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Do y’all dress your kids or let them wear whatever? I’m not a parent, but I refuse to let my future Minnie Me leave the house in a Spider-Man costume and rain boots like some of these children I see out and about. Lately this has been an on-going joke with the man I’m dating and he just text me that he’s having dinner with his family and his cousin’s son has on a Spider-Man costume...

Is parenting that stressful you just say “fµck these kids and what they got on?” Please enlighten me!!!

If I’m going to be dressed appropriately when I leave the house (not in a bonnet, a robe and pajama bottoms at Walmart) but at least workout gear that somewhat matches at the least... so tf are my kids! Is it really so overwhelming you can’t pick a neutral outfit for them to throw on? I had a coworker once tell me she doesn’t want to deal with a tantrum from the kid, but that just isn’t enough for me to have my child out here looking like I don’t love them...
 

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I mean, you're only a kid once. No one is going to think a 5 year old person in a tiara, tutu, rain boots and a banana costume is insane, but they will think your grown ass is.



What their child is wearing is not a priority to parents at sometimes. "At least they have on clothes, now let's get to the grocery store so I can have dinner on the stove in time".









And I rather the kid dress tacky on their own, than their parents forcing them to wear tacky fashions. Some children have ugly ass clothes.
 

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It’s so funny when people that aren’t parents say what they will and won’t do. Trust. That’ll change. When your two year old wants to wear rain boots in 90 degree weather you let them. No one is going to judge you and 10 times out of 10 when you’re out in public and people notice, they smile or laugh.
 

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It’s so funny when people that aren’t parents say what they will and won’t do. Trust. That’ll change. When your two year old wants to wear rain boots in 90 degree weather you let them. No one is going to judge you and 10 times out of 10 when you’re out in public and people notice, they smile or laugh.
I don’t like the idea of someone laughing at my child.
 

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I make sure my kids look well groomed but it’s unrealistic as hell to think that you’re going to be dressing your child like a IG baby 24/7 every time you step out the house.
It’s nice to imagine but isn’t realistic. Some days there will be moments where you just throw on something and as long as it doesn’t have stains or rips/ holes... (y)(y)

As far as your coworker, you really don’t know the deal with her kid. My daughter has ADHD and as a tot I remember sometimes the smallest things or transitions could send her in a spiral. Luckily she never had a hang up on clothes or got fixated on certain outfits but sometimes it is easier to pick your battles and go with the flow to finish the bigger task at hand. I wouldn’t expect someone who’s never experienced that to understand. On the outside looking in it’s easy to say “How hard is it to dress your kid in something appropriate “? In reality you really have no idea what they go through with that child behind closed doors.

& then some parents are just lazy.

I just learned to stop judging because you never really know. We see a non-matching child for a brief 5 mins and already come to the conclusion about what type of parents they have. 5 mins out of x amount of years of parenting.
 

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I never thought about this too in depth but randomly ran out with hubby the other day and we decided to go to the jewelry store. I remember asking him that morning if I should change her or if she was fine and he said to just throw on her fleece pram. When we made it to the jewelry store I knew I should have dressed her, hair was a mess outfit was questionable and I felt like I looked like I didn't care abt my child's appearance. Never again! I dress her every morning even if I look bummy lol.
 

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Lol I mean kids like to pick their outfits and why can't they have some creativity if it's not a special event?
People judge u if ur kids looks dirty/unkempt not if their clothes don't match...
 

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I make sure my kids look well groomed but it’s unrealistic as hell to think that you’re going to be dressing your child like a IG baby 24/7 every time you step out the house.
It’s nice to imagine but isn’t realistic. Some days there will be moments where you just throw on something and as long as it doesn’t have stains or rips/ holes... (y)(y)

As far as your coworker, you really don’t know the deal with her kid. My daughter has ADHD and as a tot I remember sometimes the smallest things or transitions could send her in a spiral. Luckily she never had a hang up on clothes or got fixated on certain outfits but sometimes it is easier to pick your battles and go with the flow to finish the bigger task at hand. I wouldn’t expect someone who’s never experienced that to understand. On the outside looking in it’s easy to say “How hard is it to dress your kid in something appropriate “? In reality you really have no idea what they go through with that child behind closed doors.

& then some parents are just lazy.

I just learned to stop judging because you never really know. We see a non-matching child for a brief 5 mins and already come to the conclusion about what type of parents they have. 5 mins out of x amount of years of parenting.
Not even an IG baby. Just in decent outside clothes. Lol some joggers and t-shirt and I’ll even accept crocs! Lmao
 

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Not even an IG baby. Just in decent outside clothes. Lol some joggers and t-shirt and I’ll even accept crocs! Lmao
I agree but I try not to judge. I personally loathe when yt families let their babies ride around in public with no socks but it’s not my child. There have been days where I rather drink bleach than argue with my son about putting lotion on his ankles when he insists on wearing his favorite pants that ride up with every step and are borderline high waters.

Does he have better pants? Yes.
Do I always fight with him to the death about putting on the newer pairs that I’ve bought for him when he picks out those pants from hell? No. Not every time
 

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Allowing your child to dress themselves helps them develop independence and sometimes a sense of imagination and creativity.
 

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My daughter started dressing herself at 3. One day she woke up and picked out a dress or skirt to wear for over a year. She seriously boycotted pants. Then when she got older it was eccentric scarves, mis matched socks (which they sell this way now) and one glove. I had other battles to fight and besides she was so cute! You gotta give up some power OP and that’s an easy give.
 

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Meh- my son used to like wearing his spiderman costume over his clothes for like a whole year. I didn't let him wear it to school or anywhere important, but if we were just running errands or something, I let him. They're only little once and he has long since grown out of that and now only wants to wear name brands. I miss those Spiderman days. If it brings joy to their little life and isn't hurting anyone, why say no just for the sake of it?
 

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Not a parent myself but my mom said that as long as I was clean and well groomed/weather appropriate she pretty much let me wear whatever. My dad and I liked twinning from time to time (think 90s denim looks) but for the most part they let me do my own thing. My mom was a teacher for a bit when I was younger and she said that it fostered creativity, independence and discernment (in a similar manner to exercises she’d go through with her class).

I’m not saying let your child wear a bikini or something to a restaurant but self-expression should be encouraged, especially when they’re young enough to be that uninhibited/concerned with the opinions of others.

Let kids be kids.
 
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Do y’all dress your kids or let them wear whatever? I’m not a parent, but I refuse to let my future Minnie Me leave the house in a Spider-Man costume and rain boots like some of these children I see out and about. Lately this has been an on-going joke with the man I’m dating and he just text me that he’s having dinner with his family and his cousin’s son has on a Spider-Man costume...

Is parenting that stressful you just say “fµck these kids and what they got on?” Please enlighten me!!!

If I’m going to be dressed appropriately when I leave the house (not in a bonnet, a robe and pajama bottoms at Walmart) but at least workout gear that somewhat matches at the least... so tf are my kids! Is it really so overwhelming you can’t pick a neutral outfit for them to throw on? I had a coworker once tell me she doesn’t want to deal with a tantrum from the kid, but that just isn’t enough for me to have my child out here looking like I don’t love them...

Truly spoken as someone who doesn’t have any children! LOL!
 

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They were only allowed to do it if they were just in the house or playing outside. I picked out their clothes all through elementary school. I let them pick out their own clothes for middle and high school.
 

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My 4yo wanted a pair of Toy Story cowboy boots. His dad prefers only Jordan’s and he has every pair that comes out but the kid doesn’t care. Neither do I. Kids have a right to express themselves. They have to develop their taste. So I bought the boots and he is thrilled.
 

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i think it’s really cute seeing little kids wearing tutus or superhero costumes at the grocery store. if it makes them happy and it’s a reasonable place to do it why not. i’d make it a special thing or only limit it to places that weren’t important. i think it’s good for kids to have fun and pretend.
 

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If we are not getting out the car (ie dropping the older ones off at ballet/cheer) then I let my youngest put on whatever she wants, as long as it is weather appropriate. If we are getting out of the car, then I will pick out my youngest two (5 and 9) clothes and will approve or disapprove my 12 year old clothes of choice.
 

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this is super weird and controlling in my opinion. as long as they're clean, why does it matter? my mom tried to dictate what i wore up until middle school and i hated her for it.

my son is only 1 but i still give him choices. whatever he reaches for is what he wears.
 

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For the most part yes. But they both love hats, so I pick the outfit, they pick the hats. And taking off their hat when they are not ready to take it off will have them screaming faster than you can put it back on. Then they’ll stare you down.

Both my kids hold grudges. My son doesn’t articulate them, but you can tell when he is still upset with you. My daughter, otoh, will let me know the next day it wasn’t nice of me to send her to bed when she wasn’t ready. The next day! Or ask me “do you remember the time you wouldn’t let me have ice cream for dinner? That wasn’t nice of you mom!” And that one was 2 weeks later. :bulgyeyes
 

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I still dress my kids. They're not old enough to pick out their own clothes, yet. Sometimes, my older daughter will ask, "Does this match?" I'll tell her yes or no, & help her. She's getting a slight sense of what goes & what doesn't.
 

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When we go out I dress my daughter but at home she wears what she wants. Like yesterday she wore a pair of pants with shorts over them, a dress and one of my ratty wigs and hat. I let her have fun
 

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By the time they hit 4-5, they dress themselves. The only thing I’ve ever cared about is that they’re clean and their clothes are clean. I don’t care if they match or whatever. I don’t care about any sort of style. I’ve also not had to deal with them wearing odd things outside the house. They generally know what’s for inside the home and what’s for outside.
 

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I bet he was the cutest little thing in his outfit and he was happy as can be. I love to see happy children expressing their creativity in a way that harms nobody.
 

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Children should be allowed to express their individuality. Who is it hurting for them to go to the grocery store in their own creation? I also want my kids to know how to dress because I love clothes.
 

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i see too many kids (kids old enough to dress themselves) with no hat/gloves/coat on in cold weather, but the parent be bundled up. so yes, i will be dressing my kid until he or she is old enough to buy their own clothes.
 

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i see too many kids (kids old enough to dress themselves) with no hat/gloves/coat on in cold weather, but the parent be bundled up. so yes, i will be dressing my kid until he or she is old enough to buy their own clothes.
I think that’s different. That’s a parent being neglectful. Of course you shouldn’t let your child out in the cold with swim shorts and a tank top
 

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I encourage my son to dress himself as often as possible cause I want him to wear what makes him feel happy. If he wants to wear a Spider-Man outfit with rain boots and he’s happy then I’m happy. As long as his hygiene is good and hair is combed he’s a BABY. LET BABIES BE BABIES
 

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I remember a daycare parent who always dressed her 2 year old in these big fancy dresses (like Cinderella style) and would be so disappointed when she came home with those dresses covered in wood chips :LOL: had the nerve to ask us to keep her clean lol.
We told her everyday "put pants on her that she can play in" but noooo mom was too obsessed with making her child into a doll for daycare.
 

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I keep it really simple....jeans, graphic tee and matching tennis shoes. Or shorts, graphic tee and sandals. Doing everything twice takes a lot of time. And yes they still look more put together than a lot of children I see out and about. They only wear dresses for holidays.

I do want to start putting them in more stylish clothing for everyday though, like I did when they were babies. It's a lot easier to do during summer.
 

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I still dress my kids. They're not old enough to pick out their own clothes, yet. Sometimes, my older daughter will ask, "Does this match?" I'll tell her yes or no, & help her. She's getting a slight sense of what goes & what doesn't.
I like this response!
 

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Children should be allowed to express their individuality. Who is it hurting for them to go to the grocery store in their own creation? I also want my kids to know how to dress because I love clothes.
Knowing how to dress is important. I don’t think wearing a Spider-Man costume and rain boots is teaching them that though. Lmao
 

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Knowing how to dress is important. I don’t think wearing a Spider-Man costume and rain boots is teaching them that though. Lmao
I think it’s about not being afraid to stand out and do your own thing. We could be raising the next Tracy Reese or Dapper Dan so let them shine!
 

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I think it’s about not being afraid to stand out and do your own thing. We could be raising the next Tracy Reese or Dapper Dan so let them shine!
We can agree to disagree.
Creativity and wearing inside clothes outside or costumes if you’re not begging for change on the Vegas strip isn’t creativity to me.
 

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We can agree to disagree.
Creativity and wearing inside clothes outside or costumes if you’re not begging for change on the Vegas strip isn’t creativity to me.
If it’s something they put together then they created it. I don’t understand the desire to say no when yes is not harmful and has more benefits than no. In some circumstances you need to let children flex their brain and have fun. There’s still some boundaries such as you can’t be Batman in suspenders at school, a funeral, etc and they get that which is why you only see kids dressed like this in casual settings. The phrase let kids be kids has never been more accurate.

I think that a lot of people go into parenting thinking they must control everything. I have personally seen the benefits of not micromanaging every part of my children’s being because it just sets up needless power struggles. On a deeper level it’s sending kids into the world afraid to make their own choices, insecure in their own actions. I want my kids to be leaders not followers.
 

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If it’s something they put together then they created it. I don’t understand the desire to say no when yes is not harmful and has more benefits than no. In some circumstances you need to let children flex their brain and have fun. There’s still some boundaries such as you can’t be Batman in suspenders at school, a funeral, etc and they get that which is why you only see kids dressed like this in casual settings. The phrase let kids be kids has never been more accurate.

I think that a lot of people go into parenting thinking they must control everything. I have personally seen the benefits of not micromanaging every part of my children’s being because it just sets up needless power struggles. On a deeper level it’s sending kids into the world afraid to make their own choices, insecure in their own actions. I want my kids to be leaders not followers.
Im not saying this from a perspective of control. I wasn’t micro-managed and I was allowed to dress myself, but I also had boundaries not to leave the house in pajamas, and dress up clothes or looking overall disheveled. That’s why adults leave the house looking like whatever and folks make memes about them. All I’m saying is, there’s a time and a place for certain clothing. At some point you have to be realistic with them about what’s acceptable in public.
 

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