associated with addiction, movement, and motivation. The feelings of satisfaction caused by dopamine can become desired, and to satisfy this the person will repeat behaviors that lead to the release of dopamine. These behaviors can be natural, as with eating and xes, or unnatural, as with drug addiction and crime.

STOP constructing fairytale fantasies in your head about the man and move on. What you see is what you will get.

Without a marriage certificate/contract you are dispensable so date multiple men to increase your chances of finding a life mate.

You don't owe a boyfriend NOTHING and likewise, he owes you jack shite. At any time he can walk away.

Take the emotion out of dating and date to achieve your personal goal. The idea that women are there to nurture men even to our detriment is deeply sown into our societies.

A girlfriend is not a wife

Give men space and time to think about you

His family is his family and will always side with him so be careful confiding to his family.

If your man is a mama boy just abandon that ship. Do not even lift a finger to fix it because you can never break that emotional incestuous soul ties. Move on and allow mama to be the wife.

Men provide and protect and women's love and nurture. Hormones dictate that not mere mortals.

Most women do not get an orgasm from vaginal xes. The clit is a woman's penis so demand he pleases you as you please him. Most of the pleasure nerve endings are on the penis and clit. Speak up because men will let you know.

Save your emotional energy for yourself. Take care of your needs. He is a man, not a child! Allow him to take care of his needs. He is not a puppy or child. Stop emasculating grown men because he will eventually dislike you for treating him with love and care. Love and care for yourself and for your birth children and for your HUSBANDS
Protect your energy ladies

A boyfriend man friend is not a HUSBAND.

Only give boyfriends and man friends minimal attention. If you date multiple men then you will have to spread the minimal attention around. Thus preventing you from bonding with them.

Remember dating must be goal-oriented and NO a man's love is not a goal. Your papa and mama should have given you that love, not a boyfriend.

Men are dogs and dogs bite so stop chasing men


A man who invests in you will give you his TIME and energy, he is there for you, he will make sure your needs are met, he will take care of things around you, he will be there for you, he will provide and protect, he will be emotionally vulnerable with you, he will open up to you, keep his promises, he will remember details about your life, he will make you a priority, he will treat you with respect,

Money does not really equate to investing.

The less a man has: looks, resources, etc...the more manipulation, fear, stalking, etc tactics they use against the desired target, almost like a sociopathic game


Dating is not hard

Ladies date multiple men until 1 of them who you like propose.

Stop loving men you are dating.

Get a puppy to love if you can not love yourself.

If the date does not fit you must acquit.

Get tested and wear protection if y'all sex!ng.

If you're a woman then know your logical brain will be turn off after sex!ng.

After 6 dates have a gentle, light and airy status talk with him. Trust, he knows if you are the one after 6 dates. Better to have the talk than waste time.

Know that men will lie for puzzy so if his actions does not match his words then you are not the girl friend.

A longterm relationship is a situation: and a marriage is a commitment.

Set a time limit on the situationship

Marriage is like any other job. It's much easier if you like the boss.



 

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