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21 year old female dating a 38 year old male or just a damn older than her lol.

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i dated somebody much older when i was around that age. the real question is what does a 38 year old man see in a 21 year old woman. how mature can he be? i soon realized he wasn't ambitious enough for me, but he was a really nice guy and i learned from the experience. he wasn't playing the games guys my age were playing.
 

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If she was in her mid to late 20s its okay, but at 21 you are just getting started in adulthood (thats how I see it). At 38, that man knows the game and could play it pretty well...especially when it comes to control. Plus he may want kids and marriage very soon. At 21, you may not even think of wedding bells or being pregnant.

But then again, there are some people at 21 who have old souls and may be able to connect more with older people (I've been told that this is far and few between). If thats the case, then it can work but it will take a lot of commitment because of what may be around you.

I thought that going up to 30 was kind of old (I'm 24), but I guess not.

Yea i agree with the bolded red about some youngings having old souls. Since I was a BABY my nickname from my mom has been "Granny",lol. As a child when I was able to hold conversations I always gravitated towards older people, same thing nowadays. I mean i get along fine with my peers, but I also get along with the OLDER folks as well, I dont discriminate far as friendships go..


Now for the Original topic at hand, I think folks focus too much on ages in relationships at the WRONG TIMES. Now if she is underage, yea its bad, but if she is OF AGE and he treats her well and there is some genuine love between those two, there is nothing wrong with it in my eyes. Its hard finding a good man and if he just so happens to come along, why pass him up because of age, thats crazy.

For myself I only date people who are UP TO my parents ages (which is 17 and 19 yrs older than me.) Dude has to be really special to be 20+ years my senior and have me interested in considering annything serious with him.
 

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dating way older dudes is not for me, but far be it for me to knock anyone else doing it.
 

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i like a simple broad that only dates older.


she aint got no self esteem, easy pickins

So younger females who date older men are simple, and have low self esteem? Now if that aint the craziest thing I have ever heard in my life I dont know what is. This kinda thinking from a OLDER man would most def not get ANY kinda play from MY YOUNG ASS!!!!
 

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If anyone has seen that movie "Hard Candy", that guy from the internet met that girl and she called herself an "old soul".

Again, if this is how you're going about things and you wish for marriage, you better be marrying these guys before you turn 30.
 

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So younger females who date older men are simple, and have low self esteem? Now if that aint the craziest thing I have ever heard in my life I dont know what is. This kinda thinking from a OLDER man would most def not get ANY kinda play from MY YOUNG ASS!!!!

b!tch I probably already fµcked you.
 

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b!tch I probably already fµcked you.

I really doubt it. I am very SELECTIVE in who I share MY BODY with, and a man calling a woman a b!tch for ANY REASON would not get the time of day FROM ME, cause I aint into disrespectful men, YOUNG OR OLD!!!!. Sorry I am not one of the simple ones you THINK you could get into... Try again SUCKER!!!
 

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Britney Murphy finally got a cover story on OK mag, and they made kendra/baby a byline (as it should be). They said her husband wanted to date her when she was a kid actress, but he "patiently waited" until she was of age. I thought that was so gross. Especially seeing how he looks...


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im telling you i ran up in your guts with ease.

If thats the story you need to help you sleep at night, KEEP THINKING THAT. If we did, you probably were so small and lame which would be the main reason why I wouldnt remember it. Get ya game up and be a gentleman GRAPE NUTS, being an asshole is NOT ATTRACTIVE at any age.
 

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i dont have a problem with it since my mom date my dad when she was 17 and he was 33. they have been married for over 20 yrs now and happy as ever. to each its own.

i also date older and guys my age. i don't discriminate. if we click, we click.
 

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Would you guys have a problem with this if your 21 year old female family member or friend dated or boyfriend was a 38 year old man.
Have you guys dated a older man before lsa ladies.
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I would have an issue with it but all I can do is tell my daughter that I disagree with her decision. But it's her life and she will have to experience and learn from it.
 

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Well, we hope those old men are marrying you.

Because if not, you will be like those women on ABC Nightline approaching their mid 30s and still single. All the while, looking at the 18-24 year olds dating guys in your age range with a different perspective.

PS. I remember one LSA poster who dated a ton of older guys. I haven't heard anything about a wedding, but there is a baby.

Older men marry younger women all the time. When I met my husband to be I was 28 and he was 42. Now I'm 33 (approaching my mid thirties as you said, LOL) and he is 48.

It was never an option for me to date men my own age or younger. Personal preference, that's all.
 

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All I know is if my 20yr daughter brought home a man twice her age, y'all can call me batman if ya know what I mean.
I've been around too many older cats to learn that they are no different then younger men, they just got more money which seems to be the #1 reason why most women prefer a older man!!!
 

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i dont have a problem with it since my mom date my dad when she was 17 and he was 33. they have been married for over 20 yrs now and happy as ever. to each its own.

i also date older and guys my age. i don't discriminate. if we click, we click.

Wow.
 

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Too old for her.

Why is he dating someone so young? He can't get anyone his age?
 

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I <3 old men. <3!
Save for the ones that are eager as hell about dating/being seen with a young woman. I like the ones that persue you assuming that u are older, and are genuinely shocked when they learn that you are in your 20's. They are easier to be around. If you're younger than my parents, you're in my range.
 

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JuJu Varejão;4772386 said:
I <3 old men. <3!
Save for the ones that are eager as hell about dating/being seen with a young woman. I like the ones that persue you assuming that u are older, and are genuinely shocked when they learn that you are in your 20's. They are easier to be around. If you're younger than my parents, you're in my range.

Or the ones who wanted someone older in the first place. When I met my husband he was interested in women his own age or older. His wife had been a couple years his senior. I don't think women my age were even on his radar, but when he met me, I brought him over to the dark side.

*evil chuckle*
 

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I'm contemplating getting an older dude

I do LIKE old men for some strange reason

It ain't a "daddy" thing cause I don't do that "daddy" sh!t

I have a boyfriend but he's three years younger than me sweet guy and I'm not letting him go anytime soon but I do want someone my age and a bit older

not too OLD I can get wild don't want dude to have a heart attack doing stuff wit me
 

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I'm in my early 30's and I've come across men in their 50's who were sexy as hell...omg
 

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The problem is they will always be SMARTER, WISER, CONTROLLING, AND DEMANDING. ALWAYS!

Mind games...mind games.....mind games.....Why can't he date someone his own age?

He will fµck you up! He will

Stick with 6 years older or younger. Don't do it
 

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If the 21 year old has her mind right, has goals, and isn't gullible- I would still say keep it simple; no long-term relationship. At 21, what you enjoy and want out of life- shouldn't be on his radar. If it is, he probably doesn't have it all together. Late 20s, you have learned enough to proceed at your own risk.
 

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