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We've been together for 5 years and we live together.

Last night, we had an argument and he went to work. When he came back in the early morning, he brought breakfast for us as I was getting ready to leave for work.

I was still upset from the night before and decided to not eat breakfast with him, instead I'll just eat at work.

He snapped and threw the food so hard it landed with a crash near the bin. He then came to me and said "What do I have to break to get you to listen?"

He left the room and I thought it was over. He came back 10 minutes later and grabbed my tablet from my desk and was going to go crack the screen (or throw it away). I stopped him saying he has no right to, I own it. He said he didn't care.

This stand-off lasted for 10 minutes before I got it back. He said that he's off today and he'll just break something else if mine while I'm at work.

I'm now at work and he's texting that he wants me out or else he'll start breaking my stuff. What should I do?
 

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Uhh you should get out before he breaks your sh!t. Find an extended stay hotel until you can get your own place.
 

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Please get away from this man OP. He's already threatened to start breaking things if he doesn't get his way and this may escalate to physical violence. Hugs, please stay safe
 

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Leave immediately and never go back. Do you have family or friends you can stay with until you get stable?

You need to go collect your stuff before he damages whatever he wants to.
 
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It's time to gtf gone is what! Why cohabitate with a long-term bf anyway? That part already showed he ain't isht
 

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OP here,

I forgot to mention that I do not have any family in the area. I have my exams next week and that with the stress of being kicked out is too much right now. I don't know what I should do.
 

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It starts with him damaging things, next thing you known, he’s knocking your head in between the washer and dryer.
 

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Go to a women’s shelter if you have no money otherwise stay at an extended stay hotel until you get your situation sorted out . In the future stop living with men who are not your husband.

With respect to exams, Either do the exams or gets F grades or go talk to your professors about an extension.

Stop living with random men.
 

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OP here,

I forgot to mention that I do not have any family in the area. I have my exams next week and that with the stress of being kicked out is too much right now. I don't know what I should do.
I hope you overwhelm your ass all the way back home or safely away from his devious ass!! DON'T STAY DON'T STAY DON'T STAY especially if you don't want your face to be broken next.... he's for the streets
 

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You need to contact support services at your university to make arrangements to be in a safe place. Save your excuses and instead save yourself.
 
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We've been together for 5 years and we live together.

Last night, we had an argument and he went to work. When he came back in the early morning, he brought breakfast for us as I was getting ready to leave for work.

I was still upset from the night before and decided to not eat breakfast with him, instead I'll just eat at work.

He snapped and threw the food so hard it landed with a crash near the bin. He then came to me and said "What do I have to break to get you to listen?"

He left the room and I thought it was over. He came back 10 minutes later and grabbed my tablet from my desk and was going to go crack the screen (or throw it away). I stopped him saying he has no right to, I own it. He said he didn't care.

This stand-off lasted for 10 minutes before I got it back. He said that he's off today and he'll just break something else if mine while I'm at work.

I'm now at work and he's texting that he wants me out or else he'll start breaking my stuff. What should I do?
Well, you only have one solution. GET OUT! RUN!
 

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First, stop calling him your boyfriend.

Second, find a safe place to stay, because where you are is not it. Check resources available for domestic violence--that's what you're dealing with right now.

Third, if you can, talk to your professors about your situation and ask for some consideration with your exams.

This is not going to get better.
 

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Incog, you need to leave him. Do not try to rationalize with him, because he's violent and nothing out of your mouth or any amount of "loving him more" is going to change that.

SAVE YOURSELF. :heart:

Sincerely,
A DV Survivor
 

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Please get away from this man OP. He's already threatened to start breaking things if he doesn't get his way and this may escalate to physical violence. Hugs, please stay safe
He has already escalated to physical violence.
 
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Get your stuff and GO. Also take someone else w you when you’re collecting your things, don’t go alone. Be grateful that you dodged a bullet with this dude. Men like this don’t get better, only more violent.
 

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You need to leave now. Find a hotel or classmate to stay with temporarily.
 

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Has this stuff happened before? This sounds like a dangerous situation. I know its easy to say just leave but this is such a bad situation for you.
 

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You need to leave


If he touches your sh!t, call the police. That's destruction of property.
 

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this man is off. u dont threaten to break anyone's sh!t and u certainly dont text em AT WORK threatening to break sh!t. fµck sakes I'm a dude and even I'm mad as sh!t at this. does he know how much electronics costs these days?


fcking break up with him
 

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We've been together for 5 years and we live together.

Last night, we had an argument and he went to work. When he came back in the early morning, he brought breakfast for us as I was getting ready to leave for work.

I was still upset from the night before and decided to not eat breakfast with him, instead I'll just eat at work.

He snapped and threw the food so hard it landed with a crash near the bin. He then came to me and said "What do I have to break to get you to listen?"

He left the room and I thought it was over. He came back 10 minutes later and grabbed my tablet from my desk and was going to go crack the screen (or throw it away). I stopped him saying he has no right to, I own it. He said he didn't care.

This stand-off lasted for 10 minutes before I got it back. He said that he's off today and he'll just break something else if mine while I'm at work.

I'm now at work and he's texting that he wants me out or else he'll start breaking my stuff. What should I do?
Leave. Nothing good is going to come if you stay in the situation. Plus, he sounds like an asshole.
 

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Please OP,
do not, I repeat DO NOT accept any apology or excuses that he will eventually tell you.

He wants you gone, take that opportunity to leave.

Your academic counselor will approve a change to your exam dates, under extreme circumstances. This is one of them
 

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sorry you are dating an insecure loser who doesn't know how to handle his emotions like the grown adult he is instead he resorts to childish games and antics in order to get your attention. If i were you i would save all of those messages and file a police report stating that he has either threatened to or is damaging your property. Dump his ass. He seems unhinged and just know it always starts with breaking your stuff before it leads to him assaulting you. Please be safe and I hope you find someone who values you and knows how to handle a disagreement like an adult and not a man baby.
 

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We've been together for 5 years and we live together.

Last night, we had an argument and he went to work. When he came back in the early morning, he brought breakfast for us as I was getting ready to leave for work.

I was still upset from the night before and decided to not eat breakfast with him, instead I'll just eat at work.

He snapped and threw the food so hard it landed with a crash near the bin. He then came to me and said "What do I have to break to get you to listen?"

He left the room and I thought it was over. He came back 10 minutes later and grabbed my tablet from my desk and was going to go crack the screen (or throw it away). I stopped him saying he has no right to, I own it. He said he didn't care.

This stand-off lasted for 10 minutes before I got it back. He said that he's off today and he'll just break something else if mine while I'm at work.

I'm now at work and he's texting that he wants me out or else he'll start breaking my stuff. What should I do?
i’m sorry you’re going through this, you need to get out now. it’s not worth risking your safety. today it’s a tablet, tomorrow it could be a lot worse.
 

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Men who break things break women’s faces next. Get an air bnb right now, you need to take off work now. Get a friend to escort you to get your stuff this evening. If you can’t get everything right now, remove your important documents and valuables. If you cannot get a friend go to your local station for a police escort to remove your items.
Do this today!!!!
 

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He's gearing up to break your face.

You have a choice to make.

Live, or die.

contact DV shelter for assistance.
 

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Last night, we had an argument and he went to work.
What was the argument about that he still mad after work.

Tell a classmate to let you study with them and crash at they house until exams are finish and you can go home.
 

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We've been together for 5 years and we live together.

Last night, we had an argument and he went to work. When he came back in the early morning, he brought breakfast for us as I was getting ready to leave for work.

I was still upset from the night before and decided to not eat breakfast with him, instead I'll just eat at work.

He snapped and threw the food so hard it landed with a crash near the bin. He then came to me and said "What do I have to break to get you to listen?"

He left the room and I thought it was over. He came back 10 minutes later and grabbed my tablet from my desk and was going to go crack the screen (or throw it away). I stopped him saying he has no right to, I own it. He said he didn't care.

This stand-off lasted for 10 minutes before I got it back. He said that he's off today and he'll just break something else if mine while I'm at work.

I'm now at work and he's texting that he wants me out or else he'll start breaking my stuff. What should I do?
Get the fk out!

Tell your boss you are sick and leave.

Go to the cops and get an escort to stand there and watch you pack your stuff. Tell them he has threatened your life and you are afraid to go there alone. Just grab some big trash bags - double them up and put your clothes in there and get out.

Whatever you can't pack ... write it off as a loss and never talk to that crazy man again.

This man is dangerous.
 

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this is abuse. when I was 19, my narcissist ex broke my laptop and erased my phone after a fight.
thankfully, I got out of that relationship physically unharmed, but found out from a mutual acquaintance my ex choked out the next woman he was with.

OP, next time, he will threaten you directly, not your stuff.
seek out a DV hotline in your state/area. Blue states also tend to have robust state resources and can give you aid and shelter.
 

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You need to get out! He will only get more violent. Contact a local DV nonprofit. If you don’t know one in your area, please call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233. They can help you figure out a plan and find resources for moving out safely.
 

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GET OUT.

Get a restraining order, get a gun, do whatever you need to protect yourself and your hard earned possessions from this clown, but GET AWAY FROM HIM for your own safety. Breaking things is a form of abuse and will only escalate from there.
 

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You need to leave and not live with boyfriends again.

Also I know I'm going to get quoted, I don't know how serious the argument prior was or what it was about but assuming it was some petty ish, don't antagonise people in their own home especially when they are trying to make peace.

I'd be mad if I went to the effort in my home that I pay for, buying breakfast as a peace offering just to have somebody tell me they wanna bare grudges and "eat at work".

He is giving you a way out o.p. I think you should take it and leave. You don't respect him and he don't respect you. Save yourself, otherwise it will happen again, because both of yall sound immature.
 

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OP here,

I forgot to mention that I do not have any family in the area. I have my exams next week and that with the stress of being kicked out is too much right now. I don't know what I should do.
OP there is ALWAYS a choice. You can get a hotel, motel, Airbnb. Or worse case scenario go back home.

First thing is threatening to break your things, next thing is your face.
 

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He must not be afraid of any brothers or cousins in the area.
Stop saying this!!!!

My very dear friend got killed trying to protect his stupid ass sister!!!

Leaving his wife a widow and his children without a father.

And my friend was physically fit and a D1 athlete.

THAT'S WHAT THE POLICE ARE FOR!!!!

CALL THE POLICE

LET THEM SHOOT HIS ASS!!!

WE KNOW THE POLICE SHOOT FIRST!!!!

CLEAR THE AREA AND TELL THE POLICE !!!!
 

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