PinkGaloree
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I’ve never had trouble with getting a man but I’ve noticed for lot big women a lot of them settle for any man they can get ,and I also don’t thinks it’s good that men say they love thick women because a lot women are getting fat and thick mixed up. And yes some men are not that shallow but I don’t really know a lot of plus size women who are married happily they are more the provider then there man is
I was much heavier at one point in my life than I am now but my weight didn’t didn’t directly take a toll on my love life. It didn’t stop guys from coming up to me asking for my number, friends hooking me up with people etc.
What did take a toll on my love life was my lack of self confidence because of my weight. My self-esteem ruined any potential relationships I could have had and I suffered for it.
I love everything you said that is facts!!
Do you ladies think being overweight or obese has put a toll on your love life?Such as men finding you attractive because men are visual first before they look into personality.I was reading on the men blogs what men thought of plus size women and the comments I read were very rude and horrific.
No. I feel like since i have gotten fatter i went from 130lbs to 190lbs over 2 years, i get more unwanted attention from men. The men seem relatively normal though. Not the cat calling creeps that harrassed me when im at my normal weight. I was at home depot and had a man jump out of his truck to help me put my stuff in my trunk. He asked if i had a man, i said yes he kissed my hand, said he was a lucky man and left. I feel like a bloated disgusting trash, but everyone says i look great. All i do is wear stretchy black pants, black, boots and large floral shirts that covers my gut and fat arms. I don't even upkeep myself anymore. I don't pluck my eyebrows, shave, or wear makeup. I feel like someones old head Auntie who always has their glasses on their nose.
When im at my normal weight i intimidate the sh!t out of men. Most of them assume I'm already taken or married and leave me the hell alone. But nnw at a heavier weight i have men trying to shoot their shot all the time. It makes me feel even worse honestly. I feel so gross and just not myself.
I cannot speak for all bigger woman but I have never really had a problem in the love department especially when it comes to quality men. I didn't start dating until I got into college and I have attracted a lot of quality suitors. I think being overweight when I was younger gave me the eye to know who was trash and who wasn't. My mom always told me if I didn't lose weight I will never get married or wont have a quality man.
I can honestly say that her saying that only made me vet the men who entered my life more. I don't go through the dating horror stories that my slim friends go through either. There is someone for everyone! In talking to some of the men who are interested in me they always say they like how I dress and how confident I am in my body. I still workout, try to eat the best I can which in turn helps me to keep up with them.
I am also an hourglass shape. I have lost 100 pounds in the past and gained it back unfortunately because I lost it the wrong way. I am working on losing weight again for my health. I am a size 22 jean, and 18 on top. I carry most of my weight in my thighs and hips.
A lot of people around me used to be shocked with the kinds of men who would pursue me because they expect me the fat friend to settle or end up with a bum. I am smart, in college and confident. I live in the DC area so I think location might play a role in it Im not sure.
This is soo long hahaha, I just hate the narrative that being overweight = horrible romantic life.
How tall are you? And are you a pear or hourglass shape?
I think the issue is more shape!.
I know tons of overweight women whole pull but they are pear or hourglass shapes.
I think the issue is more shape!.
I know tons of overweight women whole pull but they are pear or hourglass shapes.
Do you ladies think being overweight or obese has put a toll on your love life?Such as men finding you attractive because men are visual first before they look into personality.I was reading on the men blogs what men thought of plus size women and the comments I read were very rude and horrific.
LSA is never honest. Slimmer have more options. Also more options does not mean you are going to pick men with good character traits which is all it comes down to. Anyways there are bigger man out there so it shouldn't be a problem at all. Also if you gain weight and it goes in desirable places, a lot of men aren't going to care much.
He didn't really care for you in the way that you deserved to be cared for. I am not saying this to hurt you. I am saying this to help you....
years ago, i was totally head over heels for a dude who really cared for me and wanted to be with me all the time but didn't want to make it official because he was afraid of what other people would think. even though it was so long ago, that type of sh!t really messed with my head and made me question myself. even now, when things go south with a guy, i can't help but think "this wouldn't be happening if i was thinner". not sure how true that actually is...
i appreciate the kind words, sis. that was over 10 years ago back in high school, i haven't spoken to that guy in ages. but it was my first real interaction with "romance" as a bigger woman, which is why i mentioned it. i've since moved on (it took a long time though!)He didn't really care for you in the way that you deserved to be cared for. I am not saying this to hurt you. I am saying this to help you.
Release the hurt and shame because you are only grieving over a shallow man that didn't love you right. The man who loves you for you will be proud to be seen with you. Don't carry this man's shame any longer.
Women with your body type get married to men who love and adore them. Don't waste your emotions on a man who wasn't the right man for you.
I think the issue is more shape!.
I know tons of overweight women whole pull but they are pear or hourglass shapes.