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No face, no case.
My husband has no resilience at all. At first I thought he'd grow out of it or if his circumstances changed, or if he got more life experience he'd get a bit of perspective but he's still completely lacking in resilience.
He's got a new job and every time something small happens he panics, he's just had an argument with his parents which is now resolved and he told me his boss is looking into letting him take a couple of days for 'mental health'. He's not permanent yet and I'm worried they're not going to make him permanent because of the liability.
I've tried a couple of times to tell him to work on his coping skills but I don't want to come across like one of those "mental health doesn't exist, buck up and put up" type people but at the same time I do wish he'd just learn to cope better because it's driving me up the wall. I've got a really hard job where if I fµck up people could die, so it's really difficult to spend all of my emotional energy working my job then at the end of it reassuring him when I'm secretly thinking that he needs to figure out how to manage his anxieties better. I just want to tell him not to take those 'mental health' days because he's going to end up running away and taking a break whenever he comes across hardship but every way I think about it in my head it comes across like i'm a big b!tch. Idk
He's got a new job and every time something small happens he panics, he's just had an argument with his parents which is now resolved and he told me his boss is looking into letting him take a couple of days for 'mental health'. He's not permanent yet and I'm worried they're not going to make him permanent because of the liability.
I've tried a couple of times to tell him to work on his coping skills but I don't want to come across like one of those "mental health doesn't exist, buck up and put up" type people but at the same time I do wish he'd just learn to cope better because it's driving me up the wall. I've got a really hard job where if I fµck up people could die, so it's really difficult to spend all of my emotional energy working my job then at the end of it reassuring him when I'm secretly thinking that he needs to figure out how to manage his anxieties better. I just want to tell him not to take those 'mental health' days because he's going to end up running away and taking a break whenever he comes across hardship but every way I think about it in my head it comes across like i'm a big b!tch. Idk