Cutting family off?

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Have you ever cut an immediate family member out of your life? If so....

1.) What were the circumstances? (if you feel comfortable sharing)
2.) How did you handle the situation?

My sister is self destructive and I have very few family members left in my life.

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My parents passed a long time ago and a few years later I completely cut off my sisters. We lived in different States so I don't they missed me to tell the truth.

I few years later I moved out of the country - and that was that.

If your family is toxic - you need to up sticks, move away and cease contact.

Of course emotionally this is hard but it's been 20 some years now - and it's one of the best things I ever did.
 
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I've cut off almost all 12 siblings. They're all fucking nuts.

Sister 1 and 2 I've written about before and would rather not go into detail again.

Sister 3's husband threatened both my life and our mother's life. Gun to head and all. I did recently speak to her as she is dying from leukemia and her ain't shit husband is gallivanting around the country using our family's wealth to finance it.

Sister 4 is intermittently in my life. She is a pathological liar, opportunist, and is always involved in some fraudulent mess which I can not allow in my life.

Brothers 1-5 are intermittently in my life, see them at funerals and that's about it.

Brother 6 I cut off after he failed to pay back roughly 30K.

Brother 7 in jail, I may allow him back in my life if he becomes a contributing member of society upon his release. I.E. Hold a job (any job, IDC if it's working at Mcikey D's, as long as it's legit) and stays clean.

Brother 8 died, may he R.I.P.

I stay in contact with my nieces and nephews more than I do their parents.

It was hard and is still hard as I yearn for a nuclear family. Some days are better than others but I comfort myself with the knowledge that it's the best thing for me. As for the nuclear family, I'm working on starting on one with hubby. If that fails, we'll adopt and hopefully provide a home I wanted for a child who needs one.
 
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Yes, I've done this exactly 5 times and truthfully, I have not regretted any one of those occasions.

Peace of mind and healing are priceless.
 
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To me, blood doesn't excuse a toxic relationship. If you are more at peace without than with them, don't second guess the decision. Best wishes!
 
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I am estranged from my parents and my only sibling, so basically my core family. I won't derail this thread by discussing my past, but I've spoken about it in my older posts. It got to the point where I realized they were adding nothing of value to my life except keeping me mired in misery. The physical abuse had ended but the verbal abuse and the emotional assaults continued.

The holidays were very hard (I cut them off in November), but I have blossomed since I've gone No Contact. Therapy helps tremendously. I've discovered self-love for the first time in my life. I feel a sense of deep grief for the many experiences I've deprived myself of (marriage, motherhood) because of the derogatory, humiliating messages fed to me since I was a baby. But I believe it will get better. At some point, I had to end the cycle of abuse.
 
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Literally every member but my life was unique & extreme
Long story short
I was suppose to be a trafficked child sold to a pedophile as a teen. My family has told me to forgive the person & understand I'm being dramatic. The other people in my family abused me and one sexually. Since i rejected my sexual abuser i was treated terribly imagine all those dudes who say fuck you bitch & want to curse you out being a family member. I was abused for non compliance and had my name run through the mud. I tried to speak up & would get called names. I told my dad about the abuse & he yelled at me. I've cut everyone off. I'm healing. I get better everyday. I'm learning to cut toxic people off & I don't deal with their bullshit.
 

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