Extremely attracted to a married man to the point of anxiety

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I’m sure there’s plenty of handsome SINGLE men with a nice hairdo that you can get with outside the workplace. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Save yourself from a headache, heartbreak and from losing your job!
 
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A married man that’s not yours is only half a man to a single woman lmao. Think about the fact that half his assets and half his energy is occupied by some other woman, the attraction dies quickly. To me at least.
 
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What makes you think he knows?
I say his name unnecessarily (always "thank you, Josh" 100% of the time. instead of just "thanks"). Too much eye contact/gaze when we're speaking. If someone behaved the way I do to me I'd suspect they had a crush.

The good thing is, I'll be done training after next week and no longer helping him with his work. So that should put some distance between us.

All of the fonts are right about me being lonely and horny.
 
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You lost me at "hairstyles". How many he got?
It's usually just some variation of a slick back, like below. Not saying he resembles JG necessarily, but it's a similar "tall, dark-haired" aesthetic he's got going on.
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I started a new job, and the person I've been training with is my type in almost every way. Physically, personality, even the way he dresses and his hairstyles. I've even been reading articles on how to stop crushing on a married man. I can't sit here and say "oh I would never act on it" because I honestly don't know. I can say I wouldn't pursue him or flirt because I don't do that anyway, but if the opportunity ever presented itself, I probably wouldn't fight it. Anyway, I don't necessarily think he would go for me anyways so that's good. But when all that desire builds up and knowing nothing will come of it...is giving me anxiety. It's making me sick. How do I cleanse myself of this? He probably knows.
How about get off that married man's nutz. People will always be attractive and that's normal but you need to have boundaries.
 
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Think about how acting out on this could cost you your job and how the karma will leave you heartbroken. Like another font said girl he is paying his wife bills and sexing her. That alone should turn you off. Think about his wife showing up to curb stomp you in front of the other employees. Snap out of it. I'm not in the mood to post another story time but It is never worth it sis :no2
 
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I started a new job, and the person I've been training with is my type in almost every way. Physically, personality, even the way he dresses and his hairstyles. I've even been reading articles on how to stop crushing on a married man. I can't sit here and say "oh I would never act on it" because I honestly don't know. I can say I wouldn't pursue him or flirt because I don't do that anyway, but if the opportunity ever presented itself, I probably wouldn't fight it. Anyway, I don't necessarily think he would go for me anyways so that's good. But when all that desire builds up and knowing nothing will come of it...is giving me anxiety. It's making me sick. How do I cleanse myself of this? He probably knows.

Oh, he knows alright.

Just like the guy in the office that barely talks to you but you can tell he watches your every movement ... is a guy you can sense likes YOU.

And if this guy is obviously attractive,.. where you know most women around him must see this ... this kind of stuff happens to him every day. :/

I think we all recognize an attractive man when we see one - that's only being human... but the crushing on him and being preoccupied with him to the point of anxiety is something different. Adult women don't act like this. :/

And certainly, decent women with a strong sense of their own VALUE are not thinking that they don't honestly know what they would do if he made a pass at them. Duh! You know.. you would go for it. LOL!

If a married man thinks I'm attractive but does not come on to me etc. that would be normal because I see married men I think are attractive but I don't flirt etc with them either.

But if a married man made an outright move on me (and this has happened many times) I would take it as an insult because I know he just wants me for sex.

So all you would be is a 'piece' for him. Even if you DID get involved with him ... you would be dating a man that cheats on his wife. What kind of man is that?

I say - see a therapist to treat your anxiety from being around this man. It's not normal.
 
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Girl, get ahold of your hormones. Even your anxiety is trying to tell you that something is wrong. Stop saying his name. Stop admiring his hair and join a dating app or something. Let somebody single crush on you.

A married, Caucasian male, will hurt you.
 
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I started a new job, and the person I've been training with is my type in almost every way. Physically, personality, even the way he dresses and his hairstyles. I've even been reading articles on how to stop crushing on a married man. I can't sit here and say "oh I would never act on it" because I honestly don't know. I can say I wouldn't pursue him or flirt because I don't do that anyway, but if the opportunity ever presented itself, I probably wouldn't fight it. Anyway, I don't necessarily think he would go for me anyways so that's good. But when all that desire builds up and knowing nothing will come of it...is giving me anxiety. It's making me sick. How do I cleanse myself of this? He probably knows.
You need a COLD shower and a swift kick in the ass !!
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Oh, he knows alright.

Just like the guy in the office that barely talks to you but you can tell he watches your every movement ... is a guy you can sense likes YOU.

And if this guy is obviously attractive,.. where you know most women around him must see this ... this kind of stuff happens to him every day. :/

I think we all recognize an attractive man when we see one - that's only being human... but the crushing on him and being preoccupied with him to the point of anxiety is something different. Adult women don't act like this. :/

And certainly, decent women with a strong sense of their own VALUE are not thinking that they don't honestly know what they would do if he made a pass at them. Duh! You know.. you would go for it. LOL!

If a married man thinks I'm attractive but does not come on to me etc. that would be normal because I see married men I think are attractive but I don't flirt etc with them either.

But if a married man made an outright move on me (and this has happened many times) I would take it as an insult because I know he just wants me for sex.

So all you would be is a 'piece' for him. Even if you DID get involved with him ... you would be dating a man that cheats on his wife. What kind of man is that?

I say - see a therapist to treat your anxiety from being around this man. It's not normal.
OP is just hormonal and probably never had a work place crush before. But it's derogatory and silly for you to say grown women don't act like that and infer she has a mental problem cause she a little too hype??

Having anxiety over wanting to fuck a married man is wild but shows me a lack of life experience or much experience with men in general in this regard. I was in OP position once but my emotional ups and downs (that I kept under control) stemmed from many factors involving the dynamic of work place making it hard to have effective communication, seeing him regularly and among other things like higher & lower areas of the job that kept us separate minus our run ins.

But unlike OP I knew this man wasn't married. If I knew my crush was married I would never bother.

Sometimes people develop crushes at work cause its a stimulating yet safe diversion from real workplace insecurities and problems they don't want to face. Now if OP actually acted on it and knew herself well enough to known she is not that kind of person that can handle it and wants more than yeah - seek therapy.

But if she wants some quick work dick and can keep a clear mind then hey..it is what it is.

I always told the story around here about a guy bordering on harassing me at work cause of his big crush on me. But because we are young (20s) the older folks thought it was cute. I made the mistake of being friendly with him which everyone took me as enabling his behavior / liking him back. Never again I will make that mistake. Anyways I noticed nobody stopped him and told him not to shit where he eat.

I came from a job where people were dating everybody acting like its WWE and they won't see home for years to come everytime they come in for the day. It's wise and common sense not to date at work unless its a healthy workplace realtionship that mutually blooms into something (I had a lot of married and dating couples at my job) BUT people don't check men for the same impulses and fuck shit behavior at work.

And it's sad
 
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I got groaned for saying you're allowed to fantasize? :unsure: It's healthy human behavior. There is no reason to be so anxious you have to look for articles to "undo" what you're thinking. It's a different story if this was being acted out on, but I'm not seeing that's the case unless I'm missing something.
 
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It will pass. Trust me. I have been there. Get your mind occupies with other shit like making more money and getting a promotion

there is no glory in messing with a married man at work. Trust me.
 
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Norwegian pop artist Maria Mena just released an excellent 7-track project last fall titled "They Never Leave Their Wives" which you should totally listen to which describes her journey as the other woman. Ultimately, as she finds out in the projects closure:

"I guess you live and you learn
At that point it was my turn
But no man is worth losing yourself
Take it from me." - "You Live and Learn"




Lool @ the title are all the songs in English? I'm gonna give it the a listen
 
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I honestly have no idea how some of you women do it. When I find out a guy I have a crush on is married or in a relationship, my coochie just dries up fast and the crush dies. Its like my eyes become opened and I start to see the flaws that I didn't see before.

Leave that man alone OP.
 
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I started a new job, and the person I've been training with is my type in almost every way. Physically, personality, even the way he dresses and his hairstyles. I've even been reading articles on how to stop crushing on a married man. I can't sit here and say "oh I would never act on it" because I honestly don't know. I can say I wouldn't pursue him or flirt because I don't do that anyway, but if the opportunity ever presented itself, I probably wouldn't fight it. Anyway, I don't necessarily think he would go for me anyways so that's good. But when all that desire builds up and knowing nothing will come of it...is giving me anxiety. It's making me sick. How do I cleanse myself of this? He probably knows.
Put this same energy into your mental health
 
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I say his name unnecessarily (always "thank you, Josh" 100% of the time. instead of just "thanks"). Too much eye contact/gaze when we're speaking. If someone behaved the way I do to me I'd suspect they had a crush.

The good thing is, I'll be done training after next week and no longer helping him with his work. So that should put some distance between us.

All of the fonts are right about me being lonely and horny.
It'll be over, soon. :) Hopefully, you'll find someone else who's single... outside of work.
 

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