I had a weird encounter today and I don’t know if I’m overthinking it

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I don’t know if this white woman was just having a bad day or if she was racist but this was a little strange.

My college is doing curbside pick up for books. They want to minimize the amount of folks going in and out.

So I go to campus and go to the little tent.. a black man gets me name and waves me forward to the tent. So I go forward.

A white woman brings my bags out. She comes out all chipper and perky sounding and I notice that the bag looked a little odd.. so I look in the bag and I was only given 2 out of 4 of my books.

So, I said “excuse me I’m missing some items.. this is just a card but I was supposed to have an actual psychology book.” And then her mood just changed.. she went from happy to looking pissed and then said(with an attitude) “are you sure you didn’t order a digital book?” And I said “yes, ma’am I’m positive.. “ so I pull up the order form to show her. She didn’t seem to like that.

Then she sighed and asked me to give her my name and spell it. Y’all. My name is only 5 letters. It’s not hard to spell at all. So I said “My name is Greenche..” and I spelled it out for her.. she used the little walkie talkie and said “Recheck the order for Greenche.. G-R-I-E...” so I’m looking like wtf.. then I waited until she finished talking and I said “Oh, no.. it’s spelled like G-R-E” and then she cut me off and said “it’s close enough.”

So I’m like..
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Then she said “Well, they accidentally gave you the wrong book.. it’s not my fault the stores a mess.” Like.. okay.. I didn’t say it was.

Anyway and so I told her that I was also missing my English book and then did a heavy sigh and went back into the store.. so I look at my mom and I’m like “:unsure:”.. like what’s wrong with her.

Then she comes back and says “Look. I don’t know what happened. I don’t know what they’re doing. You did have an order for an English book but they just didn’t send it.. give me your cell number”.. then she shoved the paper into the car and I wrote my number on it.. they’re supposed to call when the book is ready but who knows how long that’ll be.

It’s been a while since I put my order in and they emailed me saying that everything was ready at 8:30 am.. it makes me want to go back in like a few hours.

Y’all. I was looking at her paper and tell me why my name and phone number was actually written on the paper. She had all my information.. so I don’t know why she acted like she couldn’t spell my name..

Anyway, she took the paper back and kind of snatched it and that’s when my mom finally gave her a look.

It’s like all the aggression disappeared from her body and she said “We will call when it’s ready.. let me go get a psychology book for you.” So she took the bag back and went to get the psychology book. Then she handed the bag to my mom instead of me.

It’s like she become a completely different person. She was alright at first but then she became snarky and finally decent again at the end.

My white friend said that went to pick up her books earlier and the same lady was there but she was nice to her and understanding.
 
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I don’t really understand what her problem was. I never came at her aggressively. I have a very soft and light voice.. I couldn’t sound aggressive if I tried. I was a little irritated because the total of those books was $600 but I wasn’t upset because it wasn’t her fault.
 
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I didn't get racist vibes from your story. It sounds like she took her anger about the store's mismanagement out on you.

Please don't @ me.
I figured that too but one of my friends insists that she’s racist(I doubted it) .. I wasn’t sure about the racist part but she was def being an ass.
 
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Sorry you had this experience. Your concerns are valid but it's hard to suspect anything if you were the only person of color or only black person who had this encounter. It is possible she was just fed up or annoyed by things by the time it was your turn at the tent (as "coincidental" that sounds, I know). You so far know 2 non-persons of color who had a pleasant/normal exchange with the woman. If you can observe other students and what their encounters are like, that can help validate your suspicions.
 
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Hmm, y'all are too nice to these white people.
I'm soft spoken too, until you try to take that kindness for weakness.
I would have spoke to the manager....
 
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If it involves a white, just assume it's racial. They work by being passive aggressive, and making you doubt yourself. You're there for YOUR COLLEGE books, while her ass is a glorified errand runner with a walkie talkie. Her issues with being a white in a diverse world and feeling insecure about it is her issue. Also, NEVER ask a white if something is racist. They will gaslight you.
 
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Sorry you had this experience. Your concerns are valid but it's hard to suspect anything if you were the only person of color or only black person who had this encounter. It is possible she was just fed up or annoyed by things by the time it was your turn at the tent (as "coincidental" that sounds, I know). You so far know 2 non-persons of color who had a pleasant/normal exchange with the woman. If you can observe other students and what their encounters are like, that can help validate your suspicions.
I think that she was just annoyed about the bookstore. I don’t have a way to observe her.. we are completely online and even then.. I don’t really have the desire. I just thought that the encounter was a bit strange. Even if she was mad I’ve never understood taking your anger out on strangers. I usually keep my bad days to myself.

It was probably just an odd coincidence.
 
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Don't make excuses for this racist white woman. You know exactly what it was and what it felt like. To hell w that lady and if you ever have to deal with her again; call her ass out and ask her what her problem is with you and her doing her damn job correctly.
 
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If it involves a white, just assume it's racial. They work by being passive aggressive, and making you doubt yourself. You're there for YOUR COLLEGE books, while her ass is a glorified errand runner with a walkie talkie. Her issues with being a white in a diverse world and feeling insecure about it is her issue. Also, NEVER ask a white if something is racist. They will gaslight you.
Yeah, you’d think I would’ve already recognized what was happening considering that I grew up mainly around whites.

This middle aged lady was just on a new level. I’ve never seen anyone just flip from being bubbly and sweet to just being aggressive. Usually they come out that gate being passive aggressive though.

Also, noted.. I didn’t mention the racist part to my white friend though. I just asked her if she also encountered that woman and if she was pleasant.

My black friend was the one who brought up the racism. Just to clear any misunderstandings.
 
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Yeah, you’d think I would’ve already recognized what was happening considering that I grew up mainly around whites.

This middle aged lady was just on a new level. I’ve never seen anyone just flip from being bubbly and sweet to just being aggressive. Usually they come out that gate being passive aggressive though.

Also, noted.. I didn’t mention the racist part to my white friend though. I just asked her if she also encountered that woman and if she was pleasant.

My black friend was the one who brought up the racism. Just to clear any misunderstandings.
Good that you have solid, "with the shits" black friends. If you're still bothered by it, or it happens again, don't be afraid to contact her superior. You are deserving of respect and to be treated just as anyone else. Your issue was innocuous, but her incompetent ass still couldn't deal. In regards to flipping personas, I've had whites and self-haters act this way with me. How I handle it depends on my mood. I may curse your ass out, I may ignore you. I may bitch to a higher up. At the end of the day, it's not about you, you just happened to be the person who triggered her, and SHE has to deal with that. It takes time, but you'll learn how to navigate white people depending on the situation. I keep them at arms length, unless they've proven that they are somehow "different". NEVER discuss race with white people. Save that for your cool black friends.
 

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