MsBlancheDuBois
hoe
It seems your expectations are really low. If you had a good father or uncle in your life they would be ready to whoop this man azz for essentially pimping you because you’ve been too naive to know any better. You’re a prime target for an abuser.
Some thoughts:
* 50k is not a high enough income for two kids, which is why he can’t save. He can’t afford a girlfriend either, which is why you’re getting sh!tty gifts.
* If you marry this man he will not change. In fact, he will expect you to carry even more of the load because you were dumb enough to commit to more financial and emotions abuse after witnessing it for 2 years.
* He picked you because any woman his own age is going to see this little situation and not want any parts of it. He picked you because he thought you were dumb enough to fall for it.
*You’ve already outgrown him at 25 . That should tell you how stunted he is as a 40 year old man.
*When you leave he’s going to be looking for another young woman to sucker and drain of cash. You’re probably not the first to subsidize his life.
*Don’t be shocked if he gets more verbally or physically abusive once you start withdraw your money and car.
* You having no friends makes you vulnerable to abusive relationships. It’s a hallmark of low self esteem. Bad men look for that and attack. Before dating please establish a friend group.
*You need to throw your beliefs about “good men” in the trash. Good men can care for themselves and provide for their children. They add to your life, not take from it. They don’t use women as mules to pull themselves up.
You said a WORD! My spirit tingled reading this.
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