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Do u think wives should accept their husband’s side babies in their life?

Should wives accept their husband’s side babies?

  • Yes

    Votes: 9 12.9%
  • No

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  • Idk

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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.
 

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If the wife is going to stay married to the husband, I think she should accept the side babies. I mean why stay married to him if she’s that upset about the husband having a kid on the side that she’s going to take it out on the kid because the kid didn’t ask to be in that situation and the kid wasn’t the one who cheated, lol.
 

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i mean, i wouldn’t even accept him as my husband anymore, so...i would ask for a divorce right then and there. this is one of the biggest betrayals.
 

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Women should be able to choose to do as they please. That being said, if you choose to stay with him why condemn the child? Your husband is the one who did you wrong, not the child. Don't take your anger out on it.
 

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I would no longer be married to a man that had a side baby, but I would want him to have a relationship with his side kid b/c children need their parents no matter how they were conceived.
 

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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.
Your husband is the bustard tho going around creating those babies in the first place your anger should be towards him not an innocent baby fool
 

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Well if you insist on staying like a fool AND you have children then yes you should accept the side babies. The family dynamics will become too toxic for all the children involved if the side babies are treated like outsiders. Even if you have the sense to leave I think you owe it to your children to at least be respectful towards the existence of their half-siblings. I’d go full Elizabeth Edwards though. I always have a laugh remembering that she made John’s ass sleep in the barn then he would be awakened from his undeserved sleep to her an inch away from his face screaming at him. And she gave the mistress hell too. However she not only met the child she even brought her presents and I’m sure that helped the other kids accept the little girl. I’m sure deep down she resented the child but white women have a skill with that sort of pettiness where you shut your mouth and pretend to be a good person just to get under the skin of those who wronged you.
 

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As a married woman myself if my husband ever cheated and had a side baby which knowing him since he is a faithful husband he wouldn’t I would never and I would gladly divorce him. I’m not putting up with cheating or outside kids.
 

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Would a man put up with his wife getting pregnant by another man? Would he invite the outside baby to be raised in the household with his own kids, pay for its existence and shrug off any questions asked by friends and family about the child's paternity? I'm not saying this never happens but it's rare af. Meanwhile, I have women in my extended family who have accepted outside babies, in some cases more than one. It's so sad to me, especially because their husbands would NEVER do the same for them.
 

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Absolutely not. I think she should divorce him and take him for everything he’s got. He broke their vows and was more than willing to endanger her life, by possibly giving her something incurable.
 

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Hell no. My mom was one of those “I’m going to accept his mistakes” with my stepdad and raised his affair baby as her own. It had her miserable and resenting him everyday until she finally divorced him. He became upset because “You accepted it then why not now” and attempted to kill my mother and lil sister
 

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Why are pickmes always asking the dumbest questions? I would hire a lawyer, file for divorce and take his last penny.
 

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My husband has a vasectomy. Your husband should get one, too! Especially if he is rich! :b21

Hoes can trap the next husband!!!! Lol!
 

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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.
You insult the baby but not your husband how pathetic
 

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A women will take it and accept it and cradle it and comfort it and give her money to it and he will get another IT and she would take care of those multiple ITS Because women bend for men!


A man will either leave it or molest it or kill it or silent treatment it.
Men never bend
 

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Some men do stay when their wives have side babies. I know of several from my childhood. But then again this was in the 50s and 60s.
 
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Sorry I’ll be honest. I wouldn’t stay with the husband and I would not take any responsibility of having my children get to know their side sibling. I didn’t create this mess and I’m not gonna clean it up. The side child would nit be allowed in my presence or at my house , they would not be invited to bday part, chridtmas events I would have with my kids. The dad and I can split up holidays, I’m cool with that.

I know what I can stand and what I can’t, dont @.
 

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This is quite funny to me because men are always not acknowledging an unwanted or illegitimate child or children when they’re single and unmarried, so how does this become a dilemma when they’re married... lol

Men are very dismissive towards their unwanted children. Even children before a marriage to another woman hardly ever poses a threat to his current situation. The couple just moves on and act like they don’t exist.
 

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I mean idk.

If you decided to stay with your husband I don't see why not accept the child when their father is married to you and your children with him are that baby's siblings. I think it'll make life hard for the child if they know their sibling's mother and father's wife didn't want them around and they don't deserve that cuz they didn't ask to be here.

If you divorced the man, it really is your choice. The outside baby will still be the sibling of your children but they can maintain a relationship with their siblings and their father without you needing to 'accept' them so...
 

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Why is he still her husband in the first place? Once she agrees to stay married to him after that, the child becomes her stepchild. The only way to not have to worry about his other kid is to divorce him. This way she won’t have to be a stepmom to the kid. If she chooses to stay, she should accept her stepchild. Why forgive the adult who committed the sin but punish the innocent child for her husband’s actions? He’s the one who should be punished not the child. This foolish women annoy me with that. They’ll let the man get away scot free and become a wicked stepmom to the innocent kid.
 
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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.
So you can accept the husband that made the conscious decision to cheat on you and create that “illegitimate” kid but you can’t accept the innocent kid who had no control in how they were brought into this world. If you can’t accept the kid, neither should you accept the husband back. He should be your EX husband.
 

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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.

A better answer would be that you wouldn't accept your husband any longer as well.
 

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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.
If you're dumb enough to stay a cheater than yes. Because any woman who can open up her mouth a say, "we can work on things but you must have nothing to do with your child", has just become trash....like her husband.
 

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This is my personal opinion on the topic, I think it should be up to the women but I personally would NOT accept a child my husband made while being married to me. Absolutely NOT! I’m not accepting no bastard illegimate baby In my household. A lot of women like me that take my stances are often shamed but Idc.
Same, I wouldn’t either. The side child isn’t my child.
 

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