OK so today me and a group were having a discussion for school and we were talking about our preferences and what we were and weren't attracted to and I had said I was attracted to East African men with the same phenotype as me (im Somali btw) and I want my children to look like me, some Nigerian guy asked me if I was attracted to West African Men and I paused for a second unsure whether or not I should say the truth and I could feel a strange tension especially with the men, and I replied that I am not attracted to West African men and I am not attracted like they're features and when I tell you EVERYONE CAME AT ME!
Telling me I was colorist and racist and featurist for just saying that I was attracted to them. There was a AA guy who had mentioned he was attracted to light skin women but nobody came at him like this, I felt put in a very awkward position as I had to explain that it wasn't just features but also culture that made more attracted to my own. I also explained (especially to the women who were going hard) that there were black men who constantly dissed black women, especially dark skinned and mentioned how they would constantly chase after light and white women and I asked how I could ever be attracted to a man who doesn't love himself?
When I tell you the guys in the group got so pissed and started making fun of Somali men and they're "big foreheads" and making "captain jokes" and claimed that I didn't want to be "black" and was "arabized" by that time I had enough and told them that even though Somali Men have MANY flaws at least they like themselves, they're culture, and don't chase after white women and stormed out (it was extremely uncalled for and immature I know). OK LSA I know I reacted a little too much but honestly being a light skin who kinda looks Arab, I see the way these dudes fetishize the sh!t out of anything non black and put it on a pedestal FIRST HAND and I don't respect that one bit, honestly the people I have respect for are they're women but I wish the girls I was in the group with could see it for what it really was and not argue as hard with me.
This is kinda rushed but IDK LSA am I tripping/overreacting?
EDIT: Ok just changed the title, wrote it rather quickly and I understand that can cause misunderstanding. Yes of course I consider myself a black African and contrary to belief most Somali's do except the Arab worshiping ***** who believe religion makes ethnicity
Telling me I was colorist and racist and featurist for just saying that I was attracted to them. There was a AA guy who had mentioned he was attracted to light skin women but nobody came at him like this, I felt put in a very awkward position as I had to explain that it wasn't just features but also culture that made more attracted to my own. I also explained (especially to the women who were going hard) that there were black men who constantly dissed black women, especially dark skinned and mentioned how they would constantly chase after light and white women and I asked how I could ever be attracted to a man who doesn't love himself?
When I tell you the guys in the group got so pissed and started making fun of Somali men and they're "big foreheads" and making "captain jokes" and claimed that I didn't want to be "black" and was "arabized" by that time I had enough and told them that even though Somali Men have MANY flaws at least they like themselves, they're culture, and don't chase after white women and stormed out (it was extremely uncalled for and immature I know). OK LSA I know I reacted a little too much but honestly being a light skin who kinda looks Arab, I see the way these dudes fetishize the sh!t out of anything non black and put it on a pedestal FIRST HAND and I don't respect that one bit, honestly the people I have respect for are they're women but I wish the girls I was in the group with could see it for what it really was and not argue as hard with me.
This is kinda rushed but IDK LSA am I tripping/overreacting?
EDIT: Ok just changed the title, wrote it rather quickly and I understand that can cause misunderstanding. Yes of course I consider myself a black African and contrary to belief most Somali's do except the Arab worshiping ***** who believe religion makes ethnicity
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