Could you marry a Haitian man?

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It doesn’t matter if they’re from the islands, African, Asian, European, WTVR, there’s always going to be trash men in every group. Most important thing is to respect yourself, recognize red flags and know when to walk away. Can’t blame a whole group based on people’s poor choices.
 
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I know exactly how you feel, i just got out of a toxic messy situation with my haitian ex girlfriend of two years that cheated on me twice with the same woman but (im a female) and i am still hurt.. i just been trying to let it go though, not crying and staying strong, not thinking about the situation helps to heal, have fun and enjoy life, doing things productive and playing music also being with family and friends helps as well... and she was a narc as well...player btw. Also i have dated a haitian man too, i couldn't marry a haitian man or woman thats a player..

so it's a zoenetic phenomenon then
 
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This don't make sense regarding the culture they grew up in Haiti doesn't foster " husband material " mens when theres plenty of amazing haitian mens who literally grew up there and they are amazing husbands and fathers who do housework n etc.

Not in my personal experience, sorry. Housework is foreign to all the Haitian men I know.
 
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As a daughter of Haitian immigrants, he would have to be like me or very westernized. Straight from Haiti with their traditional views, hell no. My parents agree.

but I only date interracially anyway, I will likely marry the man I’m with now
 
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No. And I'm Haitian. 99.9% of the ones I know do not make good husbands, especially if they grew up in Haiti. It's just that the culture they grew up in doesn't foster "husband-material" men. Awful misogynistic mindset. They've been taught women do all the work and they want their wives to be their maids.

There was a woman I knew who was married to a Haitian man. A year into the marriage, she got an incurable STD, which revealed to her that he was cheating on her. Yes, these are all generalizations, but I know about 15 Haitian men in my life and none of them are good. Not one! So based on my personal experience, I have respectfully passed on them.
thats devestating. Is she ok now?
 
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Hell yeah! I love Haitian men! He could have four women and all women will feel like they are number 1. I am commitment phobic so this works very well for me. :ROFLMAO: In my experience, they are absolutely providers, spoiled the fuck out of me. Cook and everything else. What they don't want to do, they will hire someone for. #1 of all men.
 
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Hell yeah! I love Haitian men! He could have four women and all women will feel like they are number 1. I am commitment phobic so this works very well for me. :ROFLMAO: In my experience, they are absolutely providers, spoiled the fuck out of me. Cook and everything else. What they don't want to do, they will hire someone for. #1 of all men.


:laugh2:oops: Say no to side chick sisters
 
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My BF is Haitian and at times OP I ask myself the SAME thing. His father was a serial cheater left his mom after 30 years of marriage and then had another baby at 60. His brothers have 5 kids each yet they are living the Bachelor life together in apartment away from them. He doesn't see a problem with this says its the women's fault...but its worth it because the D is BOMB. Kept me satisfied for five years now lmao
 
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I know someone who married a Haitian man and as soon as he got his citizenship he flipped on her threatened to take the baby back to Haiti, the woman even lost her mind a little bit from the turmoil he put her through. They are now separated and she is doing better mentally because for a while she was seeing things that were not there, thought people were following her talking about her and putting stuff in her food.
Black American women (or women with their papers) should NEVER marry a Haitian who is FOB. I wouldn't even do some crazy mess like that and my whole family is Haitian. These men will fill you with babies and start acting up once they get their papers.
 
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Is he Americanized? Funnily enough, I’ve only been in a relationship with one AA male. The others were Jamaican, Haitian, Bahamian, and this guy from Dominica. He was fine af.


It’s the older Haitian men you gotta watch out for though. Many of my Haitian friends have fathers with whole families back in Haiti.
 
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I have girlfriends that have been happily married with professional Haitian men for years, men with stable careers, no outside children... We don't keep in touch as often as I'd like as they have children and I don't, but none of these men are mysogynists who can't cook, don't do household work or have a bad relationship with money. Perhaps your female friends are being unrealistic in thinking that the grass is always greener elsewhere
She lost me at bad with money... Haitians are very frugal and big on saving
 
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I know someone who married a Haitian man and as soon as he got his citizenship he flipped on her threatened to take the baby back to Haiti, the woman even lost her mind a little bit from the turmoil he put her through. They are now separated and she is doing better mentally because for a while she was seeing things that were not there, thought people were following her talking about her and putting stuff in her food.
Oh Chile, he was in it for the papers.
 
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Omg how did you handle it?
I calmly looked at them confused and said, what makes you think I’m dating him? They looked back at me confused bc they realized that they weren’t supposed to know we fkd. Convo ov

They were supposed to think that we were platonic friends.


Don’t feel bad for him. He was “out there”. Plus, I didnt string him along and immediately distanced myself from him.

Glad that I bounced bc he had a baby on the way when these people sat me down and he never told me. He eventually married the baby’s mother (bourgeoise haitian woman).
 
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My BF is Haitian and at times OP I ask myself the SAME thing. His father was a serial cheater left his mom after 30 years of marriage and then had another baby at 60. His brothers have 5 kids each yet they are living the Bachelor life together in apartment away from them. He doesn't see a problem with this says its the women's fault...but its worth it because the D is BOMB. Kept me satisfied for five years now lmao
Girl, you better read the signs.
 
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On behalf of this daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, cousin, aunt, and friend of excellent Haitian men, I can only hope you realize that if you are on these here skreets, chances are you know first hand how dumb and dangerous generalizations are against a ppl.

Don't let one bad person take your power and a make you into a generalizing fool.
One of the most sensible and sencical posts I've seen on this damn site, and I've been here a long time; too long.

Being said, if he looks good, makes me laugh, treats me right and with respect, and isn't an outright bum, I'd marry any man, including one of the Haitian Persuasion
 
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I know a few Haitian women and they all married or had children by white men.
The Haitian men that I know are all hard working, have their own business, family oriented, but also have children with white women or all very colorists. The men are dark skin but the wives are either mixed, light, or not black.
O I grew up in a predominately Haitian community and have been told by many my whole life that when a Haitian woman or man marries a white person, it is worth celebrating.
 

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