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I'm single and have been practicing self love ever since I ended something with a 31 year old man. I have been working hard not manifesting new love anytime soon. I haven't got on any dating apps just spending time with myself. However, I feel that I'll have a hard time getting back out there. I'm doing the work so that I willl attract a good man.
 

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Don’t. Take a break. Learn to be content with your own company. A relationship is an extra, not who you are.
And stop posting. It’s makes you think about it and worry, spinning in a circle.
 

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Go ahead sis, you pretty. :blush:
 

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Don’t. Take a break. Learn to be content with your own company. A relationship is an extra, not who you are.
And stop posting. It’s makes you think about it and worry, spinning in a circle.
Thank you! She needs to take a break. Everything is about dating/relationships with her. Relax. What are your other hobbies?
 

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Idk, I think as much as you say you're working on yourself, I think you lowkey wish to be in another relationship. You're still thinking about relationships a new love interest. Work on you and the right man will come over time.

I think you're doing a good thing but you should also be honest with yourself. Let things happen spontaneously. If you were truly over it, you wouldn't have this much anxiety about it. You're still young, it's not like your love life is over.
 

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How old are you?

And who broke it off? Why it end?

Unlike the fonts on here, I will give you an honest answer once I know the answer to the above questions.
 

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Idk, I think as much as you say you're working on yourself, I think you lowkey wish to be in another relationship. You're still thinking about relationships a new love interest. Work on you and the right man will come over time.

I think you're doing a good thing but you should also be honest with yourself. Let things happen spontaneously. If you were truly over it, you wouldn't have this much anxiety about it. You're still young, it's not like your love life is over.
I’m taking a break from dating right now and I have fun pampering myself. I learned a lot from previous experiences. Even though it hurt, I’m glad to be learning the lessons early on.

I just need to find an affordable therapist next.
 

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How old are you?

And who broke it off? Why it end?

Unlike the fonts on here, I will give you an honest answer once I know the answer to the above questions.
I’m 20. After a long period of time, he told me he didn’t want to lead me on before giving me mixed signals. I suspected he found some one else. That’s okay because I felt awkward with the age. I met him at 19 and he told me he was in his 20s which was a lie.

He took me out for my birthday and everything. It was shocking to know that I celebrated my 20th birthday with a now 31 year old man. He never took me seriously.
 

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You were posting pics of bloody cervical fluid a few days ago.

You were convinced you were pregnant a few weeks before that.

I don't know if you need to get back out there.
 

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everyfuckingtime i come in a romance alley thread im always bamboozled into it being one of dryplum's threads
 

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You were posting pics of bloody cervical fluid a few days ago.

You were convinced you were pregnant a few weeks before that.

I don't know if you need to get back out there.
she think she pregnant every week. im glad i missed that thread of her posting pics. thats fµck!ng disgustung :sidefrown
 

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You were posting pics of bloody cervical fluid a few days ago.

You were convinced you were pregnant a few weeks before that.

I don't know if you need to get back out there.

she think she pregnant every week. im glad i missed that thread of her posting pics. thats fµck!ng disgustung :sidefrown

Sis is pretty and young but weirdly obsessed with pregnancy and abortion. Even women actively trying for a baby don't have this many "I think I might be pregnant" moments.

I dont understand how her every interaction with men leads to pregnancy for sis.
 

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First of all you are only 20 and you are cute sis. You will find love again :wink7 Live your life and don't worry so much about it. Use this time to focus on self love and make changes that will help boost your self esteem and confidence. Take a vacation with your friends to get your mind off everything. Before you start dating again make sure you have reflected on your past decisions and all the red flags you missed so that you will not be fooled again in the future.
 

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OP, you are only 20. You have plenty of time to date and find a man. Enjoy your single years while you can.
 

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You were posting pics of bloody cervical fluid a few days ago.

You were convinced you were pregnant a few weeks before that.

I don't know if you need to get back out there.

I’m not dating right now. However, I’m enjoying my solitude. I plan to stay single for a few years because I want to focus on building a career and bettering myself.

I think I’ve had enough dating disasters for right now and I would rather wait and relocate. Some of the guys in my area are not worth it even the older ones. I just started dating two years ago, only been with three people and only one was a decent relationship.

I’m enjoying my time being single since I don’t have to worry about anyone hurting me.
 

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First of all you are only 20 and you are cute sis. You will find love again :wink7 Live your life and don't worry so much about it. Use this time to focus on self love and make changes that will help boost your self esteem and confidence. Take a vacation with your friends to get your mind off everything. Before you start dating again make sure you have reflected on your past decisions and all the red flags you missed so that you will not be fooled again in the future.
I’m actually hoping to eventually go to therapy this year and get my life together.
 

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Thank you! She needs to take a break. Everything is about dating/relationships with her. Relax. What are your other hobbies?
Its been like 2 weeks and she is already acting like she hasn't been with anyone in years. 'It'll be hard getting back out there!' headass. Next month we will hear about how she met a grocery store clerk that winked at her, so they had xes in his Toyota.
 

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Its been like 2 weeks and she is already acting like she hasn't been with anyone in years. 'It'll be hard getting back out there!' headass. Next month we will hear about how she met a grocery store clerk that winked at her, so they had xes in his Toyota.

Wouldn’t do that.
 

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I’m 20. After a long period of time, he told me he didn’t want to lead me on before giving me mixed signals. I suspected he found some one else. That’s okay because I felt awkward with the age. I met him at 19 and he told me he was in his 20s which was a lie.

He took me out for my birthday and everything. It was shocking to know that I celebrated my 20th birthday with a now 31 year old man. He never took me seriously.

Nothing wrong with taking your time.
 

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Its been like 2 weeks and she is already acting like she hasn't been with anyone in years. 'It'll be hard getting back out there!' headass. Next month we will hear about how she met a grocery store clerk that winked at her, so they had xes in his Toyota.

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I’m 20. After a long period of time, he told me he didn’t want to lead me on before giving me mixed signals. I suspected he found some one else. That’s okay because I felt awkward with the age. I met him at 19 and he told me he was in his 20s which was a lie.

He took me out for my birthday and everything. It was shocking to know that I celebrated my 20th birthday with a now 31 year old man. He never took me seriously.

Since you are younger, if you want to be taken care of by a man, I'd suggest aiming for the older man who has a good career and looking to settle down. As long as you are slim, pretty, and feminine, and not argumentative, you shouldn't have problems finding an older man with resources to take care of you.

Use your youth and beauty to your advantage, don't end up being a 30 yr old bitter woman. It is not too late.
 

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@LovingonMe1 I know I've said a lot to you but I honestly only want the best for you. You are young, enjoy your youth and don't be so focused on men. That's my advice from an old head.
 

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Its been like 2 weeks and she is already acting like she hasn't been with anyone in years. 'It'll be hard getting back out there!' headass. Next month we will hear about how she met a grocery store clerk that winked at her, so they had xes in his Toyota.
You made me LOL in a meeting. I forgot I wasn't on mute.:quiet7
 

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you seem more into convincing yourself that you’re fine being single but actually not doing the work to get there. it’s totally okay if you aren’t there yet; progress isn’t always linear, but knowing that you have things you want to change is the first step. Congratulations for that!
 

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