Terry King
General Manager
It's not that you lose your alliance with black people or Africa, it has more to do with the children and family that would come from that union. I'm sure you've heard the saying, "a person is not an island." That includes you and your relationships. Your relationship affect not only yourself, your children, and your family but the community you are a part of as well.
Ex: If you marry a thief it will bring distrust into your home, your family, and your community. If you marry someone wealthy who contributes to those around them, it will benefit your home, your family, and your community.
Likewise, if you marry and have children with someone of the same race and culture it will serve to continue the same. If you marry and have children with someone of a different race and culture it will start to become lost and watered down. Either by the children trying to acclimate to 2 different cultures, or by them not adhering or knowing much about one or the other. It affects the children, the family, and the community.
Do you live in the U.S.? Have you stayed here and travelled for an extended period of time? I would love to know the difference if you have. I haven't been to the U.K. so I won't pretend that I know about the racial issues there. But I have known one who was black(African) as well as Pakistani and they both say that the racism there is similar to the racism in the Northern U.S.: It's not as "segregated" but it's still there.
I definitely agree that there is a high level of self hatred. Which is a direct result of people not having a culture to be proud of due to the effects of slavery and interracial dating, marriage, and rape(being real).
Which only shows that you can't really be pro black or pro African and marry someone of a different race. The effects of years of washing away African/black culture through slavery and interracial relationships is evident in the abundance of self hatred.
I'm sorry if anyone has said that to you because I find it ignorant.
But American Blacks don't "hate their African roots" because of slavery. They have very little connection to their African roots because it's been LOST - once again - through slavery and interracial relationships.
Sigh.
Again, the point isn't just about the individual.
Being "pro black" or "pro African" involves the entire black/African community. Not just the individual. Sure marrying a black person or avoiding being with someone of a different race doesn't prove that they're a part of or supportive of black/African peoples.
However, marrying other races has(as proven by your own observations) and will have a longterm effect on the black/African community. Taking that action will negate a person saying they are "pro black" or "pro African" because they aren't taking the effect their actions will have on their black/African community into consideration.
They may be "pro choice" or "pro interracial relationships" but they are not "pro black" or "pro African" because their actions have a longstanding negative effect on the black/African community.
what actions will a black person dating outside their race do to hurting the black community?