Maxine
Diana Incarnate
Look this all started because any time we met up, she kept talking about him but in a very negative way. Naturally, this formed a general dislike of her man amongst us (family and friends). But recently, after much introspection and skills application, I decided to remove myself emotionally from her drama. It’s not my relationship, if she chooses to stay with someone who is allegedly treating her like scum then what am I supposed to do? I don’t need to hear it.
So our other friend came out to dinner too and she started it with basically saying what I’ve said here. “Mia, why do you tell us all this terrible stuff about Darren but you continue to stay with him?” And my friend lost it, saying we should be supportive. But I chimed in, told her that she may not realize it but she was basically impacting our opinions of him. I told her she may want to dial it back and not tell us every single petty argument. To not involve us in her relationship cause who knows, maybe that arguing and other bs is their normal dynamic that works for them. At this point she isn’t going anywhere.
And to our shock, she apologized. But she claims she doesn’t get the big deal. I’m like ok whatever girl. My friend who popped off told me “she’s always saying how n****** ain’t sh!t but clinging to this one. I’m not listening no more!” after we got back to her place. I’m glad people in our friend group are starting to speak up and tell her to leave us out of it.
Have y’all dealt with friends like this? We didn’t mean to be harsh I was just sick of hearing negative sh!t from her all the time. She doesn’t have a kid with this dude and it’s been a year so if it’s that fµck!ng bad then she can leave lol.
So our other friend came out to dinner too and she started it with basically saying what I’ve said here. “Mia, why do you tell us all this terrible stuff about Darren but you continue to stay with him?” And my friend lost it, saying we should be supportive. But I chimed in, told her that she may not realize it but she was basically impacting our opinions of him. I told her she may want to dial it back and not tell us every single petty argument. To not involve us in her relationship cause who knows, maybe that arguing and other bs is their normal dynamic that works for them. At this point she isn’t going anywhere.
And to our shock, she apologized. But she claims she doesn’t get the big deal. I’m like ok whatever girl. My friend who popped off told me “she’s always saying how n****** ain’t sh!t but clinging to this one. I’m not listening no more!” after we got back to her place. I’m glad people in our friend group are starting to speak up and tell her to leave us out of it.
Have y’all dealt with friends like this? We didn’t mean to be harsh I was just sick of hearing negative sh!t from her all the time. She doesn’t have a kid with this dude and it’s been a year so if it’s that fµck!ng bad then she can leave lol.