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I now understand why people travel alone

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There are pros and cons to traveling alone. If traveling with a buddy or group, make sure everyone is on the same page as per budget, activities, pace etc.

Worst to happen is you spend money, time, PTO etc only to get to the destination and you get a negative Nancy.

Also, not all destinations are solo travel friendly. I'd imagine beach type vacations might be better as a group unless you plan on relaxing while out there.

I look at solo travel in the same way I look at exploring your city solo. It's just on a different continent.
 

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When you travel with someone, you have to make sure they’re in good shape or stamina. And I’m not even in top shape myself but look out for that. You do not want to travel with someone who cannot keep up and wants to rest all the time. I made the mistake of traveling with someone who could not keep up or see. The worst! It was times where we should have been in the mix but we had to take a breather. Don’t travel with people that’s going to hold you back and don’t match your ambition or are not as adventurous.
 
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My personal experience: I prefer to travel with one or two other people; I'm OK with solo-travel and I don't like/avoid group travel.

I totally understand women wanting to visit a place and no one wants/can go with them.
I've solo-traveled a lot - mostly in the USA but also a little outside of it, primarily in Western Europe. Now that I live outside of the USA, I travel primarily with my amazing travel buddy :sneaky: We share a ton of great memories together.

When traveling with others, it is paramount to vet who we go with. If we aren't meshing, OF COURSE we won't enjoy our visits. And that's such a shame.
 

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This is a discussion my friend and myself have been having on a daily basis. She likes to do meet up travel groups for large events and festivals. There's a lot of bs behind this and I can tell this is not for me. I booked a mini trip by myself for Martha's Vineyard and I'm going to enjoy myself. With covid still rampant I do not want to be around large groups of people.
 

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contemplating doing this now since someone bailed on me for my birthday trip...the ticket is booked and the PTO is approved soo....
 

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We basically went to the beach everyday since it was only 100 ft away. She didn't swim because she didn't want to get her weave wet so she just took a million photos for IG. I was so mad inside since this place has gorgeous waterfalls, rum factories and volcanoes and she didn't budget for her half of car rental and gas so we never explored the island. I did get lucky enough that on one beach day, I ended up floating into a coral reef and swimming with the turtles - they were so sweet and gentle.

It's hilarious because on the first day we arrive late and we had the choice between this French fast food place or a restaurant. She's talking about "I can't do fast food, I can only eat at a real restaurant." So we proceed to have 3 course meal with drinks. By the last day she literally got a 2-piece at their version of KFC. Another night we walked to a casino but it was awkward because she had no money and just watched me.

Then at the end, she's talking about "OMG I had so much fun on this trip, we need to schedule the next one!" That will never happen.

I now believe that you don't really know someone until you travel with them.


I know you were annoyed (rightfully so), but that must have been so embarassing for her, she probably internally felt awful because she knew she was in the wrong :(
 
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I wouldn't do it. I been on too many trips with a friend like this and I end up carrying her financially every. Damn. Time. On 2 trips heffa claimed she forgot or lost her wallet only to find it on the way home or the last day.

I had to drop her over how selfish she was.


Damn, did she ever pay you back?
 

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Wanted to say some things about hostels since it's being mentioned in here:

You can "age out" of them, both by their rules (many cap the age limit at around 25 or so) and the general vibe (hostels tend to be very "fun!" and "cool atmosphere!" in a way that's great when you're in your 20s and energetic and looking to party/drink/smoke all night, but very annoying when you're in your 30s and wanting to go to bed at 9:30pm to read)

You need to be prepared for a big "communal living" vibe (some hostels have private rooms, but most are dorm-type rooms with shared bathrooms and dining spaces), so if you like a lot of alone time, hostels probably are not for you

Also, because the rates are so cheap, hostels tend to be less-nicer areas (not saying dangerous), so as a female traveling alone, this might be a concern to look into

Not as much security as hotels (again as a female traveling alone, something to be concerned about)
 

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