Help LSA. How do I tell my Husband I was born a man?

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The delay in his reaction :dead: :dead: :dead: :dead:

I been trying to get pregnant for years now. Nothing is working. What is wrong with me?

Heffa you aint got no gat damn eggs or fallopian tubes...the hell do you means whats wrong with you

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Should I just tell him I had my ovaries removed?

Here it is: You could do that, but that won't make the problem go away. This is going to come out one day, regardless of what u do. If you really love this man stop thinking about yourself and put him first. He has treated you well and loved you. In return you have deceived him and stolen a choice for him that he had the right to make. There is more at stake than just your happiness. There is his pride, respect, happiness, and his hopes for a family of his own.

I am not going to lie. The fallout is going to be ugly, but you don’t know how it might work itself out. He might decide that after 10 years he doesn’t care and he loves YOU. It is also possible that he might leave you. You will have to accept that as his right, because you made a commitment to him under false pretenses. As of right now, your union is a lie. It doesn’t matter how you really love him.

If for no other reason tell him the truth so you can have a true union with someone who knows ALL of YOU and chooses to love and be committed to the real YOU. I hope it all works out for you. I really do.

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This is the second time tonight I have given this advice, but it applies here too. Tell him from far, far, away. I am not even joking about this……not even a little.
 
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I'm so tired of this misleading bullshit and blatant abuse of incog. I vote for a damn reveal. If this story had any validity to it, then he would know something was up when you two had sex. Unless he's seriously blind, then he should be able to discern a vagina made from the skin of a damn penis compared to a real one.

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Here it is: You could do that, but that won't make the problem go away. This is going to come out one day, regardless of what u do. If you really love this man stop thinking about yourself and put him first. He has treated you well and loved you. In return you have deceived him and stolen a choice for him that he had the right to make. There is more at stake than just your happiness. There is his pride, respect, happiness, and his hopes for a family of his own.

I am not going to lie. The fallout is going to be ugly, but you don’t know how it might work itself out. He might decide that after 10 years he doesn’t care and he loves YOU. It is also possible that he might leave you. You will have to accept that as his right, because you made a commitment to him under false pretenses. As of right now, your union is a lie. It doesn’t matter how you really love him.

If for no other reason tell him the truth so you can have a true union with someone who knows ALL of YOU and chooses to love and be committed to the real YOU. I hope it all works out for you. I really do.

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This is the second time tonight I have given this advice, but it applies here too. Tell him from far, far, away. I am not even joking about this……not even a little.

She says she was born a man. She wouldn't have ovaries. :laugh:
 
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If this story is real, when he Ike turner/"You told Harpo to beat me" your ass, I would only feel a small ounce of sympathy for you. Some of you broads play too damn much, and then you wonder why knee grows as well as "others" go postal on gays/bisexuals/trans-gendered people. I'm going to bed, and if this is fake, I hope all of your hair falls out, and Beyonce and all her friends buy up all the wigs and lacefronts in the WORLD. *toodles* :)
 
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This has been eating me up inside. I've been in a relationship with my husband since 2000 and we've been married since '05'. I'm beating myself up because I feel like I should've told him from the day 1. He deserves to know, but then again I deserve to be loved and no other man has treated me the way he does. This was a secret I was gonna take to my grave. I had my Sex Reassignment Surgery years ago, my Driver's license says "F" and I got my birth certificate & social security card changed over as well. There's no way he can found out about me unless I tell him which I don't really wanna do. Lately, he's been bringing up the topic about starting a family and it's hard making up lies after lies. He's been asking about my family history as well. I haven't seen none of my family since like 1990. What should I do?

Should I just divorce him and move far away? or Tell him upfront.


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I'm so tired of this misleading bullshit and blatant abuse of incog. I vote for a damn reveal. If this story had any validity to it, then he would know something was up when you two had sex. Unless he's seriously blind, then he should be able to discern a vagina made from the skin of a damn penis compared to a real one.

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Have you experienced this?
 
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Sigh...........well purplerunner is making me laugh too much lol. I'm gonna log off for awhile. I'll see you all next year........maybe
 
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mmmmm...that's fucked up...
if you're serious, though, he can only react two ways...

1. U tell him and he still loves and accepts u as you are...
2. he gets angry,goes psycho, and tries to kill you...

just sayin...
 
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how does a man have sex with a "woman"and not know she/it was a man? op lying no you cant make me believe that. i dont care how many surgeries youve had he should know something once the panties come tumbling down.
 
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This has been eating me up inside. I've been in a relationship with my husband since 2000 and we've been married since '05'. I'm beating myself up because I feel like I should've told him from the day 1. He deserves to know, but then again I deserve to be loved and no other man has treated me the way he does. This was a secret I was gonna take to my grave. I had my Sex Reassignment Surgery years ago, my Driver's license says "F" and I got my birth certificate & social security card changed over as well. There's no way he can found out about me unless I tell him which I don't really wanna do. Lately, he's been bringing up the topic about starting a family and it's hard making up lies after lies. He's been asking about my family history as well. I haven't seen none of my family since like 1990. What should I do?

Should I just divorce him and move far away? or Tell him upfront.

I'm sorry that you're going through something like this but the bolded statement is really selfish. He DESERVES better. You fronted and lied to him about your anatomy, sexuality and the gender you were born in, what did you expect? As time went on, how were you not going to eventually cross hairs on certain topics?
 

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