All of this!If Black men are colorist then Black women are complicit too.
Yes. Also just cause black men may have dark skinned wives/girlfriends/babymamas doesn’t mean they’re not still colorist. I see black men who are married to dark skin women and have dark skinned daughters still be colorist cause they couldn’t get the exoticals/lights and whites so they settles for who would take them the dark skinned girl and then resent her the whole time cause he really wanted a light bright.
Where do darkskin women come from?
Please site your source. But then again I will take that phony paragraph you typed because we can officially stop the blame Black single mother for everything wrong in the Black community. Also, how can you explain the oow rate being at 70% if Black women are married at the same rate as White women?
This.Most black men are colorist and lots of black women are too if we're being honest.
A good 85% of them are... how is this up for debate when it’s a lived experience.
The reason why Black men are colorist is because they are at the bottom of the patriarchy hierarchy and they don’t have power in this world. When men don’t have access to power and control they create it by dominating over women. Colorsim is a social hierarchy that they benefit from because they can control who has access to marriage, resources, admiration, protection, quality education and healthcare. These things are needed for survival and this form of control fulfills their masculinity identity and their lack of access to real power exercised by White men.
....because LSA will you believing that damn near all black men are colorist who hate black women.
Now FYI I'm not saying I agree nor disagree. I just want some clarity on what the ladies of LSA really think on this matter.
Beautiful couples but the only men I see dating someone darker then them are lightskin. I still don’t see (aside from Kandi/Todd) any darkskin men with women their complexion or darker.
Here's something else I wanted to add. When I was back in Atlanta (you know, where black people and black relationships are "thriving"), I was in a relationship with a dsbm and I'm a dsbw. I can't tell you how many times black people thought we were siblings or related despite us holding hands and kissing. Mind we we looked nothing alike and we even talked about why people think that two black people of the same skin tone- especially dark skinned- couldn't be together.
It's like we're conditioned to only see dsm/lsw or nbw pairings and vice versa unless they're both African I guess.
Let's see...
...growing up, attending private schools with less than 5 black boys in HS -- who all openly stated how they weren't attracted to black girls
...attending parties, football and basketball games with black people from outside of my school in middle and high school, and noticing how much vitriol there was from DS black boys to LS black boys, and how every popular "clique" was led by some lightskin girl...
...attending a PWI with less than 10% AfAm and seeing the few black males in prominent positions on campus -- from Kappas to Alphas, student government to leaders of the Black Student Union and other popular orgs -- constantly uplifting, defending and publicly claim the same fair-skinned and/or (usually) mixed girls. It was crazy how, magically, their "hoeness" could easily get deleted the closer their proximity to white
...getting bullied for the first time in my life at 18 by a group of 4 LS and mixed girls that hung together my freshman year, because black boys they liked gave me attention. these same girls even went as far as to ask certain guys "why" they felt I was attractive in screenshots that were eventually shared from Facebook messages
...oh man and being naive to dating black boys until I was 17 made dating hell for me being kind, nice and embracing toxic "love"...can't even tell you how many times I've been told straight up that I'm an exception to a guy's "lightskin" standard because of my features, and in spite of my brown skin.
...defending several of my darker-hued friends when men would tell them they were "cute" or "pretty" for a "dark-skinned girl"
I yearned for black friends growing up, due to my suburban and private school upbringing. By the time I actually got to be around black people in an academic and social setting, from ages 17 to 21, I was honestly saddened and frustrated by colorism, how blatant it is and how our "community" refuses to acknowledge it.
I'll be honest, after the age of 21, I quickly distanced myself from the black community, en masse, in college and solely focused on my major, and my career. I'm a proud black woman, but my decision paid off for me in the long run.
Self-hate in the black community is rampant and I'm so grateful that social media and forums exist today to decimate the gaslighting I've experienced in previous years.
Sorry for stream of consciousness, y'all... this is triggering
You don’t have to “hate” Black women to be colorist.
Many dark skinned BW are primarily interested in light skinned or white men. They look down on dark skinned black men and call them ‘dusty’ and ‘broke’
Must be LSW or DSMWhy is it always the same fonts who are sick and tired of talking about colorism coming to fill threads about how they hate talking about colorism.
OMG. Are you me?Let's see...
...growing up, attending private schools with less than 5 black boys in HS -- who all openly stated how they weren't attracted to black girls
...attending parties, football and basketball games with black people from outside of my school in middle and high school, and noticing how much vitriol there was from DS black boys to LS black boys, and how every popular "clique" was led by some lightskin girl...
...attending a PWI with less than 10% AfAm and seeing the few black males in prominent positions on campus -- from Kappas to Alphas, student government to leaders of the Black Student Union and other popular orgs -- constantly uplifting, defending and publicly claim the same fair-skinned and/or (usually) mixed girls. It was crazy how, magically, their "hoeness" could easily get deleted the closer their proximity to white
...getting bullied for the first time in my life at 18 by a group of 4 LS and mixed girls that hung together my freshman year, because black boys they liked gave me attention. these same girls even went as far as to ask certain guys "why" they felt I was attractive in screenshots that were eventually shared from Facebook messages
...oh man and being naive to dating black boys until I was 17 made dating hell for me being kind, nice and embracing toxic "love"...can't even tell you how many times I've been told straight up that I'm an exception to a guy's "lightskin" standard because of my features, and in spite of my brown skin.
...defending several of my darker-hued friends when men would tell them they were "cute" or "pretty" for a "dark-skinned girl"
I yearned for black friends growing up, due to my suburban and private school upbringing. By the time I actually got to be around black people in an academic and social setting, from ages 17 to 21, I was honestly saddened and frustrated by colorism, how blatant it is and how our "community" refuses to acknowledge it.
I'll be honest, after the age of 21, I quickly distanced myself from the black community, en masse, in college and solely focused on my major, and my career. I'm a proud black woman, but my decision paid off for me in the long run.
Self-hate in the black community is rampant and I'm so grateful that social media and forums exist today to decimate the gaslighting I've experienced in previous years.
Sorry for stream of consciousness, y'all... this is triggering
Like what?I'm hearing different levels of issues in the South.
70% of those babies are being born out of wedlock. We can suppose that those men did not deem the black mother of their children worthy of marriage....I wonder why.
While the men do like LS women, they are more flexible with settling down with Black women period, save states like Texas.Like what?
No one wants to talk about this side of the issue.All of this!
Let's just do this. Show me a white man with a black woman in his video as a love interest? Like the Weeknd.. not just shaking her butt... I've never seen a white artist like a Weeknd that would put only non-black women in thier videos..you have to love how some black men co sign white men without even knowing it.. it's a little funny..
Maybe Jon B? But show me a recent one.. I literally can't think of any..
All of this is true. Most dating based research studies back this up as well.
These fonts can never provide rebuttals to disprove them, so they groan and sceptical instead.
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Proximity to black men and convenience, due to the lack of interest from non-black men since they largely prefer women from their own race, is the only reason black women are with black men. Black men, especially dark skin black men, are not the majority of black women’s main preference.
Lol Ed Sheeran, Shape of You but I feel your sentiments and also he's from the UK. Different kettle of fish
Great post. Thanks for posting the underlying evidence. I don’t think I know of any, maybe just one, dark skin black woman who has never been with a white, multi, or biracial man.
I know plenty black men who have never been with a white or multiracial woman.
This really needs to be discussed but will be denied as well. There are black men who will fukk darker women all day long, but associate upward mobility and stability with light skin and non-black women. Anything to get closer to whiteness and away from themselves.
I know a chocolate beauty whose chocolate man - after dating for ten years, had a baby with a yt Latina. Then wifed up my friend right after.Yall do know that just because a black man wifes up a DS woman that still doesnt mean he's not colorist, right? I've been in whole relationships with men and still heard colorist remarks from them. "I usually dont date dark skinned girls but I made an exception for you," "you're pretty...for a DS girl", etc. So just because yall see a black man with a dark skinned woman that doesnt necessarily make him not colorist.
Rape is about power, idiot."YT men are racist, yet somehow biracial babies are being born every day." That happened from the the late fifteenth to the late nineteenth century.
You just implied that the willingness to make babies [that they abandon or make a home for] is proof that they are not colorist.
Yes. And for those saying “well why would a Black man partner with a dark skinned woman if he only wants a light skin woman?” please know this sh!t happens everyday. My ex husband is with a darker woman now and the way he treats her makes me annoyed but I mind my business. He puts in minimal effort (she drives from another state to come and see him) and has had his eyes on lighter skin women but they haven’t given him any play. And even when Black men are married to non Black women they engage in colorism. My brother is unhappily married to a non Black woman and now says things like “get you a dark skin girl” to our younger cousins because he figures light/non Black women are too high maintenance and darker skin BW will work and just be happy to be in a relationship. It’s sick.
Some are with Black women at the time of the offense (D.L. Hugely, Nipsey Hussle), others are not (Stephon Clark), but I believe they would rather we didn’t exist. Something else: some of those with Black women could have gotten others, but for whatever reason (optics, having Black sons) they thought they should be with a Black woman. That’s another reason “most Black men marry Black women!” doesn’t impress me.I came to this exact same conclusion a few months ago.
Retaliation for their resentment is also often in the form of random, public displays of misogynoir (which is basically just psychological abuse).
Reading is fundamental idiot.Rape is about power, idiot.
I've met so many BM who seem to think this and I don't understand why they are also the ones who spend the most time harassing, chasing, publically humiliating, stalking me.I believe they would rather we didn’t exist
For those BW who are surprised that this happened to them (like my DS friend), why the perpetual shock given the stats and looking around? She literally was so shocked when he left her, and he begged her to have a baby with him too and promised marriage.I agree, its black male culture at this point. They dislike themselves too much to ever truly value their progeny enough to create stable homes and families