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So I was scrolling Facebook and saw this image from poet Joshua Bennett. I use to love listening to his poetry back in the late 2000s and early 2010s View attachment 1773710 View attachment 1773710


One poem he had in particular was 10 things I love about Black women. When I heard the poem I was a young college student just becoming natural and the beginning of my wokeness. This was 2011 maybe.
10 Things I want to say to a Black Man
want-to-say-to-a-black-woman-by-joshua-bennett/

Now as a grown woman, the image of him marrying someone who is biracial doesn't shock me lmao. These black men in some sort of spot light are so color struck.
They pander to us because we are their biggest base and will eat sh!t up. As they say, we have to vet these men properly before we invest in their material and work.

The way he said that poem back in the day I thought for sure he would eventually marry a black women and not someone biracial

He married a black woman tho?
 

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The dude is with a Black woman an yet, people are still complaining. Furthermore, if some of you support getting with other races of men, you really can't complain about the female product of said relationships. It honestly sounds stupid to say anything about it.
 

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Grow up and stop being bitter. I swear some black women and men live for this toxic and useless competition.
 

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It's really sad, I don't get how a person can be so pathetic.
Fonts who aren’t secure in their love, home ad work life aren’t throwing fits, writing APA cited thesis on black men’s partners/spouses. Like come on ppl, get some esteem. There’s kii-ing and then there is batshit cray-cray.:unsure:
 
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Fonts who aren’t secure in their love, home ad work life aren’t throwing fits, writing APA cited thesis on black men’s partners/spouses. Like come on ppl, get some esteem. There’s kii-ing and then their is batshit cray-cray.:unsure:
LOL

Oh yeah, we can't forget those thesis and essays, they're the ones keeping Grammarly in business. Some of them even have charts and everything else.
 

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That lady is biracial and not black. If she is black don't play like black men in the spotlight don't prefer lighter women. You gaslight so much
 

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and first off I am secure with myself. I was making an observation. If you don't like the thread dony entertain it
 

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And I am so sick of you all and your comments whenever someone calls out colorist. Why are men even using this board is beyond me.
 

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I see what you're saying OP, but at the same time, I'm also having a hard time caring about who some poet is dating/married to ... so ... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
 

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And I am so sick of you all and your comments whenever someone calls out colorist. Why are men even using this board is beyond me.

I don’t keep up with this man and don’t know who he is but are there other examples of him being colorist? What’s his dating history look like? Has he made negative comments about unambiguous black women?

It sounds like you’re making these conclusions just based off the fact that he married a biracial woman.
To me that’s equivalent to saying BW who marry other races are automatically self hating.. which would be false.

You haven’t provided anything showing why he would be considered colorist.

ETA: based off his Instagram..it looks like this guy has been with the same woman since 2012, couldn’t it be safe to say that he just loves this particular woman and has adequate enough history with her and put a ring on it.
 
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Y'all keep giving black males too much credit and unseen responsibility in the black community.

The white media sees Barack as black because he has strong features. Barack also plays the role of a black man very well.I would say he is a black man because he invested, despite his controversial stances, in the black community. So he EARNED his blackness.

Biracial men and black women are similiar in a sense that both have to justify their masculinity and femininity respectively. This is not the case for biracial women and black men--oddly enough. As a result of this, toppled with the white media seeing Barack as black, most black women and black MEN are not going to see this as unethical.

Once black women's femininity is RESPECTED and not EXPLOITED, nobody will give a fµck about biracial women.


Absolutely, we should instead support black men who are actually helpful to our communities. Black men who pander are clearly not valuable and attractive enough to get a "high quality" biracial or white woman on their own, so they have to act like parasites instead.

I can't stand mediocre and pretentious parasites.



I just think she's disgusted with men who claim to be down for the community but really couldn't give two fucks about it because they're mediocre and need a fetishize partner to fill that void.

If that's jealously and hatred to realize that reality, then so be it. Like I always say , there are ALWAYS black children to nurture, and if black women can save dollars by ignoring dusties, we can use that money to invest in ourselves and raise our children.

It is what it is. I'm sure black men wouldn't care.
When did biracial men have to prove their masculinity? They have always been seen as black, the odr made this possible.
 

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Black women : We don’t care who you date as long as you don’t disrespect black women.

Black man: Doesn’t say anything disrespectful to mono racial black woman but married a biracial woman.

Black women: :pissedoff:pissedoff:pissedoff
 

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Black women : We don’t care who you date as long as you don’t disrespect black women.

Black man: Doesn’t say anything disrespectful to mono racial black woman but married a biracial woman.

Black women: :pissedoff:pissedoff:pissedoff

like clockwork.

in this case the guy has said nothing but good things about black women, still....
 

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I loved that poem back in the day. Lol I see your point OP.

There’s a guy on my FB friends list who I feel does this. He’s a single dad and a vegan chef looking for his “queen”. Nothing wrong with that but everyday or every other day there’s a post where he’s selling himself as this “good guy”, talking about protecting BW, etc.

He may be genuinely a good guy, but he is indeed pandering too imo. Loving BW genuinely should just be natural, you can talk about it, but you don’t have to constantly sell yourself in general. It’s no different than the pick mes “I’m not like other women”.
 

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I loved that poem back in the day. Lol I see your point OP.

There’s a guy on my FB friends list who I feel does this. He’s a single dad and a vegan chef looking for his “queen”. Nothing wrong with that but everyday or every other day there’s a post where he’s selling himself as this “good guy”, talking about protecting BW, etc.

He may be genuinely a good guy, but he is indeed pandering too imo. Loving BW genuinely should just be natural, you can talk about it, but you don’t have to constantly sell yourself in general. It’s no different than the pick mes “I’m not like other women”.

LSA: black men never hype up black women. All they do is talk down on us, yet other races have no problem promoting their women!

black guy: i love black women, need a queen, want nothing but a black women, black women are beautiful

LSA: stop pandering!
 

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Black women : We don’t care who you date as long as you don’t disrespect black women.

Black man: Doesn’t say anything disrespectful to mono racial black woman but married a biracial woman.

Black women: :pissedoff:pissedoff:pissedoff
That's not the point the point is how can you contradict yourself. You say on thing your actions show another
 

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So I was scrolling Facebook and saw this image from poet Joshua Bennett. I use to love listening to his poetry back in the late 2000s and early 2010s View attachment 1773710 View attachment 1773710


One poem he had in particular was 10 things I love about Black women. When I heard the poem I was a young college student just becoming natural and the beginning of my wokeness. This was 2011 maybe.
10 Things I want to say to a Black Man
want-to-say-to-a-black-woman-by-joshua-bennett/

Now as a grown woman, the image of him marrying someone who is biracial doesn't shock me lmao. These black men in some sort of spot light are so color struck.
They pander to us because we are their biggest base and will eat sh!t up. As they say, we have to vet these men properly before we invest in their material and work.

The way he said that poem back in the day I thought for sure he would eventually marry a black women and not someone biracial
Girl...
 

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There is no issue here. He married a woman he was in a long-term relationship with.

I think what he's doing is fine. Though I get it you need men who have unambiguous black women as partners to hype up black women. Not men who don't see unambiguous black women as the end goal for marriage.

Biracials aren't black, she could be black identified but she is not black.

They make a cute couple, good for them. OP I can't relate with your thoughts, but I sympathise and I understand the logic your mindset is at.
 

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Once again,

If you have history of being in relationships with other races of men, you really should care if he's wife is biracial. And to be honest, you really shouldn't care if she was White.

In fact, you're hypocrites and you really should shut up about his wife. I'm not here to understand, I'm not here to hear you out, you're a hypocrite and as such you look like a damn fool.
 

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You seem let down by him growing up and feeling like his words meant something to you.

You let that man control your self worth, cut it out.
Did y'all feel let down too by Black women in that other thread when y'all were trying to drag Black women with a tweet from a White men quoting a Asian women who swirl.

Your energy is never the same
 

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You all can gaslight all you want. Talib kweli ring a bell? Conscious black men that pander to black women but actions shows the opposite. These ninjas will date a light skin and white women all day
 

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You all can gaslight all you want. Talib kweli ring a bell? Conscious black men that pander to black women but actions shows the opposite. These ninjas will date a light skin and white women all day

talib is married to a black woman and having an outside baby with a black woman. sarah jay was rumors.
 

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Light skin. Not DSBW. Doesn't matter he slept with Sarah Jay sooo

we have different definitions of lightskin.

talib_eque.png
 

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Talib slept with Sara Jay?? Damn. Men will literally stick their dick in a tree stump to get off. She looks like a goddamn man.

Outside babies?? WTF
He ain't sh!t. Period.
 

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I’ve never heard a bm say Michelle Obama was less black/sell out/self hater for marrying Barack. Bw call them a beautiful black couple....but when a bm does it he gets criticized.

exactly. I understand there's a different history of dating out where black men are concerned and that many times it has to do with status. However, if we are going to ever move forward I think bw need to accept that sometimes black men will be with biracial or lsbw and it has nothing to do w colorism or self hatred. The Michelle and Barack example is on point.
 

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lmao I see the gaslighting has begun. If this man is talking about loving black woman and marries a biracial that is indeed pandering.

Black women don't have to accept black men dating out or this biracial woman as black because she is not. And this is exactly why I don't support black men any longer. They aren't pro-black they are pro-black man. They claim anyone they dick down as black to appease their guilt. Seen it with my own eyes.
 

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