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There was a plan tbh, I was meant to finish uni this year and mo but things between us started to crumble.Do not ever entertain a long distance relationship ever again until/unless you or the other party agree to move within 6-12 months with a solid plan in place to physically be together . Otherwise IMO it’s an insane amount of time, emotions, and resources wasted that ultimately lead to nothing but hurt feelings and deception.
You’ll get over this much sooner than you think and good luck with your exams.
Too familiar, sis. It was exactly like you said but even worse is the fact that most times I genuinely tried to talk to him about things I wasnt fine w, he would tell me I'm on some bs or what i say it's bs. Which I find so infuriating. When I realised that anything would be dismissed as unimportant, bs or a lie, I knew we would not go far. Like on his part there wasn't even the acknowledgement that he should listen because what he does affects me. He's done a lot for me and patiently waited for me to be done w my studies etc so that we could move in together etc etc but this plus many other problems including crippling trust issues on his part (funny right) have absolutely turned me off. I dont think he was blindsided because he told me many times he thinks I'm definitely involved w other men etc which is a lie and he says that because I have little time because I'm studying non stop and want to graduate and where I live things have only started to open now so I wonder how he thinks I'm cheating. Like even before covid I didn't have a social life and my IG is dead, I have literally 4 old pics but he claims I don't post him because I'm hiding him..? Sorry this is so confusing but it's just to give you a little glimpse into the chaos this was for me.I told myself over and over that I blindsided my ex by breaking up with him, and I felt so guilty about it. t But did I really blindside him? Hadn't I asked him to stop doing X behavior because it upset me? Didn't I allow him to continue disrespecting me and dished out weak consequences when he did so? Does this sound familiar OP?
I'm relieved I've not been the only going through this and I'm not crazy for feeling this way.
Your message and also the messages from the other fonts were so helpful so thank you for your time