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Like damn. Literally over 90% of threads in this subforum about us are negative. Not all of us are out here getting pregnant by dudes, exhibiting toxic male behaviors, or broke. We get attacked more than trans :dazed

Have y’all met any good studs/masc lesbians?
 

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Yeah my nieces mom is one and she’s cool in my opinion but I’ve known her since when she was a straight cis female/woman. Other than that hmmm lemme think...I just heard studs are abusive.
 

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I know some masc presenting women who are very cool but the truth is that most of the ones I have met/dated were very performative and seemed empty and were longing for something that was inside of them but they didn’t realize it. I told one that I dated that I was connecting with things about her that she couldn’t even connect with.. it’s disappointing when you have those experiences.

At the end of the day we are all women and I don’t write anyone off because of someone else’s actions so I’m still open to dating one.
 

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All the time; through work, school, mutual friends etc. Granted, I'm married to a man and never dated a stud, so I only know them as the humans they are, not on a romantic level. I also wouldn't be interested in generalizing a group of people just based on xesual orientation alone; same way I think it's super lame to base a whole group of people based on their zodiac sign.

Don't let people get you down OP. LSA logic is not the logic of the world. As long as you are a kind, loving person and treat others with dignity and respect, it doesn't matter what people think of you. I'm sure you're a nice, kind hearted person.
 

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I have bad experiences with stud females it’s like growing up like guys / I alway got more hate from the lesbians, and cis girls . Like bish you still gotta vagina sit yo ass down
 

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LOL at the title. Sorry, I only have 2 stud friends that aren't a hot mess and have their life together.
 

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Like damn. Literally over 90% of threads in this subforum about us are negative. Not all of us are out here getting pregnant by dudes, exhibiting toxic male behaviors, or broke. We get attacked more than trans :dazed

Have y’all met any good studs/masc lesbians?

You in danger girl. The thought police are COMING.

I agree with you. Honestly I am struck by how many people seem to think there is just one type of stud.

But let me mind my business.

I just heard studs are abusive.

I'm not trying to be fierce, but you genuinely believe this???

I'm actually really troubled by this trend because I suspect the most vitriol comes from women who have either limited experience with studs in real life, or encounter women who are just generally raggedy and would be even if they were as feminine as the day is long. Frankly, I have to wonder about the people who have these dramatic experiences - what about you attracts ain't sh!t women? At some point, you may need to reflect and regroup!

I also notice alot of xesual assumptions ie. you can't touch them, etc. Not true - I only date touchable, lickable studs. Periodt. And trust me, they ain't hard to find.

It's just draining to see the same straight people stereotypes coming from LGBT women. But people gon people.

Tnx for coming to my TEDTalk. Next week: "It Be The Same Damn Broad: Unpacking The LSA Obsession with Exotical Crushes"
 
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I'm good on studs for now. The last stud I dated was abusive and even though it's been a year, I'm still so traumatized.

Although I know that I could have had the same experience with a femme, I'm so turned off by masc energy these days.

I'm sure decent studs exist and I hope I never meet them lol
 

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As a stud myself, I can say we hella emotional hahaha

but the whole "abusive" part and generalizing that among studs as a whole ain't cool because that ain't really true. Usually the signs are there that a stud/woman is abusive especially in how they interact with other people but I think people don't pay attention to the signs.

But like I said, most of us are way more emotional than the fems and will simp for a woman all day long because at the end of the day we are still women and we have that natural gift of care taking for others.
 

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You in danger girl. The thought police are COMING.

I agree with you. Honestly I am struck by how many people seem to think there is just one type of stud.

But let me mind my business.



I'm not trying to be fierce, but you genuinely believe this???

I'm actually really troubled by this trend because I suspect the most vitriol comes from women who have either limited experience with studs in real life, or encounter women who are just generally raggedy and would be even if they were as feminine as the day is long. Frankly, I have to wonder about the people who have these dramatic experiences - what about you attracts ain't sh!t women? At some point, you may need to reflect and regroup!

I also notice alot of xesual assumptions ie. you can't touch them, etc. Not true - I only date touchable, lickable studs. Periodt. And trust me, they ain't hard to find.

It's just draining to see the same straight people stereotypes coming from LGBT women. But people gon people.

Tnx for coming to my TEDTalk. Next week: "It Be The Same Damn Broad: Unpacking The LSA Obsession with Exotical Crushes"
I’m not LGBT I just saw the thread in the side bar. I have no idea where the stereotype came from. I might of read it on here lol
 

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A stud robbed me once in Fl scared the isht outta me, she was big and masculine and I'm 5'7 I mean she was big. We were shook. Never met any other studs so I can't say other than that one experience. My guess is they're like every other person good, bad or naughty and nice.
 

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my experience with women is limited as I’m not really out to my family, but my two experiences with studs; one was very emotional....like to the point that I could not handle it because me and emotions really aren’t friends like that. I’m not very expressive, and she was talking love after three weeks and I freaked and bounced. second one, she was very aggressive in her pursuit, like to the point where I was slightly afraid. went on a first date, and she displayed a lot of toxic masculinity, so I blocked her. I know sh!tty people come in all shapes and sizes so I won’t lump everybody together.
 

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I like y'all. I've witnessed a lot of fµcked up behaviors from studs that I don't agree with. Some studs act like the worst examples of masculinity. That's that sh!t I don't like.
 

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It’s hit or miss. It’s always a mindfuck how my exes would do so much male posturing playing up masculinity to the point of hypermasculinity but be softer than a baby’s ass when it came to their feelings or lack overall emotional intelligence.

I’ve always ended up being the more assertive and dominant one in those relationships which in turn my exes felt they could physically dominate me or emotionally gaslight me to throw their weight around. I’m not in the business of that sh!t.

My experience has been:
friends with studs >>>> romantic relationship with studs
 

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i work with one. nice person but a hot mess all around. they seem to have deep emotional issues.
Why tf are you still here? Are you one of them lesbians trapped in deep denial? You have no respect for gay women but stay in gay women spaces. Go convince yourself that women and males are compatible for each other in the 1000s of "positive" straight-lifestyle forums this site has to offer....good luck!
 

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Aww I love studs. I struggle with the culture of toxic masculinity that many studs subscribe to but that applies to all masc presenting people
 

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Slightly OT: I just came to ask “What’s wrong with studs being preggers by a man?” Bc to my understanding a stud can still be bi right???
 

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Slightly OT: I just came to ask “What’s wrong with studs being preggers by a man?” Bc to my understanding a stud can still be bi right???
Not all masculine women are lesbians however, stud is a term reserved for lesbians only. No stud would be interested in males beyond a platonic friendship and definitely not pregnant by one.
 

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Not all masculine women are lesbians however, stud is a term reserved for lesbians only. No stud would be interested in males beyond a platonic friendship and definitely not pregnant by one.

Hmmm I never knew it was reserved only for lesbians who are masculine presenting
 

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I'm a stud and I find this thread depressing af but not surprising.

And I won't lie: most of the masculine lesbians I've known were abusive and behaved like toxic males. Out of all of them, only maybe two weren't toxic (and they were black/studs).

I think a lot of masculine lesbians copy men to distance themselves from society's degrading idea of what a woman is (performing femininity) and they're "a mess" because sexism effects them/us in a different way than it would a feminine woman.

We come up in a world with zero guidance on how to be who we are, while also having femininity forced on us, and so we/they emulate the only other masculine people around: men.

I'm not toxic because I've always been self-aware and I've witnessed too many studs being toxic to want to ever be like them. And since I've also known some studs who were pretty cool, it's . . . .

I can't even begin to explain how fked it is to have yet another stereotype that I, a black woman, have to contend with, and from my own damn community. But again, studs kind of brought this on ourselves. It's not like most of us aren't toxic.

I hate the way women treat me like I'm a predator or I'm not going to respect them or whatever. Or always assuming that I'm into them when I'm nice because they can't separate me from men and the fact that men often do this (pretend to be nice) to sleep with women.

I'm not looking for a partner, so that's not the reason it bothers me. I just hate still having this stereotype forced on me, or having to listen to people constantly sht on studs. Like damn. We're people, too. Not all of us are bad.
 
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I don't even hear the slander anymore when it comes to masculine presenting women and LSA. You can't really find community here the LGBTQ section because the stud hate. It's wild.

I know a ton of successful black masculine women that aren't toxic or broke as LSA says. Even though they don't take into account the discrimination and homophobia that many masculine presenting woman face trying to find jobs and good employment.

It's funny because the tea thread is very visible studs and stuff and barely any fems unless she's dealing with some stud it seems like.
 

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Slightly OT: I just came to ask “What’s wrong with studs being preggers by a man?” Bc to my understanding a stud can still be bi right???

Studs can be bi, but most people assume we all do that. I’ve even seen some one on here say “everyone is bisexual, no one is strictly attracted to one gender”
 

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I'm a stud and I find this thread depressing af but not surprising.

And I won't lie: most of the masculine lesbians I've known were abusive and behaved like toxic males. Out of all of them, only maybe two weren't toxic (and they were black/studs).

I think a lot of masculine lesbians copy men to distance themselves from society's degrading idea of what a woman is (performing femininity) and they're "a mess" because sexism effects them/us in a different way than it would a feminine woman.

We come up in a world with zero guidance on how to be who we are, while also having femininity forced on us, and so we/they emulate the only other masculine people around: men.

I'm not toxic because I've always been self-aware and I've witnessed too many studs being toxic to want to ever be like them. And since I've also known some studs who were pretty cool, it's . . . .

I can't even begin to explain how fked it is to have yet another stereotype that I, a black woman, have to contend with, and from my own damn community. But again, studs kind of brought this on ourselves. It's not like most of us aren't toxic.

I hate the way women treat me like I'm a predator or I'm not going to respect them or whatever. Or always assuming that I'm into them when I'm nice because they can't separate me from men and the fact that men often do this (pretend to be nice) to sleep with women.

I'm not looking for a partner, so that's not the reason it bothers me. I just hate still having this stereotype forced on me, or having to listen to people constantly sht on studs. Like damn. We're people, too. Not all of us are bad.


Yeah I feel you, I’m married so I’m haven’t been in the dating scene for a while, but damn we don’t get any type of love on here. You’d think that since this is a “site for women” all women could be included and shown in a positive light but nah every thread about us is negative

I will start a stud appreciation thread soon
 

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I thought it was only me that had these experiences. I will be fair and say I only have been with one, but my god the toxic masculinity oozing from her was just too much. Plus, she pursued aggressively and like someone else said, was too "I love you" in the first month. Then became abusive, pushy and entitled... especially when it came to xes.

Like of all the male traits to exhibit, why pick the absolute worst, with none of the best???

I hate male energy so much. Ugh


Either way, I'd love to have more stud friends (non romantic) in my life. Would like to have community, and have some more great black gay people around in my life.
 

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I dont know if some straight love will help but I love studs!!! My cousin and her bff are both studs and they are the best people I know. They are polite, understanding, respectful and protective. They both are super snazy dressers and have very cute looks.... seriously if I just didnt just love d*** so much....but alas...
 

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I know a lot of people say they are abusive but I haven't met any that were abusive all have been kind, supportive, and great providers. Saying that, most of the Studs I know have been from Florida can yall tell me how the Studs from ATL and Texas are I'm thinking of moving to one of these states soon.
 

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I know a lot of people say they are abusive but I haven't met any that were abusive all have been kind, supportive, and great providers. Saying that, most of the Studs I know have been from Florida can yall tell me how the Studs from ATL and Texas are I'm thinking of moving to one of these states soon.

I lived in ATL the majority of my life, the older studs (30>) tend to be really cool
 

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Like damn. Literally over 90% of threads in this subforum about us are negative. Not all of us are out here getting pregnant by dudes, exhibiting toxic male behaviors, or broke. We get attacked more than trans :dazed

Have y’all met any good studs/masc lesbians?
People are just jealous man.

Studs get the hottest women and have the best lives and people are jealous.
We are like the anti incels
 

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Like damn. Literally over 90% of threads in this subforum about us are negative. Not all of us are out here getting pregnant by dudes, exhibiting toxic male behaviors, or broke. We get attacked more than trans :dazed

Have y’all met any good studs/masc lesbians?
No, the ones I have (tried to) date / met always end spouting some misogynistic / gender stereotype bs

However I'll admit that I'm a misandrist and have very low tolerance for masculine energy.
 

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Low income studs act like low income men. Avoid the security guards, warehouse workers, and car detailers and you’ll be just fine.
anyone having a shitload of tattoos / piercings, dreads and dressing like they are about to shoot a rap music video or LHH episode should be avoided
 

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