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Sometimes you have to take a step back from a situation in order to see it for what it truly is.
 

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1. Stay away from negative, woe-is-me, black-woman centric media, tiktoks, youtube channels, etc. If you're surrounded by the perpetually unhappy and unlucky, that's what you're going to attract towards yourself. That includes parts of this site too.
2. Start getting into a mental health self-care routine as young as possible. Your issues from the past aren't going to just go away by themselves with age. Meditate, journal, start talking to a therapist, do anything to heal your wounds from the past. It is not pathetic to have psychological issues stemming from things that happened to you as a child or teen. The things that happened to you in middle and high school do have an impact on your psyche (they are called your "formative years" for a reason). However, you do need to talk through and resolve these issues.
3. It is okay, normal, and necessary to make reasonable mistakes while dating.
4. Date multiple men.
5. Travel and live abroad at least for a bit if at all possible.
6. Dating should be fun. If it isn't fun, the person isn't for you.
7. You are not fooling or "scamming" those older men. They have been dating, sleeping with, manipulating, etc. women since before you were born.
8. Make friends with some older women who are living a life you would like to have. I mean like 60+. They can give you invaluable, real grown woman advice on life and love.
9. It is obvious when a man likes you. If you are questioning whether he does or not, he doesn't.


Yes, the mental health care and maintenance is key!!!
 

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9. If you live alone, get a gun. No, a dog will not stop a predator nor will keeping a bat, etc in your room. Go to a range and learn until you are comfortable. Do not get a damned .22. Get something that will give that work when you start busting. Get a home security system.

Oh sh!t :emoji_grimacing:
I need to upgrade lmao
 

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Great thread everything said so far is on point.
I’ll add:
Don’t tell men about ur previous partners whether it was the best or worst relationship u had they don’t need to know.

Take note of when a man makes promises to you and breaks them.Don’t make a fuss or remind them.If it happens more than once leave.

Ghost men when u see their true colours.Dont get mad or explain to them why u end things.Dont demand apologies or cry.Just leave and disappear.

Never let a man see you upset.As women our emotions can get the best of us sometimes.I’ve only been upset by a man once in my life and he had no clue.I was crying in my by bed but to him I had disappeared and gone no contact.
 

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A lot of good points already. I'll add:

- If he tells you he never wants anyone else to have you, leave. That situation will not end well.

- Men can separate xes from emotions. A man can sleep with you without liking or even being attracted to you. Keep that in mind if you catch feelings for a fwb and want to make him your boyfriend. You may get your feelings hurt.

- Always have cash on you. I don't care if you're flown out to an all expenses paid vacation. Things can go left and you need to be able to get yourself home.

- Finally, never ever befriend a woman that revels in the pain of other women. You'll eventually get the same treatment.
I’m dealing with the first bullet and even wanted to make a thread. I’m in danger! I don’t know what to do...... anytime I try to date it doesn’t ends well and he says “I know what you’re doing”
I feel like my phone was hacked. Idk what to do.......
 
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See the thing is....there's a clear difference in maturity between a 30 year old woman and a 21 year old girl. Like they think they know everything which is what old men manipulate. I can def see the daddy issues present as well
What about four to five years difference. Like 25-30
I think that’s bad too
The guy is ready to settle but the girl isn’t and then it goes left
 

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4. Avoid men with baby mommas...unless she's dead or remarried..so serious. Men like to say women are damaged by 30, well men are damaged when they have baby mommas.
ugh, I just met this guy & I really like him. I asked him the other day if he had any kids and he said 4.. I am butt hurt. I didn't even wanna ask how many bm's smh
 

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ugh, I just met this guy & I really like him. I asked him the other day if he had any kids and he said 4.. I am butt hurt. I didn't even wanna ask how many bm's smh
You aint that bored sis. Even if it's 1BM, that's a whole ass family & you will be his 6th priority (at minimum). Get your heart out the game. Keep him around for fun if you must but remind yourself what can he add to your life besides fuzzy feelings?
 

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Always always always keep some FU money to leave a man or a job at any given time. Like 3-6 months of expenses or startup costs for relocation. Trust me. It will do wonders for your mental health and financial health is a byproduct.
 

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Please for the love of yourself...

Do NOT STAY at a job longer than 5 years,even if it is easy and you love it.

A WORD.

It's been proven people who change jobs frequently make more money, probably because they know their worth and refuse to settle. I've seen way too many people, women especially, who stay for long periods of time and always get played in the end, example: one woman I know stayed at a job for 10+ years in the same position, never promoted after damn near begging. Finally, she quit. Another woman I know was at a job for 21+ years and she was laid off like nothing. Just like the dating game, you ALWAYS have options and something better is right around the corner. Also want to add that 9 times out of 10, being fired is a huge blessing in disguise.

I would like to add some more to the thread, my apologies if already mentioned.

1. Protect your mental health at all costs. I mean it!! If someone or something in your life is toxic, CUT IT OUT! This applies to everything including family.

2. It's okay to be a b!tch. Yes, read that again and say it in the mirror. I don't say this as it's okay to be mean to people. What I'm saying is, it's okay to be perceived as a b!tch by other people. Women have said to me that they thought I was a b!tch initially. Now, they never went into detail why exactly (I know why), but it usually boils down to a few things; A) Straight up jealousy. It can be due to your looks, the way you carry yourself, clothes, the attention you get from the opposite xes, etc.. B) Boundaries were set from initial interactions and they can't handle it. C) Didn't engage in gossip & drama, therefore didn't reveal anything about myself that can be used against me later. The b!tch inside you will always protect your best interest and see through bullsh*t, find her & let her out daily!

3. Practice self-reflection and self-awareness as much as possible. This along with therapy will be the best for your emotional growth and healing. Remember that working on yourself improves every type of relationship and thus betters your life.

4. Don't be afraid to play or work in spaces that are male dominated. Show them that you can and WILL be better than them. A ton of men at the weight rack? Who cares, lift with them. Started a new job with a male dominated team? Do not be intimidated. Trust me when I say they are already shook and will look for ways to bring you down to make sure you don't outshine them. Ignore the riffraff and be strategic.

Great thread and a lot of valuable information in here. Bravo ladies!
 

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If you want to get involved in the xes trade as a Black woman, be fµck!ng sure of one thing: You will NOT receive the grace that White women get and even they struggle. Hard. Do your dirt off the grid. It is entirely possible to escort in silence.

No OnlyFans or screaming on Twitter in every other post about being a ho. If you wince at that term, prostitution is not for you. People have changed the language to make themselves more comfortable with it and fool young Black women into thinking it's not a serious thing to do. But that's what you will be and how you will be regarded in the real offline world. It will impact you from employment to relationships.

Don't buy into White woman pro ho liberal feminism or Black womanism claiming prostitution is empowering. Understand not one woman preaching either ever actually engages in prostitution. But they like encouraging other women to do so. Think very hard about going into it and don't go by what you see on social media. I can guarantee your fave OF chick or ho is being pimped. Be aware pimping has also evolved. A man who builds your site, shoots content, helps arrange appointments, offers to be your security, etc is a fµck!ng pimp. Do NOT believe these chicks talking about "I'm a xes worker and I have a man! Y'all mad?" No, they have a pimp who has enough game to make them think it's a real relationship. 99% of men will not deal with a known ho or pδrn star. It's always pimps or cuckolds who get off on her being degraded
Quoting bc this is fabulous advice. It’s uncomfortable to watch young girls being coaxed into xes work and the onlyfans game without realizing that sh!t will follow them through life. xes work can make or BREAK you socially, romantically, mentally, professionally. If you’re going to do sw be strategic af and cautious, don’t be reckless out here thinking you’re about to make quick bucks with no potential consequences. A lot of the young girls who join sw end up failing, being taken advantage of or worse. Stop glamorizing it and get real!

great thread!!
 

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Smell the seatbelt. It will tell you if a woman or man has been sitting there.

My ex went to dinner with "his boys", but one of them was wearing Viva La Juicy. That sh!t smells horribly. He sprayed cologne in the car, but forgot about the seatbelt.

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