Awkward interactions with melanin deficient males?

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Oh my god, I know that most men have a degraded view of women in general but this is just sad.

I am not surprised, but it is sad nonetheless that those are the main types of black women appreciation they practice.

Hyper-sexuality. Yay.



I went through my puberty years in a white dominate environment. I developed big chest, thighs and butt early on. White dudes there were weird because one minute I was ugly or "They didnt like black girls" but would be somewhere literally undressing me with their eyes. Don't get me started on the ones who try to touch you and think you should respond positively.

Nothing is wrong with liking a black girl but dont sit around degrading her in front of people, coming at her like shes a sex worker but treating the white girls with dignity.
Thats what pissed me off with them.
 
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I went through my puberty years in a white dominate environment. I developed big chest, thighs and butt early on. White dudes there were weird because one minute I was ugly or "They didnt like black girls" but would be somewhere literally undressing me with their eyes. Don't get me started on the ones who try to touch you and think you should respond positively.

Nothing is wrong with liking a black girl but dont sit around degrading her in front of people, coming at her like shes a sex worker but treating the white girls with dignity.
Thats what pissed me off with them.
Exactly!

This is so true, I have always taken care of my physical health and I have a slim thick physique.

I have come across weird yt men who will literally look at me up and down eyeing me up but then act hostile towards me or unfriendly.

I remember once when I was on my lunch break at work, I was getting a hot drink from the coffee machine.

There were these two white male colleagues sitting behind me and I could just feel their eyes staring at me as I waited for the machine to make my drink.

When I turned around to leave the break room and I made eye contact with both of them, they rolled their eyes at me and went red.

Very weird people.
 
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I went through my puberty years in a white dominate environment. I developed big chest, thighs and butt early on. White dudes there were weird because one minute I was ugly or "They didnt like black girls" but would be somewhere literally undressing me with their eyes. Don't get me started on the ones who try to touch you and think you should respond positively.

Nothing is wrong with liking a black girl but dont sit around degrading her in front of people, coming at her like shes a sex worker but treating the white girls with dignity.
Thats what pissed me off with them.
It literally kills them on the inside to openly admit with their peers that a black woman is attractive.

Obviously not all eg the ones who date out, but a lot of them hate acknowledging a black woman's beauty.
 
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Exactly!

This is so true, I have always taken care of my physical health and I have a slim thick physique.

I have come across weird yt men who will literally look at me up and down eyeing me up but then act hostile towards me or unfriendly.

I remember once when I was on my lunch break at work, I was getting a hot drink from the coffee machine.

There were these two white male colleagues sitting behind me and I could just feel their eyes staring at me as I waited for the machine to make my drink.

When I turned around to leave the break room and I made eye contact with both of them, they rolled their eyes at me and went red.

Very weird people.
Yess ! Its a big wtf moment! I cant believe women on lsa tried to get mad at a font for writing that in the ir alley. White men can have a madonna wh0re complex mixed with racism. If they aren't confusing the biracial children they do have with non white women, then they're somewhere hating on a black woman but also wants to sleep with her. In their minds, we're still on a plantation somehow and we're supposed to cater to them sexually but be considered lower than them on other accounts.

I had an argument with a white guy. He didnt like that I called out white men who dated and married women who were black but had a power imbalance instilled into them. So they still saw their wives as less then but didnt say it outloud. He kept trying to make it seem as if I disliked ir relationships but it wasnt true, I just didnt like how some of them dont wanna admit the racial power dynamics in play.

I can't date someone any longer who can't acknowledge that. I can't date a black man who doesnt acknowledge their gender dynamic in play either.

I just ugh... Lol annoyed bro

Edit: sorry for ranting btw. I'll stop. I just understand your frustration. I hate two faced ppl.
 
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Yess ! Its a big wtf moment! I cant believe women on lsa tried to get mad at a font for writing that in the ir alley. White men can have a madonna wh0re complex mixed with racism. If they aren't confusing the biracial children they do have with non white women, then they're somewhere hating on a black woman but also wants to sleep with her. In their minds, we're still on a plantation somehow and we're supposed to cater to them sexually but be considered lower than them on other accounts.

I had an argument with a white guy. He didnt like that I called out white men who dated and married women who were black but had a power imbalance instilled into them. So they still saw their wives as less then but didnt say it outloud. He kept trying to make it seem as if I disliked ir relationships but it wasnt true, I just didnt like how some of them dont wanna admit the racial power dynamics in play.

I can't date someone any longer who can't acknowledge that. I can't date a black man who doesnt acknowledge their gender dynamic in play either.

I just ugh... Lol annoyed bro

Edit: sorry for ranting btw. I'll stop. I just understand your frustration. I hate two faced ppl.
You are 100% right, I think it is complete psychopathy to have a strong disdain for someone/an entire group but still be sexually attracted and even go on to have mixed race children.

This is why I would NEVER go out of my way to praise white men or cape for them, I know history and current events very well.

They have caused hell on earth to black women.

A lot of still have a superiority complex over us, it's inherent.

I had a self hating colleague who always puts white men on a pedestal and praised the most below average looking ones.

It was very sad to watch when I used to work with her.
 
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You are 100% right, I think it is complete psychopathy to have a strong disdain for someone/an entire group but still be sexually attracted and even go on to have mixed race children.

This is why I would NEVER go out of my way to praise white men or cape for them, I know history and current events very well.

They have caused hell on earth to black women.

A lot of still have a superiority complex over us, it's inherent.

I had a self hating colleague who always puts white men on a pedestal and praised the most below average looking ones.

It was very sad to watch when I used to work with her.
Like I tell fonts on here: you like them? Cool. But when fonts go in on their @$$es, dont start putting on your capes. I will not be sitting here saying, " No X men of x race is better" cause that is so clownish. I don't get paid enough to do pr for men of other either race.

The problem is that women from non white backgrounds are starting to feel white by association, so they get defensive when people on here come for white dudes. On the ir sub Reddit this happens a lot. You say something about white dudes and the white men/black women start telling you

"youre not choosing the right ones",

"dont judge all of us like that",

" dont accuse us of that because you have bad taste" ,

or the congratulatory "Im a black woman who lives in X country and I dont have those issues, so its just you" comments.

I also wanted to add one more story before I go.

A recent happening occured too. In college, I had lost the last bit of weight. I was in this study group with a white girl I went to programming class with. Tell me why her bf shows up and he puts his whole negative energy onto me. Focuses on just me. I notice on the corner of my eye, this dude is mean mugging me. Then starts making comments to his girlfriend, displaying weird public displays of affection. Im sitting here thinking why is the girl finding this funny ? Your bf is zeroing in on another girl in the group .

This has happened many times. A white couple out to dinner, I show up, and the husband is seats away all into my face...


Okay! Im done lol.

I just wanted to share because I know and have had fonts gaslight me in my own thread years ago when I wrote about this exact same issue.
 
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Like I tell fonts on here: you like them? Cool. But when fonts go in on their @$$es, dont start putting on your capes. I will not be sitting here saying, " No X men of x race is better" cause that is so clownish. I don't get paid enough to do pr for men of other either race.

The problem is that women from non white backgrounds are starting to feel white by association, so they get defensive when people on here come for white dudes. On the ir sub Reddit this happens a lot. You say something about white dudes and the white men/black women start telling you

"youre not choosing the right ones",

"dont judge all of us like that",

" dont accuse us of that because you have bad taste" ,

or the congratulatory "Im a black woman who lives in X country and I dont have those issues, so its just you" comments.

I also wanted to add one more story before I go.

A recent happening occured too. In college, I had lost the last bit of weight. I was in this study group with a white girl I went to programming class with. Tell me why her bf shows up and he puts his whole negative energy onto me. Focuses on just me. I notice on the corner of my eye, this dude is mean mugging me. Then starts making comments to his girlfriend, displaying weird public displays of affection. Im sitting here thinking why is the girl finding this funny ? Your bf is zeroing in on another girl in the group .

This has happened many times. A white couple out to dinner, I show up, and the husband is seats away all into my face...


Okay! Im done lol.

I just wanted to share because I know and have had fonts gaslight me in my own thread years ago when I wrote about this exact same issue.
Well said OP. Men are trash regardless of race/ethnicity.

but I would NEVER go out of my way to praise white men as a collective nor gass them up.

absolutely not. As if it would ever be reciprocated.

I too have been at the receiving end of hostility from yt men I wasn’t even checking for. I said this in one my earlier posts, but I do believe white men are aware that most black women aren’t checking for them. Most of my friends would never even consider them as potential dating options, they aren’t on the radar.

Hence why white men behave like that to the black women they find attractive but know they could never get.
 
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N word in his presence? Oh my god.
I know right?! I’m American and grew up in a pretty diverse town so everyone used to say it growing up, regardless of race. (I know how ridiculous that sounds) Eventually most sensible nonblack kids grew out of it as they got older. But this specific crew really held onto their “right” to say it lol. So pathetic. They were ratchet caucasians who’d never take the time to pick up a book.

Anyways, after I broke things off w him I hadn’t seen/spoken to him for years until after the BLM protests for George Floyd. I guess he realized there was something fundamentally wrong with the people he was associating with and wanted to reconnect with his black side by reaching out to the only black woman he ever dated. But he still hung out with those same friends. I curved his ass so hard!
 
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Not to derail, but I like this term melanin deficient. I can’t wait to say Ew if you don’t get yo melanin deficient arse tf outta my face.
 
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Exactly!

This is so true, I have always taken care of my physical health and I have a slim thick physique.

I have come across weird yt men who will literally look at me up and down eyeing me up but then act hostile towards me or unfriendly.

I remember once when I was on my lunch break at work, I was getting a hot drink from the coffee machine.

There were these two white male colleagues sitting behind me and I could just feel their eyes staring at me as I waited for the machine to make my drink.

When I turned around to leave the break room and I made eye contact with both of them, they rolled their eyes at me and went red.

Very weird people.
My history is that they make assumptions about you. One has literally said to me your glamour style (which I find offensive, I think glam is tacky) I thought you only date a certain type. He was either implying I’m a gold digger or projecting his physical insecurities as a man unto me. I didn’t go on a second date. total jerk.
 
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My history is that they make assumptions about you. One has literally said to me your glamour style (which I find offensive, I think glam is tacky) I thought you only date a certain type. He was either implying I’m a gold digger or projecting his physical insecurities as a man unto me. I didn’t go on a second date. total jerk.
wtf, I think he was definitely projecting his insecurities onto you!
 
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I know right?! I’m American and grew up in a pretty diverse town so everyone used to say it growing up, regardless of race. (I know how ridiculous that sounds) Eventually most sensible nonblack kids grew out of it as they got older. But this specific crew really held onto their “right” to say it lol. So pathetic. They were ratchet caucasians who’d never take the time to pick up a book.

Anyways, after I broke things off w him I hadn’t seen/spoken to him for years until after the BLM protests for George Floyd. I guess he realized there was something fundamentally wrong with the people he was associating with and wanted to reconnect with his black side by reaching out to the only black woman he ever dated. But he still hung out with those same friends. I curved his ass so hard!
Oh wow, I don't even like it when WE use the n word among each other, let alone non blacks saying it.

I know that's the norm in places such as New York, but I would be appalled.

I am so glad that you curved that guy, a lot of self hating folks only get their wake up call when it's too late.
 
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Honestly, these are the times where I wish I had male strength to bitch slap these nancy boys. For real. After being bluntly asked “why is your skin so dark” multiple times by feminine looking white guys, I’m starting to wonder what’s the proper reply?

well I don’t know, why are you short and looking like a red lobster every time you stay in the sun more than 10 mins

you tell me
 
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Honestly, these are the times where I wish I had male strength to bitch slap these nancy boys. For real. After being bluntly asked “why is your skin so dark” multiple times by feminine looking white guys, I’m starting to wonder what’s the proper reply?

well I don’t know, why are you short and looking like a red lobster every time you stay in the sun more than 10 mins

you tell me
i can not stand when people ask stupid questions about our(black womens) features!!!? like we are some damn exotic animal that should be investigated on. i get asked that way too many times and i just give them a dirty look very time
 
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This is the same feeling I'm getting as well. For those of them that are deeply racist, it's uncomfortable for them to admit when they are attracted. In their mind that isn't supposed to happen, so when it does they try to deny it and act passive-aggressive which is dangerous.

I stay away from fools like that. He is sick in the head and your friend needs to get rid of him. His friends were different kinds of white men who felt more comfortable expressing their attraction which is healthier in my opinion than this weirdo your friend is dating.
Spot on...hence why he also felt the need to badmouth you to the friends who said you were attractive. Mixed up jealousy and revulsion they are big weirdos.

They can't compute that they could find a BW attractive because society tells them not to...when they do they act in such strange ways. Coupled with the fact English men are spineless wimps and wouldn't act on their attraction in a normal way.
 
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Spot on...hence why he also felt the need to badmouth you to the friends who said you were attractive. Mixed up jealousy and revulsion they are big weirdos.

They can't compute that they could find a BW attractive because society tells them not to...when they do they act in such strange ways. Coupled with the fact English men are spineless wimps and wouldn't act on their attraction in a normal way.
You are so right! It’s a mixture of jealousy and revulsion because they’re inherently racist and aren’t “supposed” to find us attractive.
 
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Question. Are the English aware of the fact that they are pretty much universally regarded as ugly, frumpy, with terrible food? Even (ESPECIALLY) their fellow whites say this.

I know that colonizer complex is holding on for dear life, but it should be a crime to be that weak-jawed, splotchy, bad bodied, yuck mouthed and just all around malformed AND be stank about it.
 
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Question. Are the English aware of the fact that they are pretty much universally regarded as ugly, frumpy, with terrible food? Even (ESPECIALLY) their fellow whites say this.

I know that colonizer complex is holding on for dear life, but it should be a crime to be that weak-jawed, splotchy, bad bodied, yuck mouthed and just all around malformed AND be stank about it.
Their egos are so self inflated despite looking ugly as hell and being revolting in all aspects!

Hygiene, teeth, food, looks you name it. Bottom barrel group of white people.
 
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I think they are aware which is why some desperately try to look Mediterranean or at least their stereotypical view of what one looks like I.e. fake tan, dying hair, lip fillers etc. However their arrogance and narcissism wouldn't allow them to admit this out loud.
It could also be why EE's are hated many of the EE women are snatching up English men...and these women look so much more attractive than English women.
 
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This guy is probably attracted to you and doesn’t know how to handle it. 2 reasons: you’re black and his gf’s good friend. He could just be be weird and racist, but the downplaying of your looks in front of other guys is the tell for me.

For example, I work in Europe and obviously my workplace has a lot of white men who are for the most part chill. I’m friendly with a few. No issues there. My man is white and knows a lot of the same people because we’re in the same industry. Many people don’t know we’ve been together for years because I don’t talk about my personal life like that with most colleagues.

Some months ago, I come to find out that a lot of these same guys I regularly interact with, but am not super chummy with, had all these questions about who I was dating and if I was married totally unknown to me. These men are gossips! Incredulous, I ask my man why on earth they would be talking about me when I’m not even friendly with them like that and he said “it’s because you’re hot so they want to know what’s up”. To this day I’m dumbfounded by it because a lot of them either see me infrequently or it doesn’t go beyond hello hello at the water cooler. Really I assumed my disinterest in their personal lives would be mutual.

My point is that, this has nothing to do with you. Men are frequently weird. Continue to do you. Your presence clearly leaves them weak in the knees.
 
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I think they are aware which is why some desperately try to look Mediterranean or at least their stereotypical view of what one looks like I.e. fake tan, dying hair, lip fillers etc. However their arrogance and narcissism wouldn't allow them to admit this out loud.
It could also be why EE's are hated many of the EE women are snatching up English men...and these women look so much more attractive than English women.
This is so true!

Racism aside, Eastern Europeans, Slavic Europeans and Mediterranean's are way more attractive than the English in my opinion.

As if the average white British girl is prettier than a Croatian girl or a Russian girl.
 
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This guy is probably attracted to you and doesn’t know how to handle it. 2 reasons: you’re black and his gf’s good friend. He could just be be weird and racist, but the downplaying of your looks in front of other guys is the tell for me.

For example, I work in Europe and obviously my workplace has a lot of white men who are for the most part chill. I’m friendly with a few. No issues there. My man is white and knows a lot of the same people because we’re in the same industry. Many people don’t know we’ve been together for years because I don’t talk about my personal life like that with most colleagues.

Some months ago, I come to find out that a lot of these same guys I regularly interact with, but am not super chummy with, had all these questions about who I was dating and if I was married totally unknown to me. These men are gossips! Incredulous, I ask my man why on earth they would be talking about me when I’m not even friendly with them like that and he said “it’s because you’re hot so they want to know what’s up”. To this day I’m dumbfounded by it because a lot of them either see me infrequently or it doesn’t go beyond hello hello at the water cooler. Really I assumed my disinterest in their personal lives would be mutual.

My point is that, this has nothing to do with you. Men are frequently weird. Continue to do you. Your presence clearly leaves them weak in the knees.
This is so true, thank you for your words of encouragement :heart:
 
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Some of them simply cannot handle the fact that they find Black Women attractive. Their hostility is amplified because they’ve been brought up believing that Black people are XYZ. The fact that we are much more than their primitive views confuses them.
 
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Some of them simply cannot handle the fact that they find Black Women attractive. Their hostility is amplified because they’ve been brought up believing that Black people are XYZ. The fact that we are much more than their primitive views confuses them.
Lol today at work an old white guy looked at me up and down with hostility, bear in mind he’s over 60 years old.
It was my first day back in the office after a year of working from home, my hair is laid with a new braids style and I wore a cute new workwear outfit and I know I looked good.

The arrogance and patheticness of these basic white men never fails to amaze me.

I wouldn’t even look at most of them twice
 

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