FleurChild
unpopular opinion poster
What would it be?
when's the last time a bisexual woman approached you? just curious bc you make it seem like we're just throwing ourselves at yallI would change the heteronormative views about feminine and dominant women. There are really Black lesbians that still subscribe to thinking one woman has to be the "fem" and the other has to be the "stud". I am around mature Black lesbians, so we don't think like that, but I think the younger lesbians still subscribe to that thinking.
I agree with the font that said we need more lesbian spaces. It is indeed hard to connect with other lesbians besides using dating sites or meetup.
I would also change the stereotypical stud look and behavior. When I think of a stud, I think of a hood boi with a bunch of tattoos, uneducated, underemployed, and just losing (Young MA type). I think there should more visibility for more mature, educated, career oriented masculine women who dress well in fitted suits, and actually care about their appearance vs. women who wouldn't look nice feminine so they're just there looking a mess masculine. I haven't seen too many of the mature, respectable looking studs, but I know they are out there. I wish their image was the norm. Masculine women are not ugly nor are they losers, and I don't think it's fair that the stud label is attached to low income walking stereotypes.
Lastly, I would like the Black lesbian community to no longer be bullied into entertaining bisexual women. The term biphobic is thrown around waaay too much. Bisexual women should date other bisexuals, and leave the lesbian community alone, or simply date the lower end lesbians with low standards that don't want long term commitment. Respectfully.
It's common, more than you know.lolwhen's the last time a bisexual woman approached you? just curious bc you make it seem like we're just throwing ourselves at yall
when's the last time a bisexual woman approached you? just curious bc you make it seem like we're just throwing ourselves at yall
when's the last time a bisexual woman approached you? just curious bc you make it seem like we're just throwing ourselves at yall
It's that "they're into men and women, and we'll never be able to measure up to a man," way of thinking. It's not our faults they think that way, it's theirs. You can't fight some people's insecurities.
I can see from a mile away that they're intimidated by men and take that out on bisexual women. But that's a y'all problem. Not an our problem. So y'all gotta deal with that amongst yourselves. Even straight women when it comes to bisexual men are intimidated I believe, and I think this goes way into having deep and maybe subconscious insecurities about one's own xes and gender. Y'all don't think y'all can compete with the other gender/xes for mates, so you'd rather be with someone who would never give you that competition. This isn't an attack. It's blatant statement. The font above said bisexual women are for lesbians with low standards. Now that is an attack which not only attacks bisexual women, but also other lesbians and who they choose to date. But you ignored that with a quickness. So miss me with the rest.What you just did there is called gaslighting. Insecurities? Aht aht, we are going to unpack this right now.
Bisexual women, you cannot keep doing this. You cannot keep bullying lesbians into dating you. You must respect people's preferences. It is not a slight against you when a lesbian says she does not want to date bisexual women.
I understand that rejection may not feel nice, but you don't get to vilify a person who doesn't want to date you. That is not fair. Are you a bad person because you don't find a certain kind of man attractive?
Seriously y'all, please stop attacking lesbians. We really don't deserve to get hemmed up like this in our own thread.
Sighs, it always turns into a fight/hurt feelings whenever a lesbian says she's not interested in bisexuals. It never fails.
Respectfully, you should be answering OP's question. Then again, you're bi, so...... you wanna show yourself out or....
Getting back to OP's topic, I'd like to add/reiterate one more thing. I would like to change bisexual women's entitlement they feel they have towards lesbians. Lesbians can't friendzone bisexuals without them feeling a way. It's not fair at all to lesbians. We don't owe bisexual women anything. I wish they would understand that, and stop bullying and pressuring lesbians. It's not nice.
I would also like to add that I agree with the free therapy for lesbians. We need it. It is not easy navigating life not being xesually attracted to men. When you can't hold your girlfriend's hand in public, and have to come out over and over and over again, etc.
I asked a question because you really made it seem like bisexuals are starting whole movements to date lesbians. I've never met a lesbian who straight up avoids bi women so its kind of a new concept to me.What you just did there is called gaslighting. Insecurities? Aht aht, we are going to unpack this right now.
Bisexual women, you cannot keep doing this. You cannot keep bullying lesbians into dating you. You must respect people's preferences. It is not a slight against you when a lesbian says she does not want to date bisexual women.
I understand that rejection may not feel nice, but you don't get to vilify a person who doesn't want to date you. That is not fair. Are you a bad person because you don't find a certain kind of man attractive?
Seriously y'all, please stop attacking lesbians. We really don't deserve to get hemmed up like this in our own thread.
It reminds me of when black people ask white people to chill and stay in their lanes but white people still come barging right in. They don't get it.What you just did there is called gaslighting. Insecurities? Aht aht, we are going to unpack this right now.
Bisexual women, you cannot keep doing this. You cannot keep bullying lesbians into dating you. You must respect people's preferences. It is not a slight against you when a lesbian says she does not want to date bisexual women.
I understand that rejection may not feel nice, but you don't get to vilify a person who doesn't want to date you. That is not fair. Are you a bad person because you don't find a certain kind of man attractive?
Seriously y'all, please stop attacking lesbians. We really don't deserve to get hemmed up like this in our own thread.
This is new to me too, but it’s probably just because I’m new to the space. I’ve spoken to a lot of other bisexual women who have gotten the same feedback.I asked a question because you really made it seem like bisexuals are starting whole movements to date lesbians. I've never met a lesbian who straight up avoids bi women so its kind of a new concept to me.
Or maybe people don’t want to put their mouth where someone’s dirty has been. Let’s be honest many dudes aren’t that hygienic. Not to mention all those damn diseases male & female xes comes with. Oral herpes ain’t cuteIt's that "they're into men and women, and we'll never be able to measure up to a man," way of thinking. It's not our faults they think that way, it's theirs. You can't fight some people's insecurities.
It's that "they're into men and women, and we'll never be able to measure up to a man," way of thinking. It's not our faults they think that way, it's theirs. You can't fight some people's insecurities.
It's true, males are low-key disease carriers. They are usually asymptomatic.Or maybe people don’t want to put their mouth where someone’s dirty has been. Let’s be honest many dudes aren’t that hygienic. Not to mention all those damn diseases male & female xes comes with. Oral herpes ain’t cute
That is you assuming. How can you say why a lesbian doesn't want to date a bisexual woman? That's for lesbians to say, not you. As a lesbian, I can say for myself and other lesbians who know who they are, we aren't intimidated by men in the least. That has nothing to do with why we don't want to date bisexual women.I can see from a mile away that they're intimidated by men and take that out on bisexual women. But that's a y'all problem. Not an our problem. So y'all gotta deal with that amongst yourselves. Even straight women when it comes to bisexual men are intimidated I believe, and I think this goes way into having deep and maybe subconscious insecurities about one's own xes and gender. Y'all don't think y'all can compete with the other gender/xes for mates, so you'd rather be with someone who would never give you that competition. This isn't an attack. It's blatant statement. The font above said bisexual women are for lesbians with low standards. Now that is an attack which not only attacks bisexual women, but also other lesbians and who they choose to date. But you ignored that with a quickness. So miss me with the rest.
Nah, it's more about bisexual's entitlement to lesbian women. We are not putting up with it anymore. Bisexual women can be very aggressive and mean to lesbians and try to push us up against the wall to date them. Not cool.I asked a question because you really made it seem like bisexuals are starting whole movements to date lesbians. I've never met a lesbian who straight up avoids bi women so its kind of a new concept to me.
Right. They're half straight, and that hetero part of them which gives them privilege jumps out of them at times. Tryna dominate lesbian spaces. It's not nice.It reminds me of when black people ask white people to chill and stay in their lanes but white people still come barging right in. They don't get it.
I agree with everything you said. It's the privilege that makes them act this way. People get mad when they aren't someone's preference. If someone doesn't want to date you just move on. Why make a big scene about it. I don't get it.That is you assuming. How can you say why a lesbian doesn't want to date a bisexual woman? That's for lesbians to say, not you. As a lesbian, I can say for myself and other lesbians who know who they are, we aren't intimidated by men in the least. That has nothing to do with why we don't want to date bisexual women.
It actually boils down to xesual safety for me and others. Bisexual women bring diseases into the lesbian community. Men and women pass each other STD's like candy, and lesbians don't want that. 9 times out of 10, if a lesbian gets a disease, it's from a bisexual woman. That is a fact. It's a xesual risk to date y'all. Period. Respectfully.
Nah, it's more about bisexual's entitlement to lesbian women. We are not putting up with it anymore. Bisexual women can be very aggressive and mean to lesbians and try to push us up against the wall to date them. Not cool.
Right. They're half straight, and that hetero part of them which gives them privilege jumps out of them at times. Tryna dominate lesbian spaces. It's not nice.
That is you assuming. How can you say why a lesbian doesn't want to date a bisexual woman? That's for lesbians to say, not you. As a lesbian, I can say for myself and other lesbians who know who they are, we aren't intimidated by men in the least. That has nothing to do with why we don't want to date bisexual women.
It actually boils down to xesual safety for me and others. Bisexual women bring diseases into the lesbian community. Men and women pass each other STD's like candy, and lesbians don't want that. 9 times out of 10, if a lesbian gets a disease, it's from a bisexual woman. That is a fact. It's a xesual risk to date y'all. Period. Respectfully.
Nah, it's more about bisexual's entitlement to lesbian women. We are not putting up with it anymore. Bisexual women can be very aggressive and mean to lesbians and try to push us up against the wall to date them. Not cool.
Right. They're half straight, and that hetero part of them which gives them privilege jumps out of them at times. Tryna dominate lesbian spaces. It's not nice.
Right. They act like WM. Look at @Surreal calling me insecure because I don't want to date bisexual women. Smh @ that. She really doesn't think she's out of pocket for that. The nerve! LOL! Gurl! Gag!I agree with everything you said. It's the privilege that makes them act this way. People get mad when they aren't someone's preference. If someone doesn't want to date you just move on. Why make a big scene about it. I don't get it.
Exactly, like she could just see her way out but NO she stays to throw more insults. No one is insecure about men lol. She is delusional. Bi girls should just date other bi girls.Right. They act like WM. Look at @Surreal calling me insecure because I don't want to date bisexual women. Smh @ that. She really doesn't think she's out of pocket for that. The nerve! LOL! Gurl! Gag!
Yup. It's the bisexual women feeling comfortable in this lesbian thread for me.Exactly, like she could just see her way out but NO she stays to throw more insults. No one is insecure about men lol. She is delusional. Bi girls should just date other bi girls.
Agreed, every time someone asks them why they all just don't date each other they never have an answer either. It's funny.Yup. It's the bisexual women feeling comfortable in this lesbian thread for me.
Right. They act like WM. Look at @Surreal calling me insecure because I don't want to date bisexual women. Smh @ that. She really doesn't think she's out of pocket for that. The nerve! LOL! Gurl! Gag!
I can see from a mile away that they're intimidated by men and take that out on bisexual women. But that's a y'all problem. Not an our problem. So y'all gotta deal with that amongst yourselves. Even straight women when it comes to bisexual men are intimidated I believe, and I think this goes way into having deep and maybe subconscious insecurities about one's own xes and gender. Y'all don't think y'all can compete with the other gender/xes for mates, so you'd rather be with someone who would never give you that competition. This isn't an attack. It's blatant statement. The font above said bisexual women are for lesbians with low standards. Now that is an attack which not only attacks bisexual women, but also other lesbians and who they choose to date. But you ignored that with a quickness. So miss me with the rest.
Yeah, no. This:
"Lastly, I would like the Black lesbian community to no longer be bullied into entertaining bisexual women. The term biphobic is thrown around waaay too much. Bisexual women should date other bisexuals, and leave the lesbian community alone, or simply date the lower end lesbians with low standards that don't want long term commitment. Respectfully."
Seems a lot more like, "My fellow lesbians, stop dating bisexual women. If you do, you have low standards, you're low tier, and don't like commitment. Bye."
How is that not pressuring other lesbians? How is that not attacking other lesbians? How is that not attacking bisexual women? She's basically pressuring other lesbians about who they should date and why. So why wasn't this called out by you who is all for, "don't attack people for their preferences." ??? Seems very one sided here. Just saying.
It's very disingenuous of yourself to come in with the, "stop attacking lesbians, you bisexuals!" When we are the ones who just called out a lesbian who just attacked other lesbians and bisexual women in one post. But okay. All she had to do was say, "I don't date bisexual women," and I doubt anybody would care about who she dates. However, with her wording, she made it less about her own individual choices and made it about what others should be doing just cause she does it. Granted this thread is about what you would change in the community, but she was insulting nonetheless. I'm not personally offended, but I made a statement on why she likely has these feelings.
Or maybe people don’t want to put their mouth where someone’s dirty has been. Let’s be honest many dudes aren’t that hygienic. Not to mention all those damn diseases male & female xes comes with. Oral herpes ain’t cute
That is you assuming. How can you say why a lesbian doesn't want to date a bisexual woman? That's for lesbians to say, not you. As a lesbian, I can say for myself and other lesbians who know who they are, we aren't intimidated by men in the least. That has nothing to do with why we don't want to date bisexual women.
It actually boils down to xesual safety for me and others. Bisexual women bring diseases into the lesbian community. Men and women pass each other STD's like candy, and lesbians don't want that. 9 times out of 10, if a lesbian gets a disease, it's from a bisexual woman. That is a fact. It's a xesual risk to date y'all. Period. Respectfully.
Nah, it's more about bisexual's entitlement to lesbian women. We are not putting up with it anymore. Bisexual women can be very aggressive and mean to lesbians and try to push us up against the wall to date them. Not cool.
Right. They're half straight, and that hetero part of them which gives them privilege jumps out of them at times. Tryna dominate lesbian spaces. It's not nice.
Did I say I want to date lesbians? I don't have hang ups about other people's xesual orientations. I didn't even reply to that font cause I don't care enough about who she dates. I quoted another bisexual font and was talking to her. So y'all can move along. The ones who were obvious hit dogs hollering got in their feelings. They are the ones that quoted me.Then why do you want to date lesbians? If it's only the insecure ones that reject yall why do you care? lol Wouldnt that be good for you?
THEN WHY ARE YOU HERE??? EL OH EL!!!Did I say I want to date lesbians? I don't have hang ups about other people's xesual orientations. I didn't even reply to that font cause I don't care enough about who she dates. I quoted another bisexual font and was talking to her. So y'all can move along. The ones who were obvious hit dogs hollering got in their feelings. They are the ones that quoted me.
THEN WHY ARE YOU HERE??? EL OH EL!!!
Peep the homophobia and male-identified talking points with the "lesbians are just intimidated of men/scared of dick and need to get over it" stereotype.
A thread about lesbians that you willingly walked into when you supposedly aren't attracted to lesbians. You weren't attacked. You made a comment people responded with their reasoning and you continued to engage when there is no need to. No one has a gun to your head lol You're a weird one. You're not gonna change anyone's mind so idk what your point here is lolI'm the homophobic one? I didn't say a bad thing about lesbians, but bisexual women have been told we're bullies, have diseases, are for people with low standards, are entitled, aggressive, and we were attacked in this thread by the 2nd post. You couldn't even go three posts without bringing up bisexual women. So, ask that font, why did they feel the need to attack bisexual women? They also attacked lesbian women too for dating bisexual women. But y'all ignored that.
A thread about lesbians that you willingly walked into when you supposedly aren't attracted to lesbians. You weren't attacked. You made a comment people responded with their reasoning and you continued to engage when there is no need to. No one has a gun to your head lol You're a weird one. You're not gonna change anyone's mind so idk what your point here is lol