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Hi all, I just wanted to share my thoughts about how some standards for being feminine are extremely shallow and how they entwine with patriarchy in a toxic way.
( this isn’t a conversation on trans people, so pls don’t derail because im talking about bio women)
I personally feel like a lot of fonts ( and people IRL in general) conflate being feminine with body parts, how you look and just over all what a female body could potentially do ( bear a child, have a period etc.) I also feel like this shouldn’t be the way a woman measures her own femininity as well.
I was diagnosed with PCOS after having long bouts of having a constant period to having no period at all, and let me tell y’all; it sent me through a loop to what it meant to be feminine in general.
After looking at those lab results, it honestly made me uncomfortable knowing that my testosterone rates were higher than the “average” woman. Now, I understand men and women both have different levels of testosterone. However because of what I read and what I was told about masculinity, is that testosterone is the end all be all and if you’re a woman with that ( like female body builders) much testosterone, you’re basically manly af.
Not to mention the potential of not being able to conceive as a result of having ovaries that are riddled with cysts as well ( I cried for a good min about this specifically, I’m not going to lie). I have other close friends that also have hormonal imbalances and feel like they aren’t feminine or woman enough in general because of that.
I feel like all these guidelines that dictate on how women should be femme or feminine are solely based on how men see us and how they think we should look and act as women. What about women who lose their breasts because of cancer , or have to take out their uterus as a result of health complications? What about women who are just hairy af and don’t have the “standard” body type that is sought after? Are they not women either because of not having those traits that are deemed as feminine in that sense? I guess it also has to do with how an individual person defines feminine; however I’m tired of all these rules that go into how to be feminine, ESPECIALLY the shallow ones.
(I’m talking about those bogus ass YouTube videos that talk about how black women should be feminine too)
( this isn’t a conversation on trans people, so pls don’t derail because im talking about bio women)
I personally feel like a lot of fonts ( and people IRL in general) conflate being feminine with body parts, how you look and just over all what a female body could potentially do ( bear a child, have a period etc.) I also feel like this shouldn’t be the way a woman measures her own femininity as well.
I was diagnosed with PCOS after having long bouts of having a constant period to having no period at all, and let me tell y’all; it sent me through a loop to what it meant to be feminine in general.
After looking at those lab results, it honestly made me uncomfortable knowing that my testosterone rates were higher than the “average” woman. Now, I understand men and women both have different levels of testosterone. However because of what I read and what I was told about masculinity, is that testosterone is the end all be all and if you’re a woman with that ( like female body builders) much testosterone, you’re basically manly af.
Not to mention the potential of not being able to conceive as a result of having ovaries that are riddled with cysts as well ( I cried for a good min about this specifically, I’m not going to lie). I have other close friends that also have hormonal imbalances and feel like they aren’t feminine or woman enough in general because of that.
I feel like all these guidelines that dictate on how women should be femme or feminine are solely based on how men see us and how they think we should look and act as women. What about women who lose their breasts because of cancer , or have to take out their uterus as a result of health complications? What about women who are just hairy af and don’t have the “standard” body type that is sought after? Are they not women either because of not having those traits that are deemed as feminine in that sense? I guess it also has to do with how an individual person defines feminine; however I’m tired of all these rules that go into how to be feminine, ESPECIALLY the shallow ones.
(I’m talking about those bogus ass YouTube videos that talk about how black women should be feminine too)