inasundress
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This post is ONLY for those who can relate to and feel similar to the journey I took with my FAILED natural hair journey that took over ten years. This thread is not for people to encourage sticking it out or extolling the virtues of natural hair. This thread is not for those who found a way to manage their natural hair. This thread is only for those who are struggling, and have continued to struggle for a number of years with their natural hair and things just don't seem to be getting better. So only respond if you can relate to my story of how, over 5 to 10 years:
I never figured out how to do natural hairstyles. I never was able to do twistouts and bantu knots and TWAs and fros and the most I was able to do was twists with extensions or mostly just pulled my hair back into a ponytail.
I was NEVER able to find products that I felt like worked for my hair and spent hundreds and thousands of dollars fruitlessly trying.
I was NEVER able to find a natural hairstyle with no or minimal effort that worked for me or made me feel cute or feminine or womanly (without extensions).
I was NEVER happy or comfortable or actually no depressed about how hard it was to deal with washday, all the constant breakage and hair loss, the golf ball sized balls of shed hair any time I had to cleanse and restyle my hair.
My hair NEVER magically grew out longer than, where it as at present just barely BSL, despite the fact that I spent 10 years using almost no heat and trying to protective style to the best of my ability.
I gave it a long sincere try in the interests of genuinely loving my hair and its natural state, but I simply was never able to manage it. You can search my name and find other threads I've made in this forum talking about it. I wanted dearly to somehow find a way to manage my hair in a way that worked with my lifestyle and also gave me the freedom to pursue my fitness and socializing needs in a way that I felt comfortable and I was never able to manage it in 10 whole years... and didn't even have much extra length to show for it.
If you feel like me, if you are constantly struggling uphill trying to find a way, where you want to love and keep your natural hair the way god made you but the interference in your life is just too great and seemingly unsolvable.
Let it go.
Relax your hair.
It's just fµck!ng hair.
And if straightened hair makes it easier for you to be healthy, to socialize with others, to have better hygiene and more easily style your hair in a way that makes you look good...
fµck what anybody else thinks.
Go and get a fµck!ng relaxer.
This post is not for everyone so please don't waste your time being an asshole and bothering to respond if this post is not for you.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
I never figured out how to do natural hairstyles. I never was able to do twistouts and bantu knots and TWAs and fros and the most I was able to do was twists with extensions or mostly just pulled my hair back into a ponytail.
I was NEVER able to find products that I felt like worked for my hair and spent hundreds and thousands of dollars fruitlessly trying.
I was NEVER able to find a natural hairstyle with no or minimal effort that worked for me or made me feel cute or feminine or womanly (without extensions).
I was NEVER happy or comfortable or actually no depressed about how hard it was to deal with washday, all the constant breakage and hair loss, the golf ball sized balls of shed hair any time I had to cleanse and restyle my hair.
My hair NEVER magically grew out longer than, where it as at present just barely BSL, despite the fact that I spent 10 years using almost no heat and trying to protective style to the best of my ability.
I gave it a long sincere try in the interests of genuinely loving my hair and its natural state, but I simply was never able to manage it. You can search my name and find other threads I've made in this forum talking about it. I wanted dearly to somehow find a way to manage my hair in a way that worked with my lifestyle and also gave me the freedom to pursue my fitness and socializing needs in a way that I felt comfortable and I was never able to manage it in 10 whole years... and didn't even have much extra length to show for it.
If you feel like me, if you are constantly struggling uphill trying to find a way, where you want to love and keep your natural hair the way god made you but the interference in your life is just too great and seemingly unsolvable.
Let it go.
Relax your hair.
It's just fµck!ng hair.
And if straightened hair makes it easier for you to be healthy, to socialize with others, to have better hygiene and more easily style your hair in a way that makes you look good...
fµck what anybody else thinks.
Go and get a fµck!ng relaxer.
This post is not for everyone so please don't waste your time being an asshole and bothering to respond if this post is not for you.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
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