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Anthony Bourdain's daughter Ariane, 14, reflects on sweet relationship with her late father in new biography, as Parts Unknown director slams 'f****** what’s-her-name' Asia Argento for bringing 'negative energy' into his life​

  • Bourdain's longtime assistant Laurie Woolever interviewed his close family and friends for her new book Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography
  • Ariane and her mother, Bourdain's second wife Ottavia Busia-Bourdain, both described him as being a great father before he died by suicide in June 2018
  • The teen, who was 11 when she lost her dad, recalled how he taught her how to cook, saying they'd watch Ratatouille and make the French vegetable dish
  • Bourdain married Busia-Bourdain and had Ariane in 2007, two years after his first marriage to his high school sweetheart Nancy Bourdain ended in divorce
  • The couple separated in 2016, but they never legally divorced, even during his roller-coaster romance with Argento in the last two years of his life
  • Bourdain hanged himself while staying at a hotel in Kaysersberg, France, where he was filming an upcoming episode of his CNN show Parts Unknown
  • In the book, Parts Unknown director Michael Steed criticized Argento for bringing negativity back into Bourdain's life
  • However, in Roadrunner: A Film About Anthony Bourdain, Steed noted that 'men don't normally kill themselves because they broke up with somebody'
  • Argento was not interviewed for the book, nor did she appear in the new documentary about Bourdain, which came out in July
Anthony Bourdain's 14-year-old daughter Ariane has opened up about her touching relationship with her late father in a new biography, recalling how they would watch Ratatouille together and make the French stewed vegetable dish just like the characters in the animated film.

Ariane and her mother, Bourdain's second wife Ottavia Busia-Bourdain, were among several of the chef's family and friends who were interviewed by his longtime assistant Laurie Woolever for her book Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography.

Bourdain was launched to stardom with the publication of Kitchen Confidential, his memoir about life as a chef in New York's restaurant scene, and he went on to explore the world while hosting his many food and travel series.

However in June 2018, the world was left reeling after Bourdain took his own life - a tragedy that is explored in the new biography, for which Woolever spoke to several of his closest friends and family, including some who weighed in on his 'obsessive' love affair with Italian actress and director Asia Argento, and the impact it had on the chef during the final years of his life.

In an excerpt from the book published by Vanity Fair, Busia-Bourdain said Bourdain could be 'impulsive,' but she noted he was also 'very levelheaded' when it came to making decisions that would affect her or Ariane's well-being.

Memories: Anthony Bourdain's life is chronicled through his friends and family's stories in the new book Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography

Memories: Anthony Bourdain's life is chronicled through his friends and family's stories in the new book Bourdain: The Definitive Oral Biography

Family: Bourdain's daughter Ariane and his second wife Ottavia Busia-Bourdain were among those interviewed by his longtime assistant Laurie Woolever for the oral biography

Family: Bourdain's daughter Ariane and his second wife Ottavia Busia-Bourdain were among those interviewed by his longtime assistant Laurie Woolever for the oral biography

'As a dad, he was always the good cop,' she explained. 'I think it was fair, because he was around so little, so when he was home, there was no enforcing homework, there was no discipline. He was 100 percent fun dad, and he called himself "Silly Dada," cause that’s what he was doing.'

The celebrity chef-turned-TV host married Busia-Bourdain and had Ariane in 2007, two years after his first marriage to his high school sweetheart Nancy Bourdain ended in divorce. The couple separated in 2016, but they never legally divorced, even during his roller-coaster romance with Argento.

Bourdain, a recovering cocaine and heroin addict, suffered from depression and died by suicide in June 2018 at age 61. He hanged himself while staying at the Le Chambard hotel in Kaysersberg, France, where he was filming an upcoming episode of his CNN show Parts Unknown.

Ariane, who was 11 when she lost her father, has fond memories of the time she spent with him, saying he 'played with [her] all the time' and encouraged creativity and weirdness.

'If I was like, "Hey, let’s pretend to do this," he’d pretty much do it all the time,' she told Woolever, recounting how he let her put soap in his hair while playing barbershop.

Legacy: Bourdain explored the world while hosting his many food and travel series

Legacy: Bourdain explored the world while hosting his many food and travel series

First love: Bourdain married his high school sweetheart Nancy Bourdain (pictured) in 1985. They divorced two decades later in 2005

First love: Bourdain married his high school sweetheart Nancy Bourdain (pictured) in 1985. They divorced two decades later in 2005

Second marriage: Bourdain wed Busia-Bourdain in 2007, two years after his divorce

Second marriage: Bourdain wed Busia-Bourdain in 2007, two years after his divorce

However, she realized at a young age that her dad wasn't like other parents in terms of what she was allowed to watch and do.

'I watched Archer with my dad, which I found pretty funny, even as a little kid. Of course, I still watched the regular kid TV shows, but I wasn’t hearing about anyone else who was playing Grand Theft Auto with their parents,' she explained. 'And I kind of realized when I was younger that, "Oh, not a lot of kids fall asleep to Dexter."'

Ariane said her dad liked to take her to fast-food restaurants that her mother didn't approve of and 'would make it seem like we were on this mission.'

He would have her tell her mom they were going to get the newspaper downstairs, and then they would sneak out to go to Papaya King to get a hot dog and a shake.

'Then we’d come back and say, "That was an interesting newspaper yeah,' she recalled. 'I’m sure my mom knew. Why would it take us twenty minutes to get the newspaper?'

Bourdain liked to make breakfast for his daughter, according to Busia-Bourdain, and when she got older, he started to teach her how to cook.



Doting dad: Bourdain and Busia-Bourdain welcomed their daughter, Ariane, in 2007

Doting dad: Bourdain and Busia-Bourdain welcomed their daughter, Ariane, in 2007

Looking back: Ariane, 14, said her father 'played with [her] all the time' and encouraged creativity and weirdness

Looking back: Ariane, 14, said her father 'played with [her] all the time' and encouraged creativity and weirdness

So sweet: The teen, who was 11 when she lost her dad, recalled how he taught her how to cook

So sweet: The teen, who was 11 when she lost her dad, recalled how he taught her how to cook

'I always cooked with him. We’d always cook ratatouille, from the movie Ratatouille, and we made it exactly like they made it,' Ariane said. 'We’d cook schnitzel; he’d make little stations: one of them has the breading, one has the flour, one has the eggs, and my dad put it in the pan.

'He’d cook omelets for me all the time, and I’d help him flip it. He would let me sprinkle chocolate chips or blueberries into pancakes, and then he’d let me flip the pancake a little. When we were in the Hamptons, he’d cook dinner, cook breakfast, so that’s when he really cooked for me.'

'He taught me how to cut things and not chop off my fingers, to curl my fingers under. He gave me my own little knife, and I still have it, and still use it.'

Busia-Bourdain said Bourdain was concerned about staying healthy 'because he wanted to be around for Ariane,' but he became 'impulsive' in the last two years of his life after he met Argento and moved out.

Journalist Maria Bustillos told Woolever that she found Bourdain's infatuation with Argento to be particularly alarming.

Last love: Bourdain and Busia-Bourdain separated in 2016, but they never legally divorced, even during his romance with Italian actress Asia Argento in the last two years of his life

Last love: Bourdain and Busia-Bourdain separated in 2016, but they never legally divorced, even during his romance with Italian actress Asia Argento in the last two years of his life

Alarmed: A number of Bourdain's friends and colleagues weighed in on his seemingly 'obsessive' love affair with Argento in the biography

Alarmed: A number of Bourdain's friends and colleagues weighed in on his seemingly 'obsessive' love affair with Argento in the biography

Tragic suicide: Bourdain hanged himself in June 2018 while staying at a hotel in Kaysersberg, France, where he was filming an upcoming episode of his CNN show Parts Unknown

Tragic suicide: Bourdain hanged himself in June 2018 while staying at a hotel in Kaysersberg, France, where he was filming an upcoming episode of his CNN show Parts Unknown

'The way he was in love, and described being in love, I would have been concerned if I’d been one of his friends. And I’m not saying that in retrospect; I thought it then [in February 2018], for sure,' she said.

'He didn’t go for five minutes without saying, "Asia thinks this" and "Asia thinks that." He sounded like a person who was deeply infatuated, obsessed, even, and it struck me as a vulnerability in him,' she recalled.

'Just the way that the idea of who he was when he was alone was so bound up with this lady, that was concerning. I would have been concerned.'

Release: Woolever's biography about Bourdain's life was published on Tuesday

Release: Woolever's biography about Bourdain's life was published on Tuesday

In an excerpt from the book shared by the New York Post, director Michael Steed, who worked with Bourdain on Parts on Unknown and No Reservations, criticized Argento for bringing negativity back into his life.

'There was this peak period where he seemed happy. That addictive personality was just all focused on jiu-jitsu,' he said. 'And then f****** what’s-her-name enters his life, and he starts smoking again, and it just sort of got back into that negative energy that fit this weird fantasy character that he felt he was.'

Argento, who has denied her relationship with Bourdain contributed to his death, was not interviewed for the book, nor did she appear in the documentary Roadrunner: A Film About Anthony Bourdain, which came out in July.

Their tumultuous relationship is the focus of the last part of the documentary as it paints the picture that the celebrity chef had become 'addicted' to the Italian actress.

It also addresses how paparazzi photos emerged of Argento embracing a male friend and holding hands in Rome just five days before Bourdain's death.

The documentary does not blame Argento for Bourdain's suicide, but an Indiewire reviewer said the movie 'comes dangerously close to exploiting the scenario.'

Missing link: Woolever (pictured) did not interview Argento for the book about Bourdain

Missing link: Woolever (pictured) did not interview Argento for the book about Bourdain

Harsh words: In the book, Parts Unknown director Michael Steed (pictured) criticized Argento for bringing negativity back into Bourdain's life before his death

Harsh words: In the book, Parts Unknown director Michael Steed (pictured) criticized Argento for bringing negativity back into Bourdain's life before his death

Tribute: The book's publication comes just a few months after the release of the documentary Roadrunner: A Film About Anthony Bourdain, which was directed by Morgan Neville (pictured)

Tribute: The book's publication comes just a few months after the release of the documentary Roadrunner: A Film About Anthony Bourdain, which was directed by Morgan Neville (pictured)

Morgan Neville, the director of the film, told the Wall Street Journal that Bourdain and Argento's relationship was like 'quicksand' so he only wanted to touch on it briefly.

'You can make a whole film just about that and that was not the film I wanted to make. It gets really complicated and in a way that to me is not ultimately enlightening,' he said.

'What I included was a fraction of what was there. So if people think there's a lot, let me tell you, there is very little compared to what's there. I feel like I showed tremendous restraint, even though people may not know that. And I think I was very fair with having seen all the facts. I'm very comfortable with what I did.'

Neville said the film was heavily vetted by his lawyers, including in Italy, as well as CNN's legal team given CNN Films was an executive producer — in case Argento or someone else objected to how they had been portrayed.

'I went out of my way to make sure I put the quote in from Michael Steed saying, "Tony killed Tony, you know, 60-year-old men don't normally kill themselves because they broke up with somebody,"' Neville said.

'I'm not saying she caused his suicide. Suicide is a private and I think selfish act,' he continued. 'I was merely trying to paint a picture, I think accurately, of the different factors in his life that were going on, and there were many of them.

'The impression of him really over the last year was him just being much more manic and much more depressive.'

 

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from the roadrunner movie, it seemed that she took a lot of the authenticity from his show. they would have to redo scenes when before her the show the interactions with the locals would just flow naturally. someone correct me if Im wrong.
What did she do?
 

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what a sweet memory
Ariane said her dad liked to take her to fast-food restaurants that her mother didn't approve of and 'would make it seem like we were on this mission.'

He would have her tell her mom they were going to get the newspaper downstairs, and then they would sneak out to go to Papaya King to get a hot dog and a shake.

'Then we’d come back and say, "That was an interesting newspaper yeah,' she recalled. 'I’m sure my mom knew. Why would it take us twenty minutes to get the newspaper?'
 

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Asia is fµcked up. She had xes with a 17 year old when she was 37 and paid for him to stay quiet. His name is Jimmy Bennet and he was a child actor who played her son. He came out saying the whole thing fµcked him up.

There was a rumor Anthony paid Jimmy off. I always wondered if the guilt around that contributed to his death.

 

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from the roadrunner movie, it seemed that she took a lot of the authenticity from his show. they would have to redo scenes when before her the show the interactions with the locals would just flow naturally. someone correct me if Im wrong.
Hmm... This possibly explains that episode where he bizarrely erupted in anger – and they kept all that footage in of him having this weird meltdown.

I think they were off the coast of Italy (his girlfriend's homeland). Bourdain did an underwater dive to see a shipwreck or something, and everything looked fine (to me). But when he came out the water, he became LIVID!!! He started bitching about something that didn't happen right – I think it had to do with the audio underwater.

They showed him having this hissy fit, and then sitting & seething for however long it took him to calm down. He looked so mad & deep in thought – like he was about to up & quit the show forever.

Not only did they not edit out his breakdown, IIRC they even added swirling psychedelic effects to it! Lol

He never used to act that unhinged on-camera. Have to wonder if his rawness had something to do with That Woman. :(
 

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I remember that episode! Yeah he was upset that it was not an authentic experience.
Hmm... This possibly explains that episode where he bizarrely erupted in anger – and they kept all that footage in of him having this weird meltdown.

I think they were off the coast of Italy (his girlfriend's homeland). Bourdain did an underwater dive to see a shipwreck or something, and everything looked fine (to me). But when he came out the water, he became LIVID!!! He started bitching about something that didn't happen right – I think it had to do with the audio underwater.

They showed him having this hissy fit, and then sitting & seething for however long it took him to calm down. He looked so mad & deep in thought – like he was about to up & quit the show forever.

Not only did they not edit out his breakdown, IIRC they even added swirling psychedelic effects to it! Lol

He never used to act that unhinged on-camera. Have to wonder if his rawness had something to do with That Woman. :(
 

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So many reasons but most of all how clueless he was about how many people truly cared for him.
That he left behind a young child.
How toxic Asia was to not only him but his work.

Depression really warps your entire view on the world, he probably thought they’d be better off without him and it’s sad. I wish he had never dealt with her.
 

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I remember that episode! Yeah he was upset that it was not an authentic experience.

She interfered with production a lot. At one point I guess trying to help her financially he asked about making her a producer then was shocked to find out how low their pay is.

Her demands were crazy like they HAD to license a very expensive out of budget song. She got long term people fired like Zach.
 

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