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I pray and pray every single night for god to guide me towards a man and nothing is working, can I have some advice?
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Have you worked on yourself outside of praying for love?
You should work on yourself while praying because how can God bring in love if you obviously aren't ready for it.im trying
I pray and pray every single night for god to guide me towards a man and nothing is working, can I have some advice?
stop praying and turn inwards. Are there unhealed parts of you?? Are u attracting bad men? are u lowering your standards? Ask yourself these questions and you'll find the answers.I pray and pray every single night for god to guide me towards a man and nothing is working, can I have some advice?
You should work on yourself while praying because how can God bring in love if you obviously aren't ready for it.
it did work. He said, "no".I pray and pray every single night for god to guide me towards a man and nothing is working, can I have some advice?
Why are you telling her this in the prayer and bible study forum? The forum should tell you what she believes. No one cares if you disagree. Isn’t there an atheist forum for that? But if I go in the athiest forum and say something like heaven won’t be crowded, I get banned. Go figure. No need to reply because I won’t read your post let alone respond to you.That’s because religion isn’t real. You have to do the work yourself.
Hence, why the divorce rate is so high.There are plenty of people who haven't done any work on themselves who have still found love and companionship. While everyone should strive to be the best version of themselves, they should do it because they genuinely want to grow as a person. But doing so does not guarantee or entitle anyone to love. Besides that, no one tells men they have to work on themselves to find a woman; but women constantly spout that BS to other women when there's plenty of evidence to the contrary that being "ready" isn't a requirement for love or relationships. We see that all the time for men and women.
I believe you are praying in the wrong manner. If you want to be married, you should ask God to prepare you for marriage. And to also prepare your spouse for you. You have to ask for the right things in a way that he can respond to whatever it is you desire. Also, many things that the others posted are true. During this time, seek His face. Let Him love you and show you how to love. Love on those around you. After all, the Bible says that we reap what we sow. So if you are sowing love, you will be sure to get it back. You also have to be patient. If you are not patient, you can easily fall into traps that you are not prepared for. Hope this helps.I pray and pray every single night for god to guide me towards a man and nothing is working, can I have some advice?
Why are you telling her this in the prayer and bible study forum? The forum should tell you what she believes. No one cares if you disagree. Isn’t there an atheist forum for that? But if I go in the athiest forum and say something like heaven won’t be crowded, I get banned. Go figure. No need to reply because I won’t read your post let alone respond to you.
Now, to the OP’s question. OP, you can start by putting some respect on God’s name and beginning it with a capital G. Other than that, trust in God’s timing and trust in God’s will. Get out to the extent that you can with this pandemic going on and try to meet people. Don’t focus solely on meeting men because you can meet men through their sisters, aunts, mom, etc. So go find some women to hang out with. Also, find something that you can be passionate about that doesn’t involve men and stay busy doing that. Learn how to play chess. Learn how to animate. Learn how to paint. I mean, that might sound corny. But many people get fulfilled by starting new hobbies.
All in all, what I’m trying to say is try not to focus so much on “the man” that you don’t have and find other things that can make life enjoyable. It’ll make the time go by much faster while you’re waiting for that man to come along. Besides, you don’t want to put all your hope in a man because even if you get one, that’s not to say your relationship will last forever. I’m not saying this to be a Debbie Downer, but some women have lost their husbands within months of marriage due to sudden death or infidelity. So you have to find a way to enjoy life even when you don’t have a man and you really want one. It’s just one of those things that you have to learn to do. So, you know, go get busy, and enjoy life. Keep your head up and know that your value doesn’t come from your relationship status. And have faith that in due time, God will answer your prayers.
Perhaps instead, ask God to prepare you for your future mate. Use the waiting time to continue building yourself, it will happen in His time, according to His will.I pray and pray every single night for god to guide me towards a man and nothing is working, can I have some advice?
There are plenty of people who haven't done any work on themselves who have still found love and companionship. While everyone should strive to be the best version of themselves, they should do it because they genuinely want to grow as a person. But doing so does not guarantee or entitle anyone to love. Besides that, no one tells men they have to work on themselves to find a woman; but women constantly spout that BS to other women when there's plenty of evidence to the contrary that being "ready" isn't a requirement for love or relationships. We see that all the time for men and women.
I tell my male friends to work on themselves cos nobody wants that bµllsh!t they giving long term. Working on yourself is essential because what you want is not necessarily what you need or want. When I worked thru my issues I realized that I didn't necessarily want _______, _______, _____ but it did make me feel secure.
OR maybe God has something He needs her to do before marriage. Right now He has her heart. And maybe there is some work He needs her to do before she gives her heart to someone else. But trust, the Lord has someone for her that will exceed her expectations. Her patience is not in vain. The devil loves to send his lil minions to discourage, but that is what he is supposed to do. Just encourage her to stay strong, and keep the faith. God always shows up when we least expect it.I agree with everything you've said. I was speaking more about how when people say that it almost comes off condescending. A friend of mine actively goes to therapy, has a great career and flourishing side business, and is a fun and caring person. A guy would really be lucky to have her because she's one of the kindest and most forgiving people I've met. She was complaining about not finding a husband yet and a married friend told her that its because she isn't ready and God will send her someone when she is. But if you knew the shambles this woman's marriage was in! Whew! Of all people to tell someone that, she's the last one who should be saying it. It came off as a way to make herself seem like she has it together and is a better woman and that's why she has a husband and my friend doesn't. My friend was also really discouraged after that because she's like what the hell else do I need to do.
But I also think it can set women up for disappointment, because you can do all the work and still not find anyone and it can make women feel like they haven't done enough or that they need to be damn near perfect to get a guy. That's just not true. I really think relationships and love is just the luck of the draw. Some people are luckier than others.