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It depends on the text, if its something that requires an immediate response then that would annoy me and I would say something. I would also stop dealing with those kind of ppl to an extent.

I had a classmate who had a friend like this, was slow to text. The classmate stopped texting the friend all together and just called on the phone every time something came up.

If its funny videos or memes, I don't care if they get back, its not urgent.
 

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I'm that friend. I've been accused of "not prioritizing my friends," but the truth is I am very absent-minded. I also feel that if someone needed something that required an instantaneous response they would call me. I put my phone down and forget about it for hours at a time, so it's not personal.
 

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I take even longer to text them back. I had a friend that used to take at least an hour to respond to me, but I saw her ass constantly sharing sh!t on her Facebook. She stayed doing that sh!t, but them would get mad when I didnt respond right away. "Bad texters" are very inconsiderate and rude.
 

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Sometimes I need time and space .

I have friends who text me even after i tell them this . When I get to you I get to you . If you’re defining our friendship by how quickly I text you back then you’re not the type of friend I need in my life
 

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Between work, their kids, family life....I know they can't always text back right away so I don't take offense.

Now if they don't text back at all, I side eye it a bit.
 

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Why are you taking it personal? We're all grown women. Idk about your particular group of friends but people have jobs, lives, kids, school, etc. I don't mean to sound harsh but I've been on the opposite end where friends would literally get mad at me for not texting them RIGHT back and it just comes off very self-entitled. As long as it's not an emergency I just feel like it's a silly thing to be offended about, especially after a certain age.
 
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Text is not real communication.

If you need real time communication you call.

I don’t answer text all the time and I laugh when people don’t just call.

I assume they didn’t really want anything.
 

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I don't understand why people take so long to text? It takes literally 30 seconds to text something back.

Because if you respond back it leads to a conversation. If I'm busy doing the dishes or something and I hear my text go off, I usually don't run to it.

Sometimes I see a text but I'm already getting ready to do something else so I won't respond.
 

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Kinda seems like a hint also...

Sometimes it’s tiring having friends text you a whole bunch of nothing. It’s one thing to hit up happy hour and Kiki for a few hours but if im sitting in my kitchen paying bills this isn’t the time to drop everything and Kiki about your coworkers.

Grown people got grown things to do.
 

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Because if you respond back it leads to a conversation. If I'm busy doing the dishes or something and I hear my text go off, I usually don't run to it.

Sometimes I see a text but I'm already getting ready to do something else so I won't respond.
Then use communication skills and say; "I don't feel like a conversation right now. I'm just responding to your question/text." I don't understand how we are literally communicating 24/7, peoples communication skills for problems go down the drain.
 

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If its important and needs an immediate response, call them.
Texts are like emails, imo, people aren't required to respond to them immediately.
 

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Ignore their text for like 2hrs when it eventually comes through :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:
 

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I recently had to ice out my best friend who was doing this to me. It annoyed me because he is the type to always be on his phone, so it’s not that he isn’t a texter.

Now when he texts I just blow him off because I’m not trying to have sh!t be one-sided. He just picks and chooses who’s ass he’s up under depending on how it benefits him. Like b!tch, I don’t have time for all that nonsense.
 

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This is me. Sometimes when I'm busy and trying to text back when I can, I reply every 10-20 mins. But if I take around 20 mins, I usually say "sorry about that" and I tell them why it took me a while to reply(shower, exercise, etc.). It's nothing personal. If it's extremely important, I'll stop what I'm doing to reply ASAP and I'll call the person. If you think your friends are purposely ignoring you, stop texting them and only reply if they text you first.
 

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How quickly a friend responds to my texts doesn't bother me. As long as we both put in the effort to have quality time together regularly then I'm cool
 

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That's me. Am I supposed to be quick-firing texts back and forth with all of my friends and acquaintances all day? When am I supposed to take a shower? Eventually, someone has to take a break. I try to respond within 6 hours if I actually have something to say back but some of my friends respond in like 30 seconds every time and I don't understand how I'm supposed to be having a constant non-stop back and forth with them AND maintain employment.

I do get mad when a man I'm with doesn't respond within at least a few hours though.
 

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Right, then you text them back 30 seconds later, then they text you back 30 seconds after that, then you text them back 30 seconds after that WHEN DOES IT END???
Did you not see my other response?

Then use communication skills and say; "I don't feel like a conversation right now. I'm just responding to your question/text." I don't understand how we are literally communicating 24/7, peoples communication skills for problems go down the drain.
 

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I promise you quite a lot of people would take umbrage with that response. Then the next complaint thread will be "my friend replies to my texts 'I don't feel like having a long conversation' every day around 8 pm e8"
It's better than just straight up ignoring someone. Or at least say something I'm busy!
 

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It's better than just straight up ignoring someone. Or at least say something I'm busy!
If people are taking a few hours between responses as a personal slight, I don't believe they would take "I'm busy" multiple times a day/week very well either in this day and age of rampant narcissism.
 

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If people are taking a few hours between responses as a personal slight, I don't believe they would take "I'm busy" multiple times a day/week very well either in this day and age of rampant narcissism.
That's different, I'm talking days apart. Or not saying anything at all.
 

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Why are you taking it personal? We're all grown women. Idk about your particular group of friends but people have jobs, lives, kids, school, etc. I don't mean to sound harsh but I've been on the opposite end where friends would literally get mad at me for not texting them RIGHT back and it just comes off very self-entitled. As long as it's not an emergency I just feel like it's a silly thing to be offended about, especially after a certain age.


This part. Like why are grown people worried about something this trivial?
 

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It depends on the text, if its something that requires an immediate response then that would annoy me and I would say something. I would also stop dealing with those kind of ppl to an extent.

I had a classmate who had a friend like this, was slow to text. The classmate stopped texting the friend all together and just called on the phone every time something came up.

If its funny videos or memes, I don't care if they get back, its not urgent.


Baby, your avi tho. :sob:
 

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I'm guilty of taking long to respond to text unfortunately and I never offer up excuses.

If my phone is in my hand and I see your text, I either don't care to speak with you atm, I'm busy on twitter, IG or something important where I plan to respond; get caught up and remember an hour or so later.

But mostly it's because I need time to myself and I'm not in the mental space to be engaging..
 

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I can sometimes take a long time to text so I get it. Sometimes you forget, life can be very busy so a text is normally not going to be on the top of our priority lists

But what irritates me is when they don't respond at all or leave me on read. I may take a while but I'll always respond back (unless it's not something I need to respond to). I think it's rude to leave people hanging when it's important or they're asking you a question
 

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i Have friends who never text back or check in. I give them sh!t about it. But ultimately I use that energy to find people who are better about communicating. They’re out there
 

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I just figure they're busy, bad at communicating or are depressed, so I give them space. I've been that friend before and sometimes I've felt guilty but being on the receiving end of it made me more understanding. Also, the older I get, the more I prioritize face time over social media or texts (unless that friend lives far away & digital communication is our only way).
 

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If you're the type of person who gets offended by friends taking "too long" to text you back, we're not compatible. LOL You're too damn needy.
 

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