BrownSugarNY
General Manager
I was exactly where you are now a over a year ago. I am sorry for the break up but it will get better.
Here is what I learned so I hope this advice will help you to save time and heartache.
Before going out there I really suggest you take an inventory of your life and be F U C K I N G honest. Don't listen to your friends who say "there is nothing wrong with you!" my girlfriends told me that because I am a good person and they love me but they didn't tell me I could change my hair and style and get men.
Take a look what how you dress where you go and what you do. If you and your ex are in the same circles try new circles for a while. Change your hair. Change your style of dress. Get your mind right. The mental part is key. You have to be confident and truly love yourself. This part is the hardest but the most important. Work on these things BEFORE going out and trying to meet new people. Use affirmations and manifesting. There are tons of youtube vids on this.
Get in the marriage and accountability thread.
Go to the following places alone looking GOOD I have done this and to my shock I always get approached and have a great time.
Hotel bars- upscale.
Upscale parts of town. The more 30+ White people are there the better- I hate to say it but it's true. Nice restaurants look on yelp and look for places with more than two $
Steakhouse bars- Capital Grill and Ruth Chris have a n awesome happy hour.
upscale- upscale - upscale.
When at the airport always have a drink at one of the nicest places in your terminal.
On weekends just to have fun shopping in the best parts of town and treat yourself to lunch. You will meet people.
Sometimes museums, but fun things like cooking classes, wine tastings, comedy shows.
Good luck OP take it from me- all is NOT lost.
Girl yes! Co-sign everything stated your officially the friend in my head lol
For happy hours try and make a routine. Like every Thursday stop by. The bartenders begin to know you and if someone’s interested they will tell them when to catch you. Good luck!