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RudeKid
Thank you for acknowledging the part parents play in the split. My mom stayed "choosing" my brother no matter what fµck sh!t he said or did. He was a nasty abusive drunk. I finally kicked him out and that woke him up like nothing else. Keep in mind he had many warnings, we had several come to Jesus talks and nothing improved. He re-nigged on every financial agreement we had - housing, food, bills, our mother's care. This fool once told me he wouldnt mop the floor in our home because he "didn't use it." He had an endless line of bµllsh!t.
Before I kicked him out, I made sure he had a place to go even. My mom and him still got pissed. I told her, "I am emotionally healthier and stronger than I've ever been. I'm not regressing for either one of you. I don't deserve it and I'm not putting up with it."
My mom never stands up for me. She just throws her hands up and says: "I' not taking sides." Well, that's bµllsh!t. There is right and wrong and you not taking sides? Is all the answer. I have no one who stands up for me and rides for me in my family. NO one.
After I kicked him out, He found a woman to carry his ass till he got it together and now they are married. I was happy for him (still find it fascinating he married someone who is a combo of me and his mother but whatev). He is one of those dudes that loses himself in whatever woman he's with and then acts like that is who he is and always has been. He's a fµck!ng fraud.
Ever since they got married we will be fine one minute and he was having heat flashes the next. sh!t was bizarre and I wasn't going to apologize when his ass is too simple to actually articulate his problem and he's not mature enough to have a conversation about it. He'll just say "Oh, you dont get it."
Nope. Sure don't. fµck off.
I used to really love him and hope we would rebuild our relationship. I was willing to forgive. I don't anymore. I don't respect him and I don't like him.
Your mother is to blame for this too. Smh. Let’s hold these parents accountable because they play a huge role when it comes to sibling relationships. I’m glad you moved on.