DrapedNDiamondz
Bad B&tch & The Walls Ain’t Bending!!
As the title states, I have been experiencing discord within my family (mom, 2 brothers) due to some of their views regarding blackness.
Previously, during any discussions they would always state that “I’m racist towards white people”, when in actuality I am proud of my black heritage and they are not.
We’ve mostly been a tight-knit family but it was due to me biting my tongue on many race-related discussions. I am more opinionated now & I don’t mind speaking my opinion but I have come to the realization that my mother isn’t proud of her heritage (African-American woman) and has taught those same destructive behaviors to my brothers.
I love my family and don’t want to disrupt these relationships but I refuse to be gaslighted by them as well.
Has anyone else experienced gaslighting and manipulation regarding race discussions with their families & how were you able to combat it?
Also, are there any books you may recommend for dismantling anti-blackness?
Previously, during any discussions they would always state that “I’m racist towards white people”, when in actuality I am proud of my black heritage and they are not.
We’ve mostly been a tight-knit family but it was due to me biting my tongue on many race-related discussions. I am more opinionated now & I don’t mind speaking my opinion but I have come to the realization that my mother isn’t proud of her heritage (African-American woman) and has taught those same destructive behaviors to my brothers.
I love my family and don’t want to disrupt these relationships but I refuse to be gaslighted by them as well.
Has anyone else experienced gaslighting and manipulation regarding race discussions with their families & how were you able to combat it?
Also, are there any books you may recommend for dismantling anti-blackness?