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I am a graduate MFT student and I can't wait to come into the field. Though, I also can't wait to be in the same social circles as male mental health workers. My (white) male therapist was amazing! We both agreed that we would have a great friendship or relationship if we were in a different circumstance.
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Pros:
Sensitive
Empathetic
Most likely more culturally sensitive

Knows healthy ways to communicate
Probably great in bed because of great listening skills
More patience for your nagging

Cons
Can sometimes be ca-ca crazy themselves
knows how to manipulate your psyche
Maybe over in tune with their feminine energy
I noticed lot of white therapists come from families that are the opposite of them (conservative, small town, racist, etc)


So...ya'll tryna hump Hannibal?
 

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No.

My therapist does talk about her dating life sometimes, though. She says she usually attracts needy types or people who try to get free therapy out of her. It's strange.
 

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No.

My therapist does talk about her dating life sometimes, though. She says she usually attracts needy types or people who try to get free therapy out of her. It's strange.
I attract these types as well. It makes sense for highly empathetic people.
 

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If I were to date one I would never use him as a free therapist. I would expect that he reserve that side of him for the workplace. With that said, I would be afraid of being psycho analysed and manipulated.
Maybe they're better for a one night stand.
 

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I am a graduate MFT student and I can't wait to come into the field. Though, I also can't wait to be in the same social circles as male mental health workers. My (white) male therapist was amazing! We both agreed that we would have a great friendship or relationship if we were in a different circumstance.
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Pros:
Sensitive
Empathetic
Most likely more culturally sensitive

Knows healthy ways to communicate
Probably great in bed because of great listening skills
More patience for your nagging

Cons
Can sometimes be ca-ca crazy themselves
knows how to manipulate your psyche
Maybe over in tune with their feminine energy
I noticed lot of white therapists come from families that are the opposite of them (conservative, small town, racist, etc)


So...ya'll tryna hump Hannibal?
I'm a MFT as well and it's been an interesting experience of just some of the guys who've I've attracted. The pros are things I've heard the most feedback from though
 

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I haven’t, but my husband is married to one.

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lol, kind of just kidding. While I’m a licensed therapist, I’m also a psychiatrist and that’s my actual job. I just renew my therapist license because I’m getting the CEU’s yearly anyways.

Also, y’all need to chill with all of this manipulative therapist mess. I don’t bring my work home with me :eyeroll:
 

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My friend dated a man who was about to graduate and become therapist and he was annoying as hell. Always tryna diagnose us. Like stfu
 

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I haven’t, but my husband is married to one.

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lol, kind of just kidding. While I’m a licensed therapist, I’m also a psychiatrist and that’s my actual job. I just renew my therapist license because I’m getting the CEU’s yearly anyways.

Also, y’all need to chill with all of this manipulative therapist mess. I don’t bring my work home with me :eyeroll:
This comment is very chaotic and lowkey proved my point.
 

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Yes, don't.

Elaborate!
This individual played many needless games and hid behind the know it all mask of the profession but in essence was an OK person just not my taste.

I'm friends with 4 black woman, psychiatrists and psychologists, who have been married for 10 plus years with families, I have another shrink friend who lovingly makes bad choices with decent but mercurial men.
 
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Are you trying to get therapy for free or for the therapist to reduce the fees? :ROFLMAO:
 
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Yes, don't.


This individual played many needless games and hid behind the know it all mask of the profession but in essence was an OK person just not my taste.

I'm friends with 4 black woman, psychiatrists and psychologists, who have been married for 10 plus years with families, I have another shrink friend who lovingly makes bad choices with decent but mercurial men.
Yes its called the "expert stance" that a lot of therapist take. Beneficial in sessions though useless in real life.
 

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I am a graduate MFT student and I can't wait to come into the field. Though, I also can't wait to be in the same social circles as male mental health workers. My (white) male therapist was amazing! We both agreed that we would have a great friendship or relationship if we were in a different circumstance.
View attachment 2518952
Pros:
Sensitive
Empathetic
Most likely more culturally sensitive

Knows healthy ways to communicate
Probably great in bed because of great listening skills
More patience for your nagging

Cons
Can sometimes be ca-ca crazy themselves

knows how to manipulate your psyche
Maybe over in tune with their feminine energy
I noticed lot of white therapists come from families that are the opposite of them (conservative, small town, racist, etc)


So...ya'll tryna hump Hannibal?
That right there is the main reason I wouldn't.

Imagine a therapist having one of the biggest red flags on planet earth considering their job is to help you...
 

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Keep in mind non-therapists do this too though...
That right there is the main reason I wouldn't.

Imagine a therapist having one of the biggest red flags on planet earth considering their job is to help you..
 

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Keep in mind non-therapists do this too though...
100% agree.
I was just saying in their case I wouldn't because they're "trained" to deal with issues that also include mental ones. They're experts. They basically have the keys and power way more than a non-therapist.

I always say, mess with a person's anything, but don't mess with their brain/mind. Sometime the damage done is irreparable.
 
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I have dated one, was a perfectly normal relationship...

Tbh, some therapists are good and know how to "therapist" themselves too go back into the real world and not treat everything like a session.

Just like with any job...
A chef that knows their home isn't a restaurant and doesn't make harsh judgements on other's food etc.

Or a teacher that doesn't treat everything in their life like their classroom and everyone is one of their students for them too "teach"


Knowing when too turn it off and on. Some can do it , some can't.

I really think that's just how you gotta look at it. Watch how that person moves and make your decision from there...
 

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Sounds depressing not to mention a lot of them nosy ass fµck & lie bad plus like others said they trained manipulators so they can easily look one in the eyes and lie.

Only imo: They a waste of fµck!ng time cause talking bout change a damn thing in reality.
 

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Yes its called the "expert stance" that a lot of therapist take. Beneficial in sessions though useless in real life.
It was just her, most I know in the profession take it one day at a time and do enormous good.

Many of my friends and family have been able to become better people, if not just a little more insightful and a tad more thoughtful, than before because of the help they recieved.
 
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Yes and he was crazy. He wasn’t my therapist. I told my therapist I dated him and she knew him—she basically said he has issues and it’s well known in their profession. Leave it to me to find the total weirdo.
 

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Yes and he was crazy. He wasn’t my therapist. I told my therapist I dated him and she knew him—she basically said he has issues and it’s well known in their profession. Leave it to me to find the total weirdo.
Wow small world. What did he do?
 
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Wow small world. What did he do?
He was just very quirky and kind of loud and showy. He was also raised with money and seems spoiled in a way. I think he is one of those people who become a therapist to unpack their own childhood. He was older and never married but was quite handsome and seemed like a real catch—I should have known from jump that there was something wrong with him.
 

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Yes, don't.


This individual played many needless games and hid behind the know it all mask of the profession but in essence was an OK person just not my taste.

I'm friends with 4 black woman, psychiatrists and psychologists, who have been married for 10 plus years with families, I have another shrink friend who lovingly makes bad choices with decent but mercurial men.
I love a good vocab lesson
 

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I have dated one, was a perfectly normal relationship...

Tbh, some therapists are good and know how to "therapist" themselves too go back into the real world and not treat everything like a session.

Just like with any job...
A chef that knows their home isn't a restaurant and doesn't make harsh judgements on other's food etc.

Or a teacher that doesn't treat everything in their life like their classroom and everyone is one of their students for them too "teach"


Knowing when too turn it off and on. Some can do it , some can't.

I really think that's just how you gotta look at it. Watch how that person moves and make your decision from there...
For the most part, I agree but I did date a Chef who critique my food yet still wanted me to cook for him...Ex for a reason.
 

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I'm a therapist and I wouldn't date any of my male counterparts. They are still men, can still be trash, and most are broke (It's not a high paying field). A man is not his job. Vet accordingly. Ijs.
 

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I'm a therapist and I wouldn't date any of my male counterparts. They are still men, can still be trash, and most are broke (It's not a high paying field). A man is not his job. Vet accordingly. Ijs.
I agreed until you said its not a high paying field. You can make a decent living in the field.
 

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I agreed until you said its not a high paying field. You can make a decent living in the field.
You can earn "decent" money after a ton of education, experience, side hustles, CEUs, etc but we're not paid nearly what we're worth and I will stand on that.
 

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You can earn "decent" money after a ton of education, experience, side hustles, CEUs, etc but we're not paid nearly what we're worth and I will stand on that.
I wonder how y'all deal with our problems when you get home...
Don't you ever get affected? You're human, yes, but I do wonder if certain situations have gotten to you in a bad way and how you deal with it or, I don't know how to word it, move on?
Eta: Please don't give me the it's part of the job line. This is a genuine question.
 

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No but i'm the child of one and one thing I will tell you is that they are MASTER MANIPULATORS! Just because someone is a therapist DOES NOT mean that they have it all together. My parent is probably the most toxic person that I know and I have a very dysfunctional childhood.
 

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No but i'm the child of one and one thing I will tell you is that they are MASTER MANIPULATORS! Just because someone is a therapist DOES NOT mean that they have it all together. My parent is probably the most toxic person that I know and I have a very dysfunctional childhood.
I'm so sorry to hear that. *hug
 

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He wasn't a therapist when we met--that was years later. Funny enough I used to jokingly call him my therapist, because he was such a good listener. It wasn't until he started doing his therapy internships that he became insufferable. I had to tell him , I'm not one of your clients, and it's unethical for you to even to try to diagnose me anyway, let alone tell me about it. So aggravating.
 

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