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I have been friends with this man for two years prior to use starting a romantic relationship. In love with each other and everything. This man is almost 46 and his baby mother is 50. They have a kid who is 23
Him and I have been together romantically for the last 2.5 years. I love him so much that I’m heartbroken. He actually came to me and told me that he had slept with her and all this bµllsh!t. Blaming her and all of this nonsense.
He was NOT (trigger warning) xesually assaulted by her. He did this willingly and says he fell into it. I reacted calmly. Yes, I was heartbroken but I also appreciated him telling me so we can move on separately and go my separate way as he goes his separate way.
She has never been anything but nice to me and loving but clearly this wasn’t an act of kindness.
It’s an L for me. Now, he will not leave me alone. I have told him that I’m trying to find peace in it because for me it was betrayal. I am not holding it against him because I’m bitter, it’s because I genuinely loved him. He has spoken to me about marriage, but I speaking about those things don’t always mean much.
He cried and apologized for an hour, telling me he is sorry and he still wants to be friends in the future if I can find forgiveness for him. I am only upset because he and her have had a thing for years. Even though she has been with multiple men since him when they were young, she loves him. I’m a younger woman but I know this. She may claim that it has been over and he’s like a brother, at times, but she has been in love with him since they dated in the 90s.
I am a bit younger than him, by 15 years. To some that’s an L in itself. Basically, I love him but I’m even more hurt the woman he slept with is his baby mother of 23 years. That stings for multiple reasons.
Now, he’s sending me, “I want you to know that in my heart and beyond this is one of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made.” Slam poetry song styled texts, so I told him to go fµck himself, or better, her. And told him record it next time because I’m sure multiple people would love to see it.
I know I’m not being harsh because I respect this man a lot, but this really hurt, especially because he slept with her when he was visiting near where she lives. I told a friend, she claims I don’t have grounds to get upset because that’s his ex and they have a history because of their son. In no way did that make sense to me? I respected her. I think she’s a great woman, and still do, but as a woman who preaches all this sisterhood and bs.. I am shocked she could do that to me. And worse, him. I contemplated hurting myself when I was by myself the night he told me.
Please let me know if I am going crazy? I am surely not missing something here.
I am stuck on the fact my friend said they have history. I know that, everyone does. Everyone with a coparent situation knows that but is this normal? It can’t be. .
Him and I have been together romantically for the last 2.5 years. I love him so much that I’m heartbroken. He actually came to me and told me that he had slept with her and all this bµllsh!t. Blaming her and all of this nonsense.
He was NOT (trigger warning) xesually assaulted by her. He did this willingly and says he fell into it. I reacted calmly. Yes, I was heartbroken but I also appreciated him telling me so we can move on separately and go my separate way as he goes his separate way.
She has never been anything but nice to me and loving but clearly this wasn’t an act of kindness.
It’s an L for me. Now, he will not leave me alone. I have told him that I’m trying to find peace in it because for me it was betrayal. I am not holding it against him because I’m bitter, it’s because I genuinely loved him. He has spoken to me about marriage, but I speaking about those things don’t always mean much.
He cried and apologized for an hour, telling me he is sorry and he still wants to be friends in the future if I can find forgiveness for him. I am only upset because he and her have had a thing for years. Even though she has been with multiple men since him when they were young, she loves him. I’m a younger woman but I know this. She may claim that it has been over and he’s like a brother, at times, but she has been in love with him since they dated in the 90s.
I am a bit younger than him, by 15 years. To some that’s an L in itself. Basically, I love him but I’m even more hurt the woman he slept with is his baby mother of 23 years. That stings for multiple reasons.
Now, he’s sending me, “I want you to know that in my heart and beyond this is one of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made.” Slam poetry song styled texts, so I told him to go fµck himself, or better, her. And told him record it next time because I’m sure multiple people would love to see it.
I know I’m not being harsh because I respect this man a lot, but this really hurt, especially because he slept with her when he was visiting near where she lives. I told a friend, she claims I don’t have grounds to get upset because that’s his ex and they have a history because of their son. In no way did that make sense to me? I respected her. I think she’s a great woman, and still do, but as a woman who preaches all this sisterhood and bs.. I am shocked she could do that to me. And worse, him. I contemplated hurting myself when I was by myself the night he told me.
Please let me know if I am going crazy? I am surely not missing something here.
I am stuck on the fact my friend said they have history. I know that, everyone does. Everyone with a coparent situation knows that but is this normal? It can’t be. .