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Me and my sister got into an argument yesterday and I said something about her not having her dad in my life because she said my dad was my openly friend and said that I didn’t have any friends ( she knows that’s a soft spot for me )


How low do you think is too low in an argument?
 

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Bringing up dead relatives, kids, things they confided in privacy to you. I know a lot of times we say things we don't mean but I try to keep in mind that words do in fact hurt coming from the mouth of someone you're connected to in a romantic, platonic or family bonded relationship.
 

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When the words you speak are malicious and meant to really hurt someone is too far. Don’t be ugly.
 

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I don't understand the concept of "too low." When you're trying to drag someone you hate, the whole point is to hurt their feelings. It's like saying, "You can hurt their feelings, but don't really hurt their feelings." Huh? But the whole point IS to make 'em hurt!

So if a wheelchair person comes for me and says I have a bony ass and I look like a crusty skeleton from The Nightmare Before Christmas," I can't say something 'bout how they have to roll around everywhere 'cause it's "hitting below the belt"?! Nah I'mma say something.
 

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I'm sorry but if you were to bring up my absent father in an argument, we're going to fight. My sister had a friend who would bring up that at least her mother kept her and that she's glad she isn't adopted in arguments. Now they are no longer friends.

Sensitive topics should never be brought up in arguments.
 

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Me and my sister got into an argument yesterday and I said something about her not having her dad in my life because she said my dad was my openly friend and said that I didn’t have any friends ( she knows that’s a soft spot for me )


How low do you think is too low in an argument?

What was the argument about?

Y’all were both wrong.
 

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I'm sorry but if you were to bring up my absent father in an argument, we're going to fight. My sister had a friend who would bring up that at least her mother kept her and that she's glad she isn't adopted in arguments. Now they are no longer friends.

Sensitive topics should never be brought up in arguments.
She brought up a sensitive topic of mine too which is why I brought up hers and it’s about time since she always brings up the fact that I barely have friends in arguments that we have and I usually just take it and don’t say anything
 

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You know when it's too far when you're throwing out jabs about their "soft spots"

Remember that someone always remember how you made them feel. If they know that your immediate response to an argument with them is to use information that they trusted you with, forget about them ever fully having good feelings about you again
 

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What was the argument about?

Y’all were both wrong.
A damn hairstyle. I asked her and my mom’s opinion on it and she got mad at me after I said I was getting the hairstyle after both her and my mom said I shouldn’t get it . I get really bad anxiety when I’m driving to unknown places do my dad will drive me there until I feel comfortable and she said that I should learn to drive by myself and pay for my own stuff ( my dad hasn’t paid for any of my hairstyles since I graduated high school. I’m now in college ) and I said that I pay for everything now and she said you still don’t drive and said that I needed to grow up and learn to do things on my own ( I’m only 19 so I’m still learning )
 

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i don't agree that nothing is too low. you can't rebound from some things. in this case though, it seems y'all both brought up sensitive issues.
 

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It depends on who I’m arguing with and how badly I want to hurt them. It can go from me walking away to me talking about their cockeyed and crippled dead grandma or their mentally challenged child. As I’ve gotten older, I try not to go as low as I used to, but sometimes you gotta really read a b!tch
 

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My tongue is so lethal that I've just learned to deescalate any argument before it gets too far. I have no boundaries once I'm mad, and once it comes out of your mouth, ain't no taking it back.
 

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If you wanna be petty and malicious nothing at all is too low, but that doesn't mean you have to be that way, I think you both need to admit to one another that ya'll were being hurtful and petty. I usually feel a great sense of self-shame after I said something ruthless, I can't take it back, but I can make better of the relationship. If you're willing. Besides she's your sister. Try to make that bond stronger, there's nothing more solid than a loving relationship between siblings.
 

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Low enough to get your point across and shut them up. People like to play with other adults for entertainment. I am not for play play.
 

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But you don’t have any friends apparently so how is that a low blow when it’s true? because it hurt your feelings? Bringing up her absent father was a low blow. She has no control over that
 

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depends how far the person pushed you. there were times when i let insults slide and the other person kept saying them so at that point it was no holds barred.
 

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I'm sorry but if you were to bring up my absent father in an argument, we're going to fight. My sister had a friend who would bring up that at least her mother kept her and that she's glad she isn't adopted in arguments. Now they are no longer friends.

Sensitive topics should never be brought up in arguments.
That wasn't her friend. And sometimes folks are trying to get you mad enough to fight.
 

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She brought up a sensitive topic of mine too which is why I brought up hers and it’s about time since she always brings up the fact that I barely have friends in arguments that we have and I usually just take it and don’t say anything
Do you realize those are two completely different things? You can go out and make friends (with a tolerable personality) she can’t make her dad love her. That was low especially considering you have a dad that loves you that probably makes her feel some type of way
 

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But you don’t have any friends apparently so how is that a low blow when it’s true? because it hurt your feelings? Bringing up her absent father was a low blow. She has no control over that
A low blow is a soft spot for a person so me barely having friends is a soft spot for me. How would you feel if someone always brought up the fact that you don’t have a man in an argument if it was a soft spot for you

If she didn’t want me bringing up her dad she shouldn’t have said anything low to me

She always says is it in arguments and I usually let it slide but yesterday I had enough and went to her level
 

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A low blow is a soft spot for a person so me barely having friends is a soft spot for me. How would you feel if someone always brought up the fact that you don’t have a man in an argument if it was a soft spot for you

If she didn’t want me bringing up her dad she shouldn’t have said anything low to me
Ok it’s obvious you don’t give a fµck about your sister. You have no friends and soon won’t even be able to call your sister a friend.
 

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Ok it’s obvious you don’t give a fµck about your sister. You have no friends and soon won’t even be able to call your sister a friend.
And she doesn’t care about me either if that’s the case. You don’t know the relationship between us to even say that but have a blessed day

And do you have friends? Let me put you on ignore since I see you’re a 2020 font
 

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And she doesn’t care about me either if that’s the case. You don’t know the relationship between us to even say that but have a blessed day

And do you have friends? Let me put you on ignore since I see you’re a 2020 font
You are immature. Everyone has to deal with the fact they’re wrong at times you seem to be struggling with that. I’m off this thread.
 

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Since she brought your dad into it, I don't think it was too ow to bring hers into it. If she can dish it, she should be able to take it.

In general though, I don't think it's appropriate to low blow someone with some sh!t that you know will hurt them. If I have an issue with someone, I focus on the issue. No need to say hurtful things just cuz. I won't hold back if they want to take it there though.
 

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Don't start no shyt won't be no shyt.

I don't know how to not go low. That's why I don't bother people.

Come sideways at me and all bets are off. People better be careful who they play with!
 

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Do you realize those are two completely different things? You can go out and make friends (with a tolerable personality) she can’t make her dad love her. That was low especially considering you have a dad that loves you that probably makes her feel some type of way

Yes!! That was a low blow. It’s shade to the deadbeat in question and the woman who laid down and had a baby by him but it’s hurtful to the sister because we all know how an absentee parents hurts the child and their view of relationships. Judging by Op’s roommate saga, there is definitely some room for maturity but she’s still a kid.
 

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You are immature. Everyone has to deal with the fact they’re wrong at times you seem to be struggling with that. I’m off this thread.
I have acknowledged that I’m wrong but I’m not going to act like she wasn’t wrong as well

We were both wrong but okay..
 

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My siblings and I don’t argue like y’all. It’s more like funny or embarrassing stuff never deep stuff. I think not having friends vs. not having a dad are two different levels of low. I would never say the no dad comment to someone I actually care about. Y’all must be very young.
Me and my sister got into an argument yesterday and I said something about her not having her dad in my life because she said my dad was my openly friend and said that I didn’t have any friends ( she knows that’s a soft spot for me )


How low do you think is too low in an argument?
 

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Literally had the same fight with my brother. He likes to mention my mother, thanks to our sorry azz father. And I through in his face that his mother has NEVER been in his life. She pushed him out and handed him to my dad. Never looked back.
 

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Yes!! That was a low blow. It’s shade to the deadbeat in question and the woman who laid down and had a baby by him but it’s hurtful to the sister because we all know how an absentee parents hurts the child and their view of relationships. Judging by Op’s roommate saga, there is definitely some room for maturity but she’s still a kid.
Her dad and my mom were married and they divorced and then he basically disappeared on my older brother and sister

And I agree I am still trying to mature which is why I recently got a job to get sims type of responsibility before I go back to school in the fall
 

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My siblings and I don’t argue like y’all. It’s more like funny or embarrassing stuff never deep stuff. I think not having friends vs. not having a dad are two different levels of low. I would never say the no dad comment to someone I actually care about. Y’all must be very young.
I’m 19 and she’s 30
 

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Anything that someone can’t change and have no say about.
 

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It’s always best to know where you stand with people.
Would you rather be insulted or physically attacked?
 

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