Bakhita
Free Spirit, INFJ
Why be with a man if you cannot trust him to be empathetic and treat you with respect despite your trauma? Like the whole point of a relationship is moot if you have to pretend everything in life was hunky dory for you in fear he will judge you or try to manipulate you. That sounds like a toxic, immature person who you shouldn't be with anyway. But vast majority men are toxic and immature which is why I have nothing to do with them outside of work and a few acquaintences.